Go Back   SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information > New to Addiction and Recovery? > Newcomers to Recovery
Forgot Password? Join Us!
Register Blogs FAQ Calendar Arcade Mark Forums Read Chat Room


Welcome to the Sober Recovery Community

Already registered? Login above ---^
OR
To take advantage of all Posting, Chatting, Gaming, and all the features available at SoberRecovery, join the over 100,000 current members, and become a member of our supportive community today! Ads will no longer appear on the forums, once you register.



Reply
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 09-01-2013, 11:31 AM   #1 (permalink)
Member
 
secretary's Avatar
 

Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Midwest
Posts: 133
2 months sober

And I couldn't have done it without SR and the class of July 2013. I'm feeling really good most days, yesterday wasn't so good but even depression and anger didn't give me the urge to drink.

One thing I've noticed tho is how friggin' rude people are. I was at a get together on Friday night and, after she offered me a cocktail, I told the hostess, that I had stopped drinking. She turned and looked at me and said "did you think you had a problem? Is that why you stopped?" I was bowled over. I said no, I went on a diet. Luckily she didn't respond, oh is it because you're too fat? Another lady at work asked if I had started to drink yet because she wanted to go for drinks. I know I should let it roll off of me but I thinks it's rude.


Still trying to find out who I am, now that I'm sober. Didn't think I would be soul searching at this point in my life.
__________________
sober since July 1, 2013
secretary is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to secretary For This Useful Post:
FeenixxRising (09-01-2013), FourSeasons (09-01-2013), hayley86 (09-01-2013), jaynie04 (09-01-2013), least (09-01-2013), mecanix (09-01-2013), soberhawk (09-01-2013), Uninvited (09-08-2013)
Old 09-01-2013, 12:23 PM   #2 (permalink)
bona fido dog-lover
 
least's Avatar
 

Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: eastern USA
Posts: 36,763
Blog Entries: 31
Congrats on two months sober! And yes, people can be terribly rude sometimes.
__________________
I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them.

Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole.

Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus

Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley
least is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to least For This Useful Post:
secretary (09-08-2013)
Old 09-01-2013, 12:28 PM   #3 (permalink)
Member
 
13unluckyforsom's Avatar
 

Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Uk
Posts: 1,040
Some people need slapped in the face with a trout (imagine that the next time someone's rude lol)

Well done on standing your ground and 2 months amazingness!!!!!
__________________
A diamond doesn't start out polished and shining. It once was nothing special, but with enough pressure and time, becomes spectacular. I'm that diamond.
― Solange nicole
13unluckyforsom is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to 13unluckyforsom For This Useful Post:
jaynie04 (09-01-2013), secretary (09-08-2013)
Old 09-01-2013, 01:03 PM   #4 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: Jul 2013
Posts: 729
Haha yeah I have a friend who is a wine rep, she always has tons of really great wine. I told her a couple times what was going on with me and after I made the more serious transition to sobriety she did not seem to get it. She always says, "when you're drinking again we can..." I cat sit for her a lot, and she is always very grateful. She actually still tries to give me cases of wine. And when I say no she insists. I never accept them. But she is by far the most obnoxious about my decision to quit. Who needs enemies when you've got friends??
Plenny is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Plenny For This Useful Post:
secretary (09-08-2013)
Old 09-01-2013, 01:15 PM   #5 (permalink)
Member
 
foolsgold66's Avatar
 

Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: South Central US
Posts: 1,569
Congrats on the 2 months!

I mentally picture people's heads exploding when they say stuff like that.

But I love the trout thing too!

Yeah, people suck.
foolsgold66 is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to foolsgold66 For This Useful Post:
secretary (09-08-2013)
Old 09-01-2013, 01:26 PM   #6 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: UK (England)
Posts: 1,803
Congratulations on 2 months!
hayley86 is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to hayley86 For This Useful Post:
secretary (09-08-2013)
Old 09-01-2013, 01:41 PM   #7 (permalink)
Member
 
FeenixxRising's Avatar
 

Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Mid-Atlantic USA
Posts: 1,483
Well done Secretary. For some reason I don't find your hostess's question particularly rude. But I didn't hear her tone of voice or see her body language. However, perhaps she was concerned for you? Or just curious? I understand it was a bit nosy, but I guess I would have been ok with the question. However, if she had insisted on your having a drink, I would have a different opinion.

But we all have our own boundaries, personally, I long ago stopped asking people why they weren't drinking. I've had more than a few friends who quit drinking after serious alcohol problems, so I've learned to just let non-drinker be non-drinkers without my questioning why. It's there business and no concern of mine.

