DrunkTx

Let me start with I am one of the best alcoholics...

That said, I see many posts about telling yourself you can have just one or moderate or pace. of course most everybody concludes it is not possible, so they don't. But, am I the only one who has no desire categorically for just one, moderation or pace? I am going on a year right now, and my strongest deterent is knowing not that I can't moderate, but knowing I have zero desire to moderate. I dont drink because if liquor touches my lip, i will drink all of it and by design! :rotfxko

Zube

DrunkTx

Yeah- for me moderation went right out the window. Moderation works for non-alcoholics.

Zube

freshstart57

No, you are most certainly not alone, DrunkTx. We are all headed to the same destination, it just takes some of us a while to arrive.

Elisabeth888

Yeah, ONE drink doesn't do it for me. I want another while I am drinking the first one.

So as long as I don't take that first drink.......

Sounds corny but that is a crucial, life saving statement.

DrunkTx

How true. Even writing this i am thinking about the fourth glass of wine!......Just one...LOL. I have never failed at anything, but when I was an active drinker, just one would have been a failure. Just one.....ROTFL!!!!

SoberForMySon

I see no point in one or even six. So none it is for me.

tomsteve

when you read more posts, you may want to try it with a different pair of glasses. there are very few( if any) moderation drinkers here. after all, this is sober recovery.

jennikate

Same here. Gave up the idea of moderation a while ago. Does not exist as an option for me. I'm an all or nothing kinda girl. So...it's nothing....ever...again.

Lionhearted1

I can moderate for a week maybe longer but its not really moderating more like griting my teath to not drink the more it starts to become a obbsession again i start thinking about units what to drink when to drink how to drink, then it will happen my control will be gone and ill be off and running!!! moderation is a illusion for an alkie like me!

when iam sober and i know i will never drink again i am free!!!

DrunkTx

That wasn't my point. I read tons of posts from folks who want to be "normies" or trying tapering, or telling themselves just one. almost everybody concludes that it doesn't work....i am always surprised though that the starting thought is be normal. Never once till this day have I dreamnt about enjoying a nice glass of wine. 100% of my thoughts start at minimum a bottle and up. i just can't believe somebody desires just one (suspending the reality of whether that is achievable)

freshstart57

Lionhearted, you can know right this minute that you will never drink again. Can you vow not to drink now? That'll do it.
Be certain of this, people make this vow all the time, and keep it, too. You can be one of them.

escapist

I read a few of those posts lately. I feel sad about it when it is someone who has been posting about their hard fought success with abstaining. I been there done that so I don't know what to say.

hypochondriac

I never thought I could moderate either. The best plan I could come up with when I was drinking was just not to drink alone and drink socially. But I knew that would screw up my whole method because I drank alone so I didn't drink to excess in public. I never made it past a day not drinking alone and finally accepted that if I achieved that then my drinking would definitely get out of control in public!

veryready

DrunkTx thanks. Its really that simple. I need to accept I can't have just one. Just CAN'T. Period. I am on day 4 and feel really good. Beautiful day. This would be a perfect day for just one. Glad I read your post.