I Am Lost! - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

Shaun777 · 11-30-2004, 03:56 PM

I haven't the slightest idea of who I have become, I only know that I am tired of hurting people and want God to forgive me. Don't want to run anymore and want the world to know how sorry I am for the things I have done. I can NOT live like this any more. Just don't know where to start.

**51anna** · 11-30-2004, 04:26 PM

Hi Shaun,

Welcome! You've come to a great place for support. You can regain control of your life. This is a good place to start. What can we do for you?

Anna

bikewench · 11-30-2004, 04:29 PM

Shaun...

Quote:

Just don't know where to start.

You've already started...

Realizing that your hurting people is a big wake up...
And God always forgives us if we ask with a sincere heart and soul.
I hope you come back and tell us more about yourself and your pain.

A warm welcome to Sober Recovery.

Richie · 11-30-2004, 05:01 PM

Hi Shaun,
I have felt the same way!But thank God,He gave me the strength to find my way home.He's always there for you,Shaun.No matter what you do or say He is waiting right there with you!
This is a good place to tell you troubles,find help,and get some healing.Don't give up.The hardest thing I ever did was forgive myself!Don't let the guilt overpower you.You can overcome whatever you are fighting and God will forgive whatever you have done.I will be praying for you!
God bless you,Shaun.

ismchanger · 11-30-2004, 05:07 PM

The best place to find some direction is AT A MEETING! GO! Now! Do not wait for even one more hour! Use the links at the bottom of this page to hook up with one or more of the groups that can help -- whether it be AA, NA, Gamblers Anonymous, or whatever.

Meetings will seem strange at first, but if you open yourself up to some of the wisdom that our experiences (both good and bad) have taught us you will find understanding and hope in the meetings. It is important to LISTEN and TAKE ADVICE without getting upset. I didn't much like listening to advice, until my attempts at sobriety fell apart in a matter of months. Once I finally listened and found a sponsor to help me make sense of my confused thinking I started to come out of the giant, dark hole I was living in.

The Big Book helped me to understand more about how my thought patterns were messing me up, too.

GO! NOW! Find a meeting!

mikee · 11-30-2004, 05:07 PM

Hello Shaun and welcome! As above, you have already taken the first step!

Don't dwell on negative events that has happen in the past,
focus your thinking towards a fresh new beginning!
TC mikee

ismchanger · 11-30-2004, 05:20 PM

P.S.,

I should also mention that any good and decent church pastor can help you establish a better relationship with God. Don't fall into the "feel good" trap; God prefers us to want to do the right things in life, but sometimes doing the right thing is very hard to swallow. So if anyone tells you that spiritual matters are about "doing what feels right" you should turn away from that. Also don't feel like God is condemning you, no matter what anyone says, because God just wants a better relationship with you and He is a gentleman...He will never force you to do anything, and He knows your limitations.

God will accept you just the way you are, but He DOES want you to do your best in life. None of us is anywhere close to God's glorious perfection, but I believe that AA hits it on the head; "we claim spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection".

Just try to pray throughout your day, even for 5 minutes at a time. Ask God to give you wisdom and strength so you can become the person God wants you to be. Ask Him for patience and help in trusting Him to guide you. He will take care of you, but the old adage is true; "God helps those who help themselves".

Check the Christians in Recovery section of this website if you are interested!

HopeandNewStart · 11-30-2004, 06:37 PM

Welcome, Shaun. I'm new here too. Hopefully, we can make it!

markd451 · 11-30-2004, 07:00 PM

Great advice here, Shaun - once you have put in a little time, you will realize that, as important as regrets are, trying to stop the old bad behaviors is the next step, and it can be difficult at times - it can bedifficult to do for an hour at a time for some people. You will need HELP for this, and going to meetings, getting phone #'s from like minded people you can call will help you get though. I wish you the very best!

Love,

Mark

1Marty · 11-30-2004, 07:17 PM

Hi Shaun, Post back and let us know how its going. I believe God will forgive you. He wants his lost children found.

catnip · 11-30-2004, 11:10 PM

Welcome, Shaun!

You’ve made a good start already. God knows what’s in your heart, and He will forgive you.

I would also like to suggest going to a meeting. The program really does work! Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers, best wishes, and... keep coming back!

ARIES · 12-01-2004, 01:31 AM

Hello shaunn..Welcome on SR...You know who is lost? People who hurt people without even thinkin bout it..People who think everything is o.k while everything is a mess..No shaunn you are doin' great..At least you know there's a problem and just becos you wrote bout it you are working on it ...That's great..When I first went to work on my alcoholproblem 5 years ago I had a whole list of people I hurted too...It takes a while..But if you really work on your problem the people around you will see it and be sure if they love you they will forgive you..Even after so many years (I had some drinks in between but not really in a bar)I'm not allowed in some bars but I don't care...They don't love me they...they don't know me..And they don't have a lot of brains...Some people think people can't change they think once a thief always a thief...But I know.. and you too can read it in a lot of posts here on SR that that ain't true...People CAN change!!!I wish you a lot of strenght...Love from Stefanie

11-30-2004, 03:56 PM	#1 (permalink)
Shaun777 Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Palm Beach Gardens, Florida Posts: 1	I Am Lost! I haven't the slightest idea of who I have become, I only know that I am tired of hurting people and want God to forgive me. Don't want to run anymore and want the world to know how sorry I am for the things I have done. I can NOT live like this any more. Just don't know where to start.