Anyway, thank you for the encouragement.
FeenixxRising is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to FeenixxRising For This Useful Post:
secretary (09-08-2013)
Old 09-01-2013, 01:58 PM   #8 (permalink)
Forum Moderator
 
Dee74's Avatar
 

Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Strailya
Posts: 85,883
Blog Entries: 1
congrats on 2 months secretary

I try to simply smile enigmatically and move away at things I consider rude from people I barely know

D
__________________
Dee74 is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Dee74 For This Useful Post:
secretary (09-08-2013)
Old 09-01-2013, 04:07 PM   #9 (permalink)
Member
 
Petecrab's Avatar
 

Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: South west uk
Posts: 385
Well done =]]]
__________________
3/7/13

Petecrab is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Petecrab For This Useful Post:
secretary (09-08-2013)
Old 09-01-2013, 04:21 PM   #10 (permalink)
Learning to live again
 
Hevyn's Avatar
 

Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
Posts: 16,137
So proud of you Secretary! 2 months is a great accomplishment. It'll keep getting better.
__________________
You are so much more than the worst thing you've
ever done. - Fr. Gregory Boyle, Homeboy Industries

Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it well and serenely, and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. - Emerson
Hevyn is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Hevyn For This Useful Post:
secretary (09-08-2013)
Old 09-01-2013, 04:28 PM   #11 (permalink)
Member
 
FourSeasons's Avatar
 

Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: State of Acceptance
Posts: 648
Way to go on 2 months! I too have a drinking friend who appears to be in a state of morn since I stopped drinking 12 days ago. I can't help to feel that she is just sitting on the sidelines waiting for me to relapse. Even thinking about it makes me never want to drink with her again.... Not even coffee!!
__________________
Repeat after me: "There is no such thing as one and done."
-----
"The further backward you can look, the further forward you will see." Winston Churchill
FourSeasons is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to FourSeasons For This Useful Post:
secretary (09-08-2013)
Old 09-08-2013, 08:12 AM   #12 (permalink)
Member
 
secretary's Avatar
 

Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Midwest
Posts: 133
Quote:
Originally Posted by FeenixxRising View Post
Well done Secretary. For some reason I don't find your hostess's question particularly rude. But I didn't hear her tone of voice or see her body language. However, perhaps she was concerned for you? Or just curious? I understand it was a bit nosy, but I guess I would have been ok with the question. However, if she had insisted on your having a drink, I would have a different opinion.

But we all have our own boundaries, personally, I long ago stopped asking people why they weren't drinking. I've had more than a few friends who quit drinking after serious alcohol problems, so I've learned to just let non-drinker be non-drinkers without my questioning why. It's there business and no concern of mine.

Anyway, thank you for the encouragement.
I guess I didn't think it was the time nor place to ask thar question. She's kind of a nosy person.
__________________
sober since July 1, 2013
secretary is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-08-2013, 10:20 AM   #13 (permalink)
Member
 
workoholic's Avatar
 

Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: Soberspace
Posts: 417
DOn't let it get to you. You did great since july. I messed up twice, it is not worth it!
workoholic is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-08-2013, 10:24 AM   #14 (permalink)
Member
 
Marcella99's Avatar
 

Join Date: Aug 2013
Posts: 71
Great job secretary! Two months is a lot to be proud of!
__________________
A new beginning
Marcella99 is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-08-2013, 10:28 AM   #15 (permalink)
MTD
Member
 

Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Or.
Posts: 109
Misery lovessss company! I believe many people that don't understand are really in trouble with alcohol and are jealous that you are strong enough to take the road to sobriety. You are doing awesome! Stay strong
__________________
What a long strange trip its been...Greatful Dead
MTD is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-08-2013, 10:28 AM   #16 (permalink)
Member
 
PrincessJasmine's Avatar
 

Join Date: Aug 2013
Posts: 66
Awesome on the 2 months!!!!!
I haven't had enough time under my belt to encounter any rude people. But, when/if I do, I just try to think how I may have rudely reacted to someone not drinking. Not that I would've meant to be rude, I just wouldn't have understood.
Rude people or no, you are doing great!!!
PrincessJasmine is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-08-2013, 10:35 AM   #17 (permalink)
Life Health Prosperity
 
neferkamichael's Avatar
 

Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Louisana
Posts: 3,681
Secretary, 2 months sober? You are [B]FANTASTIC[/B . Congratulations.

__________________

Success is making yourself do the thing you need to do when you need to do it whether you like it or not.
If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything.
neferkamichael is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiTweet this Post!
Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to neferkamichael For This Useful Post:
Melina (09-08-2013), secretary (09-08-2013)
Reply


Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 09:33 PM.


 
National Drug and Alcohol Treatment Centers
 
Drug Rehab | Best Treatment Center | Detox Center | Residential Treatment Center
Cocaine/Crack Treatment | Alcohol Rehab | Heroin/Oxycontin Treatment Center | Crystal Meth Treatment | Marijuana Treatment | Methadone Treatment | Suboxone Treatment
 
Local Treatment Resources and Events
 
Alabama | Alaska | Arizona | Arkansas | California | Colorado | Connecticut | DC | Delaware
Florida | Georgia | Hawaii | Idaho | Illinois | Indiana | Iowa | Kansas | Kentucky | Louisiana | Maine
Maryland | Massachusetts | Michigan | Minnesota | Mississippi | Missouri | Montana | Nebraska | Nevada | New Hampshire
New Jersey | New Mexico | New York | North Carolina | North Dakota | Ohio | Oklahoma | Oregon | Pennsylvania | Rhode Island
South Carolina | South Dakota | Tennesee | Texas | Utah | Vermont | Virginia | Washington | West Virginia | Wisconsin | Wyoming

© 2013 Internet Brands. | Privacy Policy
A proud member of the SoberRecovery® Network of Addiction and Recovery Websites