Frustrated

[amandah09]

I dont know what it is about today, but im just so on edge, everything is annoying and frustrating me beyond belief! I feel so angry with no real reason for it... I know this is most likely part of my Borderline personality disorder but still... I have been feeling so great for the past 3 weeks, and to have a day like today is so draining. Today is day 22 of being completely sober for the first time in 8 years. And im finding myself today wanting to do SOMETHING, whether it be drinking or one of my addictions to drugs. Of course I wont. But i just feel like if im drunk or high it might help a lot with what im feeling today with such intensity. Anyway i just needed to get that off my chest. Hope everyone is having a great sober day.

[doggonecarl]

Early recovery can be like that. The promise of sobriety isn't that every day would be great, just that we would deal with the bad days in a healthy and sane manner.

Not to tell you how to use Sober Recovery, but I found coming here on a regular basis (meaning everyday) helped me cope. Perhaps if you came here every day, if only to vent...

Just a suggestion. Good luck.

[bbthumper]

Hi Amanda,
Sorry to hear you are having a rough time. My experience in sobriety is that when I quit drinking I lost the only answer I had to all of my problems. Boredom, restlessness, sadness, anger, anxiety, fear etc. Alcohol was great medicine for all of those problems, but it was killing me. So when I put it down I still had all of my real problems to deal with. Alcohol was not the problem. It was my answer. I needed a new answer. For me that answer was AA. I attended meetings, got a sponsor and worked the steps. I still deal with problems. Life is not perfect. But, I am happy most of the time. When I am not, I feel no desire to drink to ease the discomfort.The obsession to drink was lifted from me within weeks of beginning to work the steps.
I hope you find some help here. Best wishes to you.

[Sapling]

I don't know what your feelings on AA are...But being around people like me early on was the only thing keeping me sane...I was going to two meetings a day.

[Caledonia1]

Hi Amanda
I can only speak for myself but when I get those restless feelings I have to try and relax, hot bath, walk the dog read a book, in the past alcohol was my crutch and would numb these feelings.
Well done for reconising them. Stay strong and like Sapling I attended AA and found this a great source of comfort, like this site too. Just someone to talk it over with helps me heaps.

[ivehadenoughnow]

AA can be an answer for some, but there are any number of things that you can do to deal with problems, stress, and anxiety. It is my belief that you should or many of them to fall back on. The truth is that if you got drunk or high, you wouldn't be dealing with those problems at all would you? They'd still be there in the morning, but instead you'd be hungover and unable to deal with them any better than you are now. Some people I know can deal with those problems head on and cross them off their list. Can you take a handful of the little ones, deal with them, and then cross them off your list?

[hypochondriac]

It takes a while before our first instinct isn't to drink when we've had a bad day Amanda. In the mean time do anything but drink/use... distraction helps x

[Dee74]

I found out there are healthier ways to deal with those feelings Amandah
What kind of support do you have?

D

[amandah09]

I have some support, mainly just my family. I also go to counsilling and will be starting DBT (Dialectical behavioural Therapy) hopefully soon which is going to give me a lot of skills that I dont have to deal with stuff...

Originally Posted by Dee74

I found out there are healthier ways to deal with those feelings Amandah
What kind of support do you have?

D