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Old 08-26-2004, 01:56 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Exclamation You know what YOUR problem is? I'll tell you. Twice.

Hi all-

Why is it that today I feel the need to point out everyone's flaws to them? Its like on this 4th day of sobriety I've adopted an insatiable urge to tell everyone whats wrong with them; just cause I've admitted to my problems. Also maybe cause I want everyone around me to feel as sh**y about it as I do . I know this too shall pass, but I hope it passes before I alienate everyone i know :scared1: .


Also, last night I threw a soda can at the tv while a beer commercial was on. For the love.

Can anyone relate?
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Old 08-26-2004, 01:59 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Go ahead S & T,
Let it out here. It's safer and we'll all completely understand. Don't forget...Day 4 is a huge accomplishment and you're bound to be feeling that emotional rollercoaster that goes with it.
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Old 08-26-2004, 02:00 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Yes I can totally relate. It will pass, part of being sober for me was learning to think before I talk or act. This is all new for you, try and take a breath before you speak and think about what you are going to say, if it is negative, try and stop.

About the can....well tell everyone to duck if a beer commercial comes on . Seriously, we have to laugh at ourselves, without humor I would be lost. How about no more cans while you watch TV, only soft items.
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Old 08-26-2004, 02:06 PM   #4 (permalink)
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LOL I seem to alienate folks by telling them what I DO and answering the questions they ask me. LOL The old saying "Stand up for something or fall for everything" comes to mind for me today. Grateful the AA program gave me a backbone and some principles to aspire to. Hang in there as you inspire me with your honesty.

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Old 08-26-2004, 02:09 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Let's add soda cans to the do not list
Irritability is a very real thing in the first days and weeks of abstinence.
Our bodies are adjusting, and so are our minds.
You'll soon see an improvement in your mood, I promise.
In the meantime, pamper yourself, treat yourself to something special.
How'd the shopping go?
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Old 08-26-2004, 02:13 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I echo what everyone else said. It's completely normal to ride the emotional rollercoaster--but take heart...you've got the right attitude: "this too shall pass".
Don't be too hard on yourself. I know that I have to learn to love my flaws (ESPECIALLY) during early sobriety. The not-so-pretty parts were no longer being covered up, and in some ways magnified with the absence of liquor.

Take care of yourself!

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Old 08-26-2004, 02:15 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Thanks you guys. I love that I can vent here.

I am really proud of myself for having 4 days under my belt, and if I'm honest with myself i know that my lunch tasted extra good today, the morning looked better than yesterday, and I know that I won't drink today because I like these little glimpses of hope.

You know when you feel like the whole world is reminding you of your problems? Last night I swear every show I watched, every thing I read was about alcohol. Because of course, the world revolves around me =).

On a brighter note, my co-worker is no longer baby-talking into the phone. She's now ignoring me completely. I imagine its because I said to her, "Julie, you sound like a jacka** and I'm going to kick you if you dont' stop that sh*t".

I'll take all of your advice, and definitely will stop myself tonight from telling my boyfriend that sometimes kissing him feels like I'm getting face-licked by a slobbering St. Bernard.
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Old 08-26-2004, 02:19 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Hey S & T,
Glad to see your back to your old self. You had me scared for a minute.
{LOL} Don't let them stress you out. Hey you're on DAY 4 and moving forward. So proud of you, girl.
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Old 08-26-2004, 02:19 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Your sense of humor is great and will help us all stay sober another day.

Keep up the great work.
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Old 08-26-2004, 02:21 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Ditto to Paulie!
You crack me up
St- Bernard eh...
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Old 08-26-2004, 02:26 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Oh S & T, you're definitely going to make it. You're so funny! I can relate to the irritability stuff too, so many memories, but as others said, it'll get better soon.

Hang in there.

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Dan- the shopping went great! Momma's got herself a new pair of stilletos, and now have one less excuse as to why I fell over while walking in them =).

Thanks Sandy, Paulie, Dan, squirrely, 3leg (or was it peg-leg?).....and everyone who has ever posted back to me and helped keep me sober. I'm trying to treat myself, take care of myself, and take it easy through this initial period.

I knew to expect this irritablity, I went through it last time I tried to get sober. The difference this time is that I'm deTERMINED to STAY sober. One day at a time....

I am a plethora of cliches today.
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Old 08-26-2004, 02:31 PM   #14 (permalink)
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i'm also glad i can make some of you laugh. I thought I was only funny when I was wasted! I always cracked myself up at least........
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Old 08-26-2004, 03:17 PM   #15 (permalink)
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You are TOO funny.. Today is my 9th day without a drink. I feel good, but today, I want to drink. It's been a great day.... The US won the gold in soccer!!! I just want the high.. I wish I could just get a little high, but I know, I'll kill two bottles of wine or a bottle of vodka, although, I've been craving tequila..... Anyway, I guess, I'll find something better to do... Congratulations on day 4 s&t!! I'll let you know if I make day 10. I like what you said about 'I thought I was only funny when I was wasted'.. I feel you. Have a good night everyone.
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Old 08-26-2004, 03:28 PM   #16 (permalink)
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I actually laughed out-loud when I read your post. I think my co-workers think I might be crazy....

I can TOTALLY relate to how you are feeling. I spent my first six weeks of sobriety in treatment with 20 other women. If you think I wasn't irritated.....LOL!!! Anyway, eventually I found that the qualities in people that irritated me the most were qualities I had and hated about myself. I can also relate to seeing everything being related to alcohol. Now everything I see and hear I think is related to recovery!!!!

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