Forgive yourself Weekender Thread Aug. 28th until..
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Forgive yourself Weekender Thread Aug. 28th until..
Hell yes I would beat myself silly every morning. EVERY morning. Make that list of promises. Ask for strength. Set out firm in my belief I could do it. I just needed another chance. Till 3 pm came around. The bargaining time had arrived. What would I trade for my fix today? It was always the same. Another chip from my soul. Plunked down on the bar with one hand as I picked up the glass with the other. Hardly a fair trade.
What could I do to help myself? I learned so very much from SR about what to do. A loud collective voice rang in my head after every post of yet another failure to stay sober.
"Forgive yourself."
If you allow yourself to feel guilty, you will reinforce the error rather than allow it to be undone. Move past it.
The people here have helped me realize that a softer touch is the best approach to moving past myself.
So how about our newest? or anyone really... Take this next 48 hours to do nothing but forgive yourself. If you are like me you will need to do it over and over and over as each new thought rears its ugly head.
Forgiving yourself takes practice. Real efforts. So focusing on that for a period can help train your sober mind!
*Ring Ring*
Can you hear it? I can! Your sober weekend of forgiveness is here! Jump on a bus and go easy on yourself! Enjoy the ride!!!
Ken
What could I do to help myself? I learned so very much from SR about what to do. A loud collective voice rang in my head after every post of yet another failure to stay sober.
"Forgive yourself."
If you allow yourself to feel guilty, you will reinforce the error rather than allow it to be undone. Move past it.
The people here have helped me realize that a softer touch is the best approach to moving past myself.
So how about our newest? or anyone really... Take this next 48 hours to do nothing but forgive yourself. If you are like me you will need to do it over and over and over as each new thought rears its ugly head.
Forgiving yourself takes practice. Real efforts. So focusing on that for a period can help train your sober mind!
*Ring Ring*
Can you hear it? I can! Your sober weekend of forgiveness is here! Jump on a bus and go easy on yourself! Enjoy the ride!!!
Ken
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Day off. Just dropped Mrs B to work. Just going to potter about the house.
I love this theme of self forgiveness. I am my own worst critic. If someone called to my house and spoke to me the way I sometimes talk to myself, I would kick them out!
I'm going to practice not being such a d**k to myself this weekend!
B
Day off. Just dropped Mrs B to work. Just going to potter about the house.
I love this theme of self forgiveness. I am my own worst critic. If someone called to my house and spoke to me the way I sometimes talk to myself, I would kick them out!
I'm going to practice not being such a d**k to myself this weekend!
B
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Great message Ken after all if you keep beating yourself up then eventually you are going to hurt yourself.
Fairly leisurely day so far after a mammoth Wednesday, I didn't get in until 10am.
Bank Holiday weekend in England and Wales so Monday off which means Notting Hill Carnival in London. This in turn has the potential to turn into a beer frenzy but not this year, this year I am going to actually enjoy it rather than drinking and making a fool of myself
Great message Ken after all if you keep beating yourself up then eventually you are going to hurt yourself.
Fairly leisurely day so far after a mammoth Wednesday, I didn't get in until 10am.
Bank Holiday weekend in England and Wales so Monday off which means Notting Hill Carnival in London. This in turn has the potential to turn into a beer frenzy but not this year, this year I am going to actually enjoy it rather than drinking and making a fool of myself
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Great topic, Ken! I find myself feeling guilty a lot.... for things that I really shouldn't even feel guilty about. Then, I feel guilty for feeling guilty. "The stress is hurting you so STOP feeling that way..." I believe I want to badly to be perfect that guilty is the auto response because it's not a possible achievement.
I've recently started meditating (headspace is an awesome app that I use for guidance) and it has helped me a lot. Also, turning my focus outward (charity work/free group fitness classes) has reduced this feeling.
Just my 2 cents.
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I've recently started meditating (headspace is an awesome app that I use for guidance) and it has helped me a lot. Also, turning my focus outward (charity work/free group fitness classes) has reduced this feeling.
Just my 2 cents.
Count me in on the bus!!
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I think I'm going to hop on the roof with the wolf man this weekend. Weather is fine, I've got more to do than there is time for...
BUT, I recall those too many times when I had things to do and just didn't even care about it. The world still goes on with or without me. And nobody else really cares what I 'forgot' to get done that day. Well, actually my partner would get very angry at me for getting stupid drunk and neglecting life for the weekend. I would apologize and promise to not get drunk until I finished _________.
I don't dwell on it. It's the past. Today? I make time for what I can. And if I get it done, I get it done. The important thing is that I won't get drunk and pass out leaving things half done or in the driveway. Or tools and empties strewn about the yard. If my wife can forgive me for how I acted in the past, I certainly should be able to forgive myself.
Today is a brand new day.
BUT, I recall those too many times when I had things to do and just didn't even care about it. The world still goes on with or without me. And nobody else really cares what I 'forgot' to get done that day. Well, actually my partner would get very angry at me for getting stupid drunk and neglecting life for the weekend. I would apologize and promise to not get drunk until I finished _________.
I don't dwell on it. It's the past. Today? I make time for what I can. And if I get it done, I get it done. The important thing is that I won't get drunk and pass out leaving things half done or in the driveway. Or tools and empties strewn about the yard. If my wife can forgive me for how I acted in the past, I certainly should be able to forgive myself.
Today is a brand new day.
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welllllllllllllll, Olives made a reference and it took me back to a time before I remember... I thought about digging out my old Perry Como records for the weekend, but I don't have any. If I was still down south I could borrow Trach's PC albums...
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