Drinking again
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Originally Posted by SoberLeigh 
It's quite obvious that you are a very good Dad, Stewy.
We, here, all know, however, what happens when we go deeper into our alcoholism. Priorities drop away; alcoholism becomes our # 1.
Be good to yourself; achieve full sobriety and recovery.
Being good to yourself is a big part of being a great Dad for your daughter.
We are all solidly in your corner, Stewy.
We, here, all know, however, what happens when we go deeper into our alcoholism. Priorities drop away; alcoholism becomes our # 1.
Be good to yourself; achieve full sobriety and recovery.
Being good to yourself is a big part of being a great Dad for your daughter.
We are all solidly in your corner, Stewy.
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Stewie - if you go back through threads you'll find that you mentioned quite a lot how unhappy you were in the relationship...none of us made that up.
but I'm not even going to bang on about that anymore....if you want to win her back, you need to be sober.
If you want to keep your job you need to be sober.
If you want to be an awesome dad to your awesome kid you need to be sober.
If you want to be the man you want to be...yep...
you need to be sober.
I'd been drunk for so long I'd forgotten who the real me was, Rediscovering that guy was one of the treasures of recovery for me.
I dunno about you - I'm a nice guy too...but drinking led me to make a lot of mistakes and sometimes I, even if inadvertently, hurt the ones I loved.
The way to 100% make sure that never happens, is to stay sober
There a lot of energy going into perpetuating your drinking right now.
You need to put as much energy into not drinking, man.
D
but I'm not even going to bang on about that anymore....if you want to win her back, you need to be sober.
If you want to keep your job you need to be sober.
If you want to be an awesome dad to your awesome kid you need to be sober.
If you want to be the man you want to be...yep...
you need to be sober.
I'd been drunk for so long I'd forgotten who the real me was, Rediscovering that guy was one of the treasures of recovery for me.
I dunno about you - I'm a nice guy too...but drinking led me to make a lot of mistakes and sometimes I, even if inadvertently, hurt the ones I loved.
The way to 100% make sure that never happens, is to stay sober
There a lot of energy going into perpetuating your drinking right now.
You need to put as much energy into not drinking, man.
D
Originally Posted by Stewy84
I'm really lost, everyone has condemned my relationship so I can't even begin to try sort that out
I'm labelled as someone who doesn't listen
I post when I'm drunk as opposed to before
Now my daughter is in the mix even though I have given my all to succeeding in this area
Sorry everyone I'm just annoyed
And drunk again, it's ridiculous, if only I could just be that brilliant person I want to aspire to be and everything would be great
I'm labelled as someone who doesn't listen
I post when I'm drunk as opposed to before
Now my daughter is in the mix even though I have given my all to succeeding in this area
Sorry everyone I'm just annoyed
And drunk again, it's ridiculous, if only I could just be that brilliant person I want to aspire to be and everything would be great
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Stewy, like Dee said, it's simple really. Stay sober. As tough as that is, it is very simple.
When you are drinking, your addiction is calling all of the shots, your addiction is controlling your every move and defining who you are. Your addiction is winning the fight and you are loosing your life to your addiction.
Stop drinking and all of that changes. You will be in control, you will define who you are, you will be in charge of your every move and you will get your life back.
I drank every day for over 20 years, i know what it is like to not know who you are. It wasn't until i finally gave in and admitted that as long as I was drinking my addiction would define my life.
Stop drinking and you are in control. You deserve it and control is within your grasp. Dig deep and make it happen Stewy.
When you are drinking, your addiction is calling all of the shots, your addiction is controlling your every move and defining who you are. Your addiction is winning the fight and you are loosing your life to your addiction.
Stop drinking and all of that changes. You will be in control, you will define who you are, you will be in charge of your every move and you will get your life back.
I drank every day for over 20 years, i know what it is like to not know who you are. It wasn't until i finally gave in and admitted that as long as I was drinking my addiction would define my life.
Stop drinking and you are in control. You deserve it and control is within your grasp. Dig deep and make it happen Stewy.
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I hope you're having a sober day today.
When I was drinking, I was able to rationalise that I was a good parent. But deep down, I knew I wasn't being as good a parent as I could be if I didn't drink. Kids know, even if they don't say anything. What finally snapped me out of my selfish choices was the realisation that by drinking or being hungover or marking time until I could drink 'in peace' (ie when the kids weren't around), I was NEVER truly present with my kids. I was robbing them of time and love and modelling ****** coping mechanisms.
When I was drinking, I was able to rationalise that I was a good parent. But deep down, I knew I wasn't being as good a parent as I could be if I didn't drink. Kids know, even if they don't say anything. What finally snapped me out of my selfish choices was the realisation that by drinking or being hungover or marking time until I could drink 'in peace' (ie when the kids weren't around), I was NEVER truly present with my kids. I was robbing them of time and love and modelling ****** coping mechanisms.
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