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STC71 · 08-25-2012, 07:07 AM

My first day here. I had tried to stop drinking many times before. Never lasted more than a couple weeks and usually just a couple days.I was a beer drinker. I never cared about wine or liquor. If no beer was available, I didn't drink the other stuff.
I know this time IS different.It is because I'm here, reaching out to others for the first time. I will not label myself an alcoholic because that to me is a state of being. It doesn't define me. I freely do admit to abusing alcohol and have had a problem with it. I hope to continue to stay sober and grow and learn here.
Thanks,
Sean

Sapling · 08-25-2012, 07:10 AM

Welcome to SR STC71....It doesn't matter to me what you call it...I was a beer drinker too...It cost me everything and almost killed me...I had to get some help. Glad you are here.

STC71 · 08-25-2012, 07:18 AM

Thanks. It's been a month now and I feel so much better physically and emotionally. I was tempted to think "it's been 30 days, I'm good to begin drinking again" That scared me ad that's when I looked to seek out others with similar struggles and follow those who have victories.

Sapling · 08-25-2012, 07:21 AM

I can tell you right now...When you cross that line...There's no turning back....And there is no good time to drink again...Congrats on 30 days...Hang on to it with your life.

***least*** · 08-25-2012, 07:26 AM

Welcome to the site and congrats on your sober time!

Keep on keepin' on, it gets better.

NoFireWater · 08-25-2012, 07:44 AM

Welcome Sean! I agree with you re alcoholic issues not defining a person. You can quit without the labels. Congrats on 30 days!! Great news!

MrsKing · 08-25-2012, 08:14 AM

Welcome

I like your attitude. It's good to have you here.

Good for you for your sober month.

You'll find lots of people willing to share here

All the best to you x

**Dee74** · 08-25-2012, 03:32 PM

welcome aboard, and congrats on 30 days Sean

D

***Hevyn*** · 08-25-2012, 03:48 PM

Hi Sean! Great job on your 30 days. When I found SR I felt so relieved, and less anxious. No one in my life understood what I'd been through and what a struggle it was. Everyone here got it, and it helped me to stay filled with hope and courage. I hope you'll feel the same!

MendipMan · 08-25-2012, 04:21 PM

STC71 it's good to see you here. You are amongst friends. When I came to terms with the fact that I had a problem with alcohol (which was a long time before I would admit it to anyone else), I would not take my self to AA for one simple reason. You had to sit in a room and say to everyone there..... "My name in Jack and I am an alcoholic" Absolutely not!! I am not labelling myself that!! "It does not define me" I wasted several more years pouring the evil sh*t down my neck, wrecking all relationships whether at home or at work and in the end had to attempt suicide. I walked in to AA with the help a man who was asked to contact me and he picked me up and took me there after a long chat. I sat in that meeting shaking like a leaf and plucking up courage said "My name is Jack and I am an alcoholic...... because by definition that is what I am. I had a problem with alcohol. The relief I felt having said it and taken the opportunity to tell my story and to get so much understanding and support was absolutely fantastic. It was the last denial, the last obstacle that lay between me and success in giving up. Actually there is one other denial that goes with that one and that is.... once I have proved I can give up for (6 months?) I will be able to go back to normal social drinking!! Both of these will defeat you. Being labelled an alcoholic is nothing to be ashamed of. It's a disease!! The man who took me to that first AA meeting was quite happy to admit that he was an alcoholic who had not drank for 25 years and now I too am over that stigma that makes all alcoholics deny that they are alcoholic. I wish you well and promise you all the support I can give and I know I speak for everyone here. Good luck and keep chatting to all of us!!

Sapling · 08-25-2012, 04:40 PM

Welcome to SR MendipMan....What a great post.

**artsoul** · 08-25-2012, 05:12 PM

Welcome STC71!

***Anna*** · 08-25-2012, 05:16 PM

Welcome, Sean and congrats on your 30 days sober.

Uninvited · 08-25-2012, 07:17 PM

Welcome and congrats on 30 days!

sugarbear1 · 08-25-2012, 07:22 PM

Welcome to SR! Congrats on one month!

