Denial?
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My husband is a complete normie and has NEVER ever had any concern that he may be an alcoholic let alone have a drinking problem. When I got sober, all my friends who I believe behave alcoholically explained to me how lucky they are and why they have no drinking issues whatsoever. I know I shouldn't do their moral inventory, but it was a startling difference from my friends who never even noticed I quit drinking. Those friends are the ones that would in the past say let's meet at Starbucks or something for a drink as opposed to insisting on a place where they could get a drink with alcohol.
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The people I know who aren't alcoholics don't. They can take it or leave it. A night out doesn't revolve around drinking much. Me, an alcoholic, on the other hand would obsess and over obsess and let it consume my thoughts for hours on end.
I mean I have a million signs. I'm just 25 though and I've seen much worse. You know? I've never had a DUI or gone through withdrawals. I'm rationalizing. And the fact that all day long I've wanted a drink. Normal people aren't like this.
Well, that was nearly 16 years, two DUI's, one hit-and-run, two marriages, hundreds of thousands of dollars and a lot of physical and emotional damage ago.....
If alcohol is trending in a problematic direction for you, and if your experiences seem to match or foreshadow those of some of what you'll read around here.... then whether or not you're 'an alcoholic' might be less important than the questions a)what do you want your life to be? b) is alcohol supportive of that for you?
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I'm sure they probably don't. I had friends who could go out to the movies for the evening or go shopping or do whatever, whereas all I could think about was when I could get my drink. Or I'd skip out on certain activities because I couldn't drink.
They thought about other things, and alcohol was (is) always on my mind.
They thought about other things, and alcohol was (is) always on my mind.
Erin, alcoholism is a progressive disease.
It ill get worse unless you decide to stop drinking.
Denial is definitely a big part of alcoholism, and I think it's only when recovery begins that we can clearly see the denial.
It ill get worse unless you decide to stop drinking.
Denial is definitely a big part of alcoholism, and I think it's only when recovery begins that we can clearly see the denial.
Finding out/Knowing/Accepting im alcoholic saves my life every single day
if you would have asked me 2 years ago was i alcoholic i would have said pffft and carried on drinking my litre bottle of vodka
funny how ppl always have a drink in thier hand when they say im not alcoholic
if you would have asked me 2 years ago was i alcoholic i would have said pffft and carried on drinking my litre bottle of vodka
funny how ppl always have a drink in thier hand when they say im not alcoholic
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First off I became addicted to a drug which happened to be ethanol. I quit drinking and got through the sickness and am no longer physically addicted. Mentally I realize that I enjoyed my DOC too much, used it as a crutch when thing went bad, and it caused me harm. Therefore I choose to stay away from it.
Maybe it's just me but I choose not to put life long negative labels on myself. I call my self human and all humans have faults.
Someone used the phrase normie another phrase that irritates me. There is no such thing as we are all different and have our own unique deficiencies and assets. So I'm no more a real alcoholic than I am a normie. Just label me as a member of the human race. Or maybe I'm an abnormie.
Maybe it's just me but I choose not to put life long negative labels on myself. I call my self human and all humans have faults.
Someone used the phrase normie another phrase that irritates me. There is no such thing as we are all different and have our own unique deficiencies and assets. So I'm no more a real alcoholic than I am a normie. Just label me as a member of the human race. Or maybe I'm an abnormie.
Erin-I'm 26. I basically think about alcohol all the time. I didn't drink during the day (other than Christmas or weddings) but would get hammered or at least drink basically every night. If I bought a bottle of wine I knew it wouldn't be enough and would constantly be watching it to see how much I had left, thinking about if there was anything else in the house to drink when it was gone.
Non-alcoholics don't ever think they are alcoholics because they're not alcoholics! That's how I came to realise that I am. I might not have got to the point that I drink first thing every morning, but it's a slippery slope.
Non-alcoholics don't ever think they are alcoholics because they're not alcoholics! That's how I came to realise that I am. I might not have got to the point that I drink first thing every morning, but it's a slippery slope.
Erin-I'm 26. I basically think about alcohol all the time. I didn't drink during the day (other than Christmas or weddings) but would get hammered or at least drink basically every night. If I bought a bottle of wine I knew it wouldn't be enough and would constantly be watching it to see how much I had left, thinking about if there was anything else in the house to drink when it was gone.
Non-alcoholics don't ever think they are alcoholics because they're not alcoholics! That's how I came to realise that I am. I might not have got to the point that I drink first thing every morning, but it's a slippery slope.
Non-alcoholics don't ever think they are alcoholics because they're not alcoholics! That's how I came to realise that I am. I might not have got to the point that I drink first thing every morning, but it's a slippery slope.
It wasn't until I decided that the "why" isn't important that I was able to "let go" of these circular conversations/arguments with myself. Why doesn't matter much - it's obvious drinking is real bad for me and my son, my life, health, future. Gotta quit.
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