11-30-2004, 04:26 PM	#2 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 10,569	Hi Shaun, Welcome! You've come to a great place for support. You can regain control of your life. This is a good place to start. What can we do for you? Anna
	__________________ Anna "I don't know what the future is holding in store I don't know where Im going, Im not sure where Ive been Theres a spirit that guides me, a light that shines for me My life is worth the living, I don't need to see the end." John Denver

11-30-2004, 05:01 PM	#4 (permalink)
Richie Don't Panic Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Chesapeake,VA Posts: 880	Hi Shaun, I have felt the same way!But thank God,He gave me the strength to find my way home.He's always there for you,Shaun.No matter what you do or say He is waiting right there with you! This is a good place to tell you troubles,find help,and get some healing.Don't give up.The hardest thing I ever did was forgive myself!Don't let the guilt overpower you.You can overcome whatever you are fighting and God will forgive whatever you have done.I will be praying for you! God bless you,Shaun.
	__________________ It's the 21st century,so where's my rocket pack?

11-30-2004, 05:07 PM	#5 (permalink)
ismchanger Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Santa Barbara, CA Posts: 26	Congratulations on regaining some sanity The best place to find some direction is AT A MEETING! GO! Now! Do not wait for even one more hour! Use the links at the bottom of this page to hook up with one or more of the groups that can help -- whether it be AA, NA, Gamblers Anonymous, or whatever. Meetings will seem strange at first, but if you open yourself up to some of the wisdom that our experiences (both good and bad) have taught us you will find understanding and hope in the meetings. It is important to LISTEN and TAKE ADVICE without getting upset. I didn't much like listening to advice, until my attempts at sobriety fell apart in a matter of months. Once I finally listened and found a sponsor to help me make sense of my confused thinking I started to come out of the giant, dark hole I was living in. The Big Book helped me to understand more about how my thought patterns were messing me up, too. GO! NOW! Find a meeting!

11-30-2004, 07:17 PM	#10 (permalink)
1Marty Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: God's Grace Posts: 689	Hi Shaun, Post back and let us know how its going. I believe God will forgive you. He wants his lost children found.
	__________________ Marty

11-30-2004, 05:07 PM	#6 (permalink)
mikee new life Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: cypress tx Posts: 243	Hello Shaun and welcome! As above, you have already taken the first step! Don't dwell on negative events that has happen in the past, focus your thinking towards a fresh new beginning! TC mikee

11-30-2004, 05:20 PM	#7 (permalink)
ismchanger Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Santa Barbara, CA Posts: 26	P.S., I should also mention that any good and decent church pastor can help you establish a better relationship with God. Don't fall into the "feel good" trap; God prefers us to want to do the right things in life, but sometimes doing the right thing is very hard to swallow. So if anyone tells you that spiritual matters are about "doing what feels right" you should turn away from that. Also don't feel like God is condemning you, no matter what anyone says, because God just wants a better relationship with you and He is a gentleman...He will never force you to do anything, and He knows your limitations. God will accept you just the way you are, but He DOES want you to do your best in life. None of us is anywhere close to God's glorious perfection, but I believe that AA hits it on the head; "we claim spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection". Just try to pray throughout your day, even for 5 minutes at a time. Ask God to give you wisdom and strength so you can become the person God wants you to be. Ask Him for patience and help in trusting Him to guide you. He will take care of you, but the old adage is true; "God helps those who help themselves". Check the Christians in Recovery section of this website if you are interested!

11-30-2004, 06:37 PM	#8 (permalink)
HopeandNewStart Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: dublin, ireland Posts: 9	Welcome, Shaun. I'm new here too. Hopefully, we can make it!

11-30-2004, 07:00 PM	#9 (permalink)
markd451 Mark in Boston Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Boston, MA Posts: 15	Great advice here, Shaun - once you have put in a little time, you will realize that, as important as regrets are, trying to stop the old bad behaviors is the next step, and it can be difficult at times - it can bedifficult to do for an hour at a time for some people. You will need HELP for this, and going to meetings, getting phone #'s from like minded people you can call will help you get though. I wish you the very best! Love, Mark

11-30-2004, 11:10 PM	#11 (permalink)
catnip Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Utah Posts: 3	Welcome, Shaun! You’ve made a good start already. God knows what’s in your heart, and He will forgive you. I would also like to suggest going to a meeting. The program really does work! Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers, best wishes, and... keep coming back!

12-01-2004, 01:31 AM	#12 (permalink)
ARIES I choose to live Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Antwerp (Belgium) Posts: 386	Hello shaunn..Welcome on SR...You know who is lost? People who hurt people without even thinkin bout it..People who think everything is o.k while everything is a mess..No shaunn you are doin' great..At least you know there's a problem and just becos you wrote bout it you are working on it ...That's great..When I first went to work on my alcoholproblem 5 years ago I had a whole list of people I hurted too...It takes a while..But if you really work on your problem the people around you will see it and be sure if they love you they will forgive you..Even after so many years (I had some drinks in between but not really in a bar)I'm not allowed in some bars but I don't care...They don't love me they...they don't know me..And they don't have a lot of brains...Some people think people can't change they think once a thief always a thief...But I know.. and you too can read it in a lot of posts here on SR that that ain't true...People CAN change!!!I wish you a lot of strenght...Love from Stefanie
	__________________ There was New York Jake,the butcher boy who was always getting tight And every time that he'd get full he was spoiling for a fight But Jake rampaged against a knife in the hands of old Bob Stein And over Jake they held a wake in the days of '49 (Bob Dylan days of '49)

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