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Dan23 · 09-21-2012, 02:09 PM

I have been sober 2 days and already craving a drink. I have tried stopping on my own before but I can't even go a month the longest I could manage was 3 weeks then I think I can just have 1 and that's it but as soon as I have 1 I can't stop until I pass out

I'm going to my first AA meeting tomorrow so hopefully I can do this.

SoberForMySon · 09-21-2012, 02:11 PM

Dan, you can do it!!! It's hard. Try our September thread. Keep posting, and go to AA.

pipparina · 09-21-2012, 02:13 PM

Dan-

you can do this. It may be hard, but as you can see from all the people on this site, it is doable. Keep posting on here, reading other posts, and get through this tough time.

For me, AA meetings helped me so much. You will see that other people are doing the same thing you are doing, and that you are not alone. The fellowship I found there was a vital part of my recovery. I was no longer lonely. And I was able to experience real fun sober.

Jimuk · 09-21-2012, 02:14 PM

Welcome Dan23.

PippoRossi · 09-21-2012, 02:19 PM

If I can do it, you can too, Dan. Hang in there!

Taking5 · 09-21-2012, 02:23 PM

Welcome Dan. Lots of UK people here, I'm sure they'll be along shortly. Let us know how the AA meeting went.

**Dee74** · 09-21-2012, 02:42 PM

Feel free to check out the Class of September thread Dan - there's a lot of support there:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...rt-4-a-15.html

D

Vall · 09-21-2012, 02:44 PM

Dear Dan23,

sorry you are finding it hard today but that's 2 days under your belt already - what are you up to tonight? I presume you have the same rainy weather as I do bahhh

heath480 · 09-21-2012, 02:49 PM

You can do this dan.You will be able to get the best out of the meeting tomorrow when you will be 3days sober.

quitforme79 · 09-21-2012, 06:47 PM

Hi Dan, I am on day 3 and was in detox until this morning. I hear you....it's definitely NOT easy. I don't have much advice to give since I am in the same boat but I did 2 AA meetings tonight because I had some cravings and it really did help me. Best of luck, let us know how you are doing ((hugs))

Notmyrealname · 09-21-2012, 06:50 PM

For the first thirty days you're trying to break habits. You will feel like you need a drink because you are used to having a drink. Just know it's going to bug you, it's a habit. Go do something else. Hell, pick up a hobby. Now is a great time to find a new pastime, because if you kick the booze you are going to have a lot more free time.

Best of luck.

jobei · 09-21-2012, 11:24 PM

Hey Dan, welcome! Please consider this: in the beginning it feels like a mountain that you simply can't climb over. Forever literally feels like FOREVER and it's overwhealming. Something that I've realized is that over time, not too much time, it will get easier and easier not to drink. I know this may sound cliche but when I quit many people with more sober time than me constantly reminded me that "It will get easier" and I've found that it is indeed the truth. I always thought that it was just something people said until I experienced it for myself. The first week will feel like a living hell but keep at it and you'll make it over the mountain! God bless you my friend!

IndaMiricale · 09-21-2012, 11:38 PM

I never could stop either. As long as I dont take that first one I dont need the second to the 20th..

AA saved this alkie..

Welcome aboard..

Dan23 · 09-22-2012, 01:23 AM

Hello guys thanks for all the replies I will let you know how the meeting goes later

Liz45 · 09-22-2012, 02:49 AM

Good luck at the meeting Dan. Looking forward to hearing about it!

neferkamichael · 09-22-2012, 03:08 AM

Dan, 2 days sober? You are FANTASTIC. Congratulations. At 2 years 2 months sober I don't have cravings like I did at 2 days, but I do not let my guard down for 2 seconds. It has gotten better as the days go by and I believe they will for you as well. Good luck.

Southerner · 09-22-2012, 06:57 AM

I might encourage you not to think of three weeks, four weeks, months, etc. That is overwhelming in and of itself. Just take it easy this weekend, keep busy doing whatever you feel you can, and make your goal just trying to have a fulfilling day away from it. I find it helpful not thinking in terms of "this time I am going longer than last time." That is thinking in terms of a win streak that is sure to end like any sports team's win streak. You are not developing a new win streak, you are getting off that field and playing a completely different sport. Hope this helps!

Jeni26 · 09-22-2012, 07:03 AM

Thinking of you Dan. I'm not too far away from London. Sending you good and positive thoughts.
Good luck with the meeting x

seanie1888 · 09-22-2012, 10:01 AM

Stay strong Dan, you can do it

09-21-2012, 02:09 PM	#1 (permalink)
Dan23 Sobriety Dat 26\10\2012 Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: London Posts: 35	this is going to be so hard :( I have been sober 2 days and already craving a drink. I have tried stopping on my own before but I can't even go a month the longest I could manage was 3 weeks then I think I can just have 1 and that's it but as soon as I have 1 I can't stop until I pass out I'm going to my first AA meeting tomorrow so hopefully I can do this.

09-21-2012, 02:13 PM	#3 (permalink)
pipparina Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: NYC Posts: 1,226	Dan- you can do this. It may be hard, but as you can see from all the people on this site, it is doable. Keep posting on here, reading other posts, and get through this tough time. For me, AA meetings helped me so much. You will see that other people are doing the same thing you are doing, and that you are not alone. The fellowship I found there was a vital part of my recovery. I was no longer lonely. And I was able to experience real fun sober. __________________ "The mind is its own place; it can make a hell of heaven or a heaven of hell" Milton

09-21-2012, 02:19 PM	#5 (permalink)
PippoRossi Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 267 Blog Entries: 1	If I can do it, you can too, Dan. Hang in there! __________________ It matters not how strait the gate, How charged with punishments the scroll. I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.