08-25-2012, 07:07 AM	#1 (permalink)
STC71 Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Vancouver, WA Posts: 3	New Here My first day here. I had tried to stop drinking many times before. Never lasted more than a couple weeks and usually just a couple days.I was a beer drinker. I never cared about wine or liquor. If no beer was available, I didn't drink the other stuff. I know this time IS different.It is because I'm here, reaching out to others for the first time. I will not label myself an alcoholic because that to me is a state of being. It doesn't define me. I freely do admit to abusing alcohol and have had a problem with it. I hope to continue to stay sober and grow and learn here. Thanks, Sean

08-25-2012, 07:26 AM	#5 (permalink)
*least* bona fido dog-lover Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: eastern USA Posts: 28,720 Blog Entries: 31	Welcome to the site and congrats on your sober time! Keep on keepin' on, it gets better. __________________ I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them. Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole. Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

08-25-2012, 03:32 PM	#8 (permalink)
Dee74 SR Moderator Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Seas Posts: 65,579	welcome aboard, and congrats on 30 days Sean D __________________

08-25-2012, 03:48 PM	#9 (permalink)
*Hevyn* Learning to live again Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Upstate New York Posts: 11,133	Hi Sean! Great job on your 30 days. When I found SR I felt so relieved, and less anxious. No one in my life understood what I'd been through and what a struggle it was. Everyone here got it, and it helped me to stay filled with hope and courage. I hope you'll feel the same! __________________ You are so much more than the worst thing you've ever done. - Fr. Gregory Boyle, Homeboy Industries Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it well and serenely, and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. - Emerson

08-25-2012, 05:16 PM	#13 (permalink)
*Anna* Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 27,830	Welcome, Sean and congrats on your 30 days sober. __________________ Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Marianne Willianson

08-25-2012, 07:10 AM	#2 (permalink)
Sapling AA Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Between Meetings Posts: 9,004	Welcome to SR STC71....It doesn't matter to me what you call it...I was a beer drinker too...It cost me everything and almost killed me...I had to get some help. Glad you are here.

08-25-2012, 07:18 AM	#3 (permalink)
STC71 Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Vancouver, WA Posts: 3	Thanks. It's been a month now and I feel so much better physically and emotionally. I was tempted to think "it's been 30 days, I'm good to begin drinking again" That scared me ad that's when I looked to seek out others with similar struggles and follow those who have victories.

08-25-2012, 07:21 AM	#4 (permalink)
Sapling AA Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Between Meetings Posts: 9,004	I can tell you right now...When you cross that line...There's no turning back....And there is no good time to drink again...Congrats on 30 days...Hang on to it with your life.

08-25-2012, 07:44 AM	#6 (permalink)
NoFireWater Clear Eyes Full Heart Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: New England Posts: 604	Welcome Sean! I agree with you re alcoholic issues not defining a person. You can quit without the labels. Congrats on 30 days!! Great news!

08-25-2012, 08:14 AM	#7 (permalink)
MrsKing Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: UK Posts: 1,142	Welcome I like your attitude. It's good to have you here. Good for you for your sober month. You'll find lots of people willing to share here All the best to you x

08-25-2012, 04:21 PM	#10 (permalink)
MendipMan Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Bristol, UK Posts: 21 Blog Entries: 3	STC71 it's good to see you here. You are amongst friends. When I came to terms with the fact that I had a problem with alcohol (which was a long time before I would admit it to anyone else), I would not take my self to AA for one simple reason. You had to sit in a room and say to everyone there..... "My name in Jack and I am an alcoholic" Absolutely not!! I am not labelling myself that!! "It does not define me" I wasted several more years pouring the evil sh*t down my neck, wrecking all relationships whether at home or at work and in the end had to attempt suicide. I walked in to AA with the help a man who was asked to contact me and he picked me up and took me there after a long chat. I sat in that meeting shaking like a leaf and plucking up courage said "My name is Jack and I am an alcoholic...... because by definition that is what I am. I had a problem with alcohol. The relief I felt having said it and taken the opportunity to tell my story and to get so much understanding and support was absolutely fantastic. It was the last denial, the last obstacle that lay between me and success in giving up. Actually there is one other denial that goes with that one and that is.... once I have proved I can give up for (6 months?) I will be able to go back to normal social drinking!! Both of these will defeat you. Being labelled an alcoholic is nothing to be ashamed of. It's a disease!! The man who took me to that first AA meeting was quite happy to admit that he was an alcoholic who had not drank for 25 years and now I too am over that stigma that makes all alcoholics deny that they are alcoholic. I wish you well and promise you all the support I can give and I know I speak for everyone here. Good luck and keep chatting to all of us!!

08-25-2012, 04:40 PM	#11 (permalink)
Sapling AA Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Between Meetings Posts: 9,004	Welcome to SR MendipMan....What a great post.

08-25-2012, 05:12 PM	#12 (permalink)
artsoul SR Fan Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Mississippi Posts: 7,582	Welcome STC71!

08-25-2012, 07:17 PM	#14 (permalink)
Uninvited Member Join Date: May 2012 Location: Maine Posts: 182	Welcome and congrats on 30 days!

08-25-2012, 07:22 PM	#15 (permalink)
sugarbear1 ~sb Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: MD Posts: 9,768	Welcome to SR! Congrats on one month! __________________ Someday everything will all make sense. For now, laugh at confusion, smile through tears, & remind yourself that everything happens for a reason. All Big Book quotes are from the first edition. Linked with the permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.

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