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Old 02-07-2014, 06:48 PM   #1 (permalink)
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So I have three months sober and my emotions have been all over the place. Yesterday I felt good and today I just cannot even think. A meeting helped a little. Maybe getting some sleep will help. I still feel lost and I do not know who I am. Does anyone have any thoughts on early sobriety and why it is so difficult?
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Old 02-07-2014, 07:28 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Great job on 90 days. Thats fabulous. Wish I had advice. Keep doing what you have been doing
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Old 02-07-2014, 07:34 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Journal your thoughts, read inspirational articles etc. keep busy with activities you enjoy doing. Idle time to dwell on inner thoughts can be overwhelming with the newly raw emotions you will be experiencing right now.
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Hi Acheleus, congratulations on three months

My emotions were all over the place one minute so happy and free especially being sober.
Then I could be down in the dumps. I believe it's not unusual to have these feelings.

I likened it to a metamorphis, I felt my mind changing so much and I was advised not to make any life changing decisions for a year , which I am keeping with.

On a good side it's great waking with no misgivings, regrets and hangovers. I put so much booze in my body and mind for years I guess it's not going to mend overnight xx
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Acheleus, 90 days sober is FANTASTIC, congratulations. Rootin for ya.
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I think it's difficult because most of us drank for years...it takes a little time to sort ourselves out...I really do think better times are ahead tho Ach

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Good job on 3 mths!!! As Captain said, I warded those feelings by workin more, going to more mtgs, talking w/ sponsor & network, eating something sweet/drinking lots of coffee etc. The sugar interestingly calmed me down & diverted my thots which in turn changed my attitude; hey whatever works right? Loh
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So I have three months sober and my emotions have been all over the place. Yesterday I felt good and today I just cannot even think. A meeting helped a little. Maybe getting some sleep will help. I still feel lost and I do not know who I am. Does anyone have any thoughts on early sobriety and why it is so difficult?

Sobriety is difficult in part because it forces us to confront the things we were hiding from. At least in my case the bottle was the place I hid from my life. Now, sober, I am forced to deal with my life for the first time in many, many years...maybe the first time ever. That's difficult at times, but on some level it's exhilarating, too. Or it can be eventually.

Remember the old saying, "when you're going through hell- keep going!" There honestly is hope on the other side (with apologies for how cheesy that must sound).
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I always thought I would never be able to do the things that make me happy. Other people would be pursuing their dreams and I would drink out of bitterness and envy that I could not make a life for myself. Sometimes it scares me to think of how much work I have to do. I hope with sobriety I can be nice to myself.
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Congrats! Three months is a LOT of time.

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Sometimes it scares me to think of how much work I have to do. I hope with sobriety I can be nice to myself.
One day at a time! Don't look to far ahead. If you work the program the promises will come true in time.

You are well on our way. Count your blessings, the ones money can't buy, and let the gratitude fill your heart.
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Congrats on three months sober! Early sobriety is a lot of ups and downs as the brain gets back to normal functioning. Give yourself time and good treatment and you'll soon be feeling better.
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You deserve to be nicer to yourself. You did a lot of hard work to get where you are. I felt similar at 90 days. I can be up and down in a matter of minutes. It will continue to get better and like Mags says, we all got to give it some time.
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Congratulations Acheleus!

I was all over the place the first three months. Emotional ups and downs were the norm. It gets better ... my sleep improved and so did my attitude, along with my health.

Keep up the great work!
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Old 02-08-2014, 07:52 AM   #14 (permalink)
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Looking at the whole picture of the world,
life, it all would make my anxiety go thru
the roof. I had to learn with itty, bitty baby
steps and stay within the moment.

When I take a deep breath, relax for a moment
and tell myself, all I have to worry about is
just this moment. Then everything that bothers
me just melts away. A calmness comes over me.

I don't have to conquer the world all in one day.
In fact, I don't have to conquer the world at all.
To me, that is one tall order I don't have to do.
just let someone else do it. Whew...!!!!

You are special. You are worth it. You are you.
Im pretty sure you have many fine qualities within
yourself. Talents? Kindness. Caring. A gentle soul.

There's no time line to meet in life. If you stay
sober or clean this day, then you have accomplished
a whole lot. Pat urself on the back and say, I did
it. I deserve to be happy, healthy in my new sober
life.
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