09-21-2012, 02:23 PM	#6 (permalink)
Taking5 Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: LA - Lower Alabama Posts: 4,244	Welcome Dan. Lots of UK people here, I'm sure they'll be along shortly. Let us know how the AA meeting went. __________________ It is easier to practice total abstinence than perfect moderation _______________________________________ Any quotes from the big book of AA are from the first edition, or are otherwise exempt from copyright infringement under the "fair use doctrine".

09-21-2012, 02:42 PM	#7 (permalink)
Dee74 SR Moderator Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Seas Posts: 65,342	Feel free to check out the Class of September thread Dan - there's a lot of support there: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...rt-4-a-15.html D __________________

09-21-2012, 02:11 PM	#2 (permalink)
SoberForMySon Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 893	Dan, you can do it!!! It's hard. Try our September thread. Keep posting, and go to AA.

09-21-2012, 02:14 PM	#4 (permalink)
Jimuk Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 639	Welcome Dan23.

09-21-2012, 02:44 PM	#8 (permalink)
Vall Guest Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Surrey, UK Posts: 522	Dear Dan23, sorry you are finding it hard today but that's 2 days under your belt already - what are you up to tonight? I presume you have the same rainy weather as I do bahhh

09-21-2012, 02:49 PM	#9 (permalink)
heath480 AA member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: United Kingdom. Posts: 1,560	You can do this dan.You will be able to get the best out of the meeting tomorrow when you will be 3days sober. __________________ Sobriety Date 23rd May 2003. Sobriety delivers everything Alcohol promised.

09-21-2012, 06:47 PM	#10 (permalink)
quitforme79 Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: east coast Posts: 1,265	Hi Dan, I am on day 3 and was in detox until this morning. I hear you....it's definitely NOT easy. I don't have much advice to give since I am in the same boat but I did 2 AA meetings tonight because I had some cravings and it really did help me. Best of luck, let us know how you are doing ((hugs))

09-21-2012, 06:50 PM	#11 (permalink)
Notmyrealname Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Midwest, USA Posts: 215	For the first thirty days you're trying to break habits. You will feel like you need a drink because you are used to having a drink. Just know it's going to bug you, it's a habit. Go do something else. Hell, pick up a hobby. Now is a great time to find a new pastime, because if you kick the booze you are going to have a lot more free time. Best of luck.

09-21-2012, 11:24 PM	#12 (permalink)
jobei Renaissance Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: CT Posts: 635 Blog Entries: 13	Hey Dan, welcome! Please consider this: in the beginning it feels like a mountain that you simply can't climb over. Forever literally feels like FOREVER and it's overwhealming. Something that I've realized is that over time, not too much time, it will get easier and easier not to drink. I know this may sound cliche but when I quit many people with more sober time than me constantly reminded me that "It will get easier" and I've found that it is indeed the truth. I always thought that it was just something people said until I experienced it for myself. The first week will feel like a living hell but keep at it and you'll make it over the mountain! God bless you my friend! __________________ . . "I don't ever wanna feel... like I did that day..." - A.K. . .

09-21-2012, 11:38 PM	#13 (permalink)
IndaMiricale Powerless over Alcohol Join Date: May 2011 Location: Trudging the Road to Happy Destiny! Posts: 4,020	I never could stop either. As long as I dont take that first one I dont need the second to the 20th.. AA saved this alkie.. Welcome aboard.. __________________ "The only real thing in life are dreams, which nature cant touch with decay." Bob Dylan "Each day,somewhere in the world ,recovery begins when one alcoholic talks with another alcoholic , sharing experience,strength and hope."

09-22-2012, 01:23 AM	#14 (permalink)
Dan23 Sobriety Dat 26\10\2012 Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: London Posts: 35	Hello guys thanks for all the replies I will let you know how the meeting goes later

09-22-2012, 02:49 AM	#15 (permalink)
Liz45 Member Join Date: Sep 2012 Posts: 85	Good luck at the meeting Dan. Looking forward to hearing about it! __________________ Today I will not drink! Waking up with a smile instead of a hangover is my motivation. 9/20/22

09-22-2012, 03:08 AM	#16 (permalink)
neferkamichael Life Health Prosperity Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Louisana Posts: 2,037	Dan, 2 days sober? You are *FANTASTIC*. Congratulations. At 2 years 2 months sober I don't have cravings like I did at 2 days, but I do not let my guard down for 2 seconds. It has gotten better as the days go by and I believe they will for you as well. Good luck. __________________ Success is making yourself do the thing you need to do when you need to do it whether you like it or not. If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything.

09-22-2012, 06:57 AM	#17 (permalink)
Southerner Member Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 109	I might encourage you not to think of three weeks, four weeks, months, etc. That is overwhelming in and of itself. Just take it easy this weekend, keep busy doing whatever you feel you can, and make your goal just trying to have a fulfilling day away from it. I find it helpful not thinking in terms of "this time I am going longer than last time." That is thinking in terms of a win streak that is sure to end like any sports team's win streak. You are not developing a new win streak, you are getting off that field and playing a completely different sport. Hope this helps!

09-22-2012, 07:03 AM	#18 (permalink)
Jeni26 Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: South East England Posts: 3,908	Thinking of you Dan. I'm not too far away from London. Sending you good and positive thoughts. Good luck with the meeting x __________________ 25th May 2012 was the last time I took a drink. I will never forget it. I don't EVER have to feel like that again.

09-22-2012, 10:01 AM	#19 (permalink)
seanie1888 Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 509	Stay strong Dan, you can do it

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