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closetdrinker · 09-30-2012, 05:20 PM

I was hear about a year ago. I can do three days but then fail. I can do that quite often, a few days followed by a regular bender, thinking I'm good. So what.

A responder here said that I simply did not suffer enough consequences to have a full commitment. He was probably right. I have not suffered those consequences yet, but I do have a new commitment. My dry day will start today. A friend of mine has been free 12 years! I remember his problem. If he can do it, so can I. Lets kick this! I dont want to walk the fine line! I want to end my nightly six packs.

Sapling · 09-30-2012, 05:22 PM

Welcome back?....How did your friend do it?

closetdrinker · 09-30-2012, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Sapling

Welcome back?....How did your friend do it?

He was in and out of rehabs after a lifetime of arrests. I'm guessing it was just as the other poster said, the consequences got to him. They will me too unless I can nip it in the bud. While I dont have the consequence, most dont know I have a problem. But drinking every day tells me something more. I dont want to go there. I want to be proud of my life. I have much to be proud for lest I screw it up. I am smarter than that, but while I dont go on drunken rampages, seems I always need a drink every night. That must end.

Sapling · 09-30-2012, 05:38 PM

Why don't you have him show you how he did it....That's how I got sober.

canguy · 09-30-2012, 05:39 PM

....closet drinker, do you live alone?

2granddaughters · 09-30-2012, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by closetdrinker

That must end.

My drinking ended in 1989 when I surrendered and committed myself to A.A.

I wish you the best.

Bob R

MIRecovery · 09-30-2012, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by 2granddaughters

My drinking ended in 1989 when I surrendered and committed myself to A.A.

I wish you the best.

Bob R

Me to but 2009

GypsyHeart · 09-30-2012, 06:36 PM

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Originally Posted by closetdrinker

A responder here said that I simply did not suffer enough consequences to have a full commitment.

I believe that everyone's path is different. I don't believe that some people have to hit the proverbial bottom to see another way, another path. And some people have to hit and bounce... and bounce. I have done the bouncing thing. But that doesn't mean I don't/can't see - just my path. Best wishes to you... and your path

**Dee74** · 09-30-2012, 09:13 PM

Welcome back closetdrinker

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instant · 10-01-2012, 01:56 AM

CD great you are here. I think of it like rock climbing, you've got to three days. Now you are good at it. For me starting to feel human again was a major risk. Later one I could occasionally do more- A few times I did a couple of weeks. Six months once.

The last hurdle for me was Friday nights. I learnt and I changed.

The desire to drink can be accepted for what it is without it leading to action.

IndaMiricale · 10-01-2012, 02:10 AM

Welcome back.

There are many people in the rooms of AA that didnt have to suffer jails, dui's , ect..

I wasnt one of them, but they are there. AA saved this alcoholic from my best thinking..

You can be free.

hypochondriac · 10-01-2012, 06:12 AM

Fear of really serious consequences was enough to make me quit. I don't think something really bad has to happen to make us seriously commit to quitting. For me, I could just see where it was going...

Glad you're making the commitment Closetdrinker

x

Mizzuno · 10-01-2012, 06:59 AM

Welcome Back!!

closetdrinker · 10-01-2012, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by canguy

....closet drinker, do you live alone?

No, but I drink alone, hence the moniker.

freshstart57 · 10-01-2012, 01:22 PM

There are lots of options for you if you want to be sober, most people just do it by themselves without any program. Others choose AA or any of a bunch of other methods like SMART, SOS, LifeRing or AVRT. None of these require that you hit some sort of bottom, high, low or otherwise. You can choose to quit, you can choose to make that full commitment anytime. People do it everyday, and you can decide to become one of them. It really is better without alcohol.

09-30-2012, 05:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
closetdrinker Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: PA Posts: 21	Back with a commitment I was hear about a year ago. I can do three days but then fail. I can do that quite often, a few days followed by a regular bender, thinking I'm good. So what. A responder here said that I simply did not suffer enough consequences to have a full commitment. He was probably right. I have not suffered those consequences yet, but I do have a new commitment. My dry day will start today. A friend of mine has been free 12 years! I remember his problem. If he can do it, so can I. Lets kick this! I dont want to walk the fine line! I want to end my nightly six packs.

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Dee74 SR Moderator Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Seas Posts: 65,521	Welcome back closetdrinker D __________________

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instant instant Join Date: May 2011 Location: Australia Posts: 4,249 Blog Entries: 5	CD great you are here. I think of it like rock climbing, you've got to three days. Now you are good at it. For me starting to feel human again was a major risk. Later one I could occasionally do more- A few times I did a couple of weeks. Six months once. The last hurdle for me was Friday nights. I learnt and I changed. The desire to drink can be accepted for what it is without it leading to action. __________________ Let everyone be my teacher and RTFD May 15 2011

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IndaMiricale Powerless over Alcohol Join Date: May 2011 Location: Trudging the Road to Happy Destiny! Posts: 4,020	Welcome back. There are many people in the rooms of AA that didnt have to suffer jails, dui's , ect.. I wasnt one of them, but they are there. AA saved this alcoholic from my best thinking.. You can be free. __________________ "The only real thing in life are dreams, which nature cant touch with decay." Bob Dylan "Each day,somewhere in the world ,recovery begins when one alcoholic talks with another alcoholic , sharing experience,strength and hope."

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hypochondriac Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: UK Posts: 4,274	Fear of really serious consequences was enough to make me quit. I don't think something really bad has to happen to make us seriously commit to quitting. For me, I could just see where it was going... Glad you're making the commitment Closetdrinker x __________________ “The future you have tomorrow, won't be the same future you had yesterday.” ― Chuck Palahniuk, Rant

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Sapling AA Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Between Meetings Posts: 9,004	Welcome back?....How did your friend do it?

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Sapling AA Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Between Meetings Posts: 9,004	Why don't you have him show you how he did it....That's how I got sober.

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canguy Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 62	....closet drinker, do you live alone?

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Mizzuno Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: California Posts: 1,376 Blog Entries: 11	Welcome Back!!

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freshstart57 Self recovered Self discovered Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Toronto Canada Posts: 2,679	There are lots of options for you if you want to be sober, most people just do it by themselves without any program. Others choose AA or any of a bunch of other methods like SMART, SOS, LifeRing or AVRT. None of these require that you hit some sort of bottom, high, low or otherwise. You can choose to quit, you can choose to make that full commitment anytime. People do it everyday, and you can decide to become one of them. It really is better without alcohol. __________________ AVRT has shown me how to never drink again and to never change my mind.

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