Boozing out if control
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Join Date: Mar 2015
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Boozing out if control
Hi to all. First time here. My drinking has gotten way out of control. I am not an everyday drinker but a once a week binge drinker. I drink so much that I make very bad choices and am losing friends as they are sick of my crap. I pour so much alcohol into me that I am still drunk the whole next day, and take 3 or 4 days of feeling like **** before I come good. It is poisoning my body and my mind. I have alcohol induced anxiety for days, and generally feel depressed and ashamed at my behavior whilst drunk. I really need to do something about this and get sober before it totally destroys my life. Thanks for listening.
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Welcome! 
You've come to a good place for support and useful info. There are many programs out there to help you stop drinking, AA is the best known of them and is available in many locations.
I'm glad you joined us. I hope the support here can help you stop drinking for good.
You've come to a good place for support and useful info. There are many programs out there to help you stop drinking, AA is the best known of them and is available in many locations.I'm glad you joined us. I hope the support here can help you stop drinking for good.
Court jester
Join Date: Mar 2015
Location: South Florida
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Welcome Greggo. First things first. Stop drinking. It is no longer an option. If you are concerned about withdrawals, seek out a doctor. Second, find support. You will find much of that here, but I would also recommend some local support, perhaps AA meetings would be a good first place to go.
Congratulations on this first and most difficult step of reaching out.
Congratulations on this first and most difficult step of reaching out.
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Join Date: Jan 2015
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Hi Greggo,
That could be my story. You'll find a lot of help here at SR. I'm 3 months sober today.
The anxiety and lack of confidence have fallen away and I feel better than I ever have. My self esteem is hugely improved.
I have never been into exercise and am overweight but losing it slowly since cutting out alcohol; I have started lifting weights and walking. The weight lifting gives me a huge buzz for the whole day.
Keep on reading and tapping out your feelings on here. It is possible believe me
That could be my story. You'll find a lot of help here at SR. I'm 3 months sober today.
The anxiety and lack of confidence have fallen away and I feel better than I ever have. My self esteem is hugely improved.
I have never been into exercise and am overweight but losing it slowly since cutting out alcohol; I have started lifting weights and walking. The weight lifting gives me a huge buzz for the whole day.
Keep on reading and tapping out your feelings on here. It is possible believe me
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Join Date: May 2013
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Some of us don't know how to say no, and for those of us who cannot stop drinking once we start, abstinence is quite likely the best protection for ourselves. I thought for a while it wasn't, but I was wrong. I don't er...didn't (I'm not sure if I've earned the right of past tense) drink everyday either and I used to use that as an excuse.
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: California
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Welcome. I was a binge drinker. I drank about 2-3 days a week but when I did I really hit it hard and I too had the worst anxiety for days. I am actually going through the anxiety right now as I am at day 4 of sobriety. I hope that you and I can stop because everyone says that the anxiety gets much better after awhile of being sober.
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Originally Posted by needtostopthis 
Welcome. I was a binge drinker. I drank about 2-3 days a week but when I did I really hit it hard and I too had the worst anxiety for days. I am actually going through the anxiety right now as I am at day 4 of sobriety. I hope that you and I can stop because everyone says that the anxiety gets much better after awhile of being sober.
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Join Date: Aug 2014
Location: midwest
Posts: 484
Welcome to SR!
Please understand that nearly all of your current problems are due, or worsened, as a result of your drinking! There are few problems in life that can be solved by quitting one thing.. that is the good news. The bad news is that addiction is an insidious beast that will require you to stand up against with all of your might. Through various seasons you will be tempted in various ways.. maybe after a certain amount of time you will feel like you never had a problem.. or it just got out of control.. These are all tricks of the ego and anchors that this addiction will try to leverage itself with. But there is no other choice my friend. Before I quit.. I lost all of my friends (though not solely due to me/alcohol) but thankfully retained my job and everything else. So I didn't have to suffer as much as others but I can tell you that I had no hope and was wasting my life away. At nearly 8 months sober I am in the best shape I have ever been in and working to master 3d animation as a passion and means to a secondary income. This would have never happened if I hadn't quit. I also find myself looked up to by many and literally the opposite of where I came from, where you are now.
I promise you.. quit alcohol now.. be easy on yourself.. eat ice cream.. watch movies.. dont drink.. stay off facebook or other ways that you may compare yourself to others.. don't drink.. after a month or so get some light exercise and make it a routine.. dont drink.. increase your routine and you will feel the power of the endorphins in your brain and the strength in your muscles.. dont drink.. your confidence will increase and you will feel suddenly unsubmerged and able to maneuver this crazy world.
This is a rough world.. dont kid yourself.. many people are selfish and lost but wear a guise of false confidence.. dont be fooled by this in comparisons.. feel true confidence and be good to yourself to others..
be free my friend..
be free
Please understand that nearly all of your current problems are due, or worsened, as a result of your drinking! There are few problems in life that can be solved by quitting one thing.. that is the good news. The bad news is that addiction is an insidious beast that will require you to stand up against with all of your might. Through various seasons you will be tempted in various ways.. maybe after a certain amount of time you will feel like you never had a problem.. or it just got out of control.. These are all tricks of the ego and anchors that this addiction will try to leverage itself with. But there is no other choice my friend. Before I quit.. I lost all of my friends (though not solely due to me/alcohol) but thankfully retained my job and everything else. So I didn't have to suffer as much as others but I can tell you that I had no hope and was wasting my life away. At nearly 8 months sober I am in the best shape I have ever been in and working to master 3d animation as a passion and means to a secondary income. This would have never happened if I hadn't quit. I also find myself looked up to by many and literally the opposite of where I came from, where you are now.
I promise you.. quit alcohol now.. be easy on yourself.. eat ice cream.. watch movies.. dont drink.. stay off facebook or other ways that you may compare yourself to others.. don't drink.. after a month or so get some light exercise and make it a routine.. dont drink.. increase your routine and you will feel the power of the endorphins in your brain and the strength in your muscles.. dont drink.. your confidence will increase and you will feel suddenly unsubmerged and able to maneuver this crazy world.
This is a rough world.. dont kid yourself.. many people are selfish and lost but wear a guise of false confidence.. dont be fooled by this in comparisons.. feel true confidence and be good to yourself to others..
be free my friend..
be free
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Join Date: Mar 2015
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Thank you all for your kind welcome. I have read many posts on this site since I joined yesterday. Lots of very helpful stuff. The common thread I see is that it is initially difficult but does get easier with time, and that it is definitely worth it. I know I have to totally change my thought patterns, and not allow myself to think I can moderate my drinking. I have tried that many times but it NEVER even comes close to working. As soon as i have that first drink, it is like a switch is thrown and all sensible thought goes out the window. That is the main thought that I have to change.
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Join Date: Jun 2014
Location: Northern Ireland
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Welcome Greggo.
This is a fantastic place to start your journey. Read and post often. It helps a great deal.
SoberComposer has written a fantastic post above, I agree with all of it. Beating this addiction is very difficult but very doable. To succeed make it your number one priority.
Best of luck
This is a fantastic place to start your journey. Read and post often. It helps a great deal.
SoberComposer has written a fantastic post above, I agree with all of it. Beating this addiction is very difficult but very doable. To succeed make it your number one priority.
Best of luck
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