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Julynine · 07-28-2012, 08:48 AM

It's nearly 3 weeks since I last had a drink and for the most part it has gone Ok and i've seen significant improvements and generally felt much better.

The last few days however, and in particular today, have not gone so well and I'm feeling a 'little down' and unmotivated. I feel like I am at that 'in between stage' where I do feel better but not energetic enough to get out there and do something physical and the initial euphoria of sobriety has worn off a bit.

I know I'm just having another bad day and it will pass if i stay off the booze. Feel really crap because i just shouted at my boy for something really trivial and went over the top. Could really do with some constructive helpful comments. Seems like the 2-3 week stage is difficult for a lot of us.

Cheers

Julynine

Ranger · 07-28-2012, 09:01 AM

There's no tough day that drinking can't make worse, my Friend.

sugarbear1 · 07-28-2012, 09:04 AM

ahhh, time to forget how bad it cann get, stuck in a stupor of drunkenness!

Stay strong & stopped! You are worth it!!!

drinking sucks. hangover city with feeling ill, remoresful, full of negativity (that was a reminder)...i'm thumb typing on a phone, bear with me...

sobriety is tottally awesome! take a listen to xa-speakers.org kerry was young qhen she got sober, bea m. is a nun, there are priests on there, too! (go to the F's for father), sandy b. has a 12 step study, even if you aren't AA, the stories give you hope.

Stay stopped! It keeps getting better!!!

2granddaughters · 07-28-2012, 09:21 AM

I have a daily renewal when I get on my knees and ask my H.P. for another day of "HIS will, not mine" to the best of my ability.
I can start my day over anytime I want/need to.

All the best.

Bob R

***Anna*** · 07-28-2012, 09:25 AM

It's part of the journey to have some ups and downs. The main thing is to know that it won't last and you can get through it. It's difficult to feel motivated every day, but try to do something enjoyable for yourself and your son. How about some ice cream?

Julynine · 07-28-2012, 09:29 AM

Thanks Anna. It's a little late in the day now (bedtime for the young ones in Europe) but I just went up to his room, apologised sincerely, told him I loved him and now I feel a lot better! Ice cream tomorrow sounds good though!

MetalChick · 07-28-2012, 09:33 AM

I shouted at my BF(no kids) the other day for something really lame, and felt bad, but it was immeasurably better then the times I slapped him or yelled at him while drunk and felt horrified and full of self hatred in the morning. I want to be there for myself, my BF, and my little bud bud (my dogie). We can beat this

debsam · 07-28-2012, 09:37 AM

I was going to suggest an apology July9

... Makes everyone feel a bit better, especially that your little guy is off to bed...you'll both feel better to take on the day tomorrow morning.

I think Sugarbear's suggestion is a great one too...might have a peek at those myself later.

katiedid722 · 07-28-2012, 09:49 AM

All of these are great suggestions. I can relate to not always keeping my emotions in check, but I know my fiance prefers those moments over the ones when I'm drunk and completely out of MIND. Your kiddo will understand

Stuff that always makes me feels better on a "down" day ... a work out, snuggles with my pet, a good book or movie (getting out of your head) "this too shall pass"

Itchy · 07-28-2012, 09:59 AM

When life sucks, it sucks less sober. It doesn't get better, you do.

Ever notice how we never "look forward" to something bad? Look forward not back, then you can live today. Give yourself a year or three sober to really try it out. In the meantime keep posting here for others and hold your light high. Know that light at the end of the tunnel you see? You are that light for someone elses tunnel. Especially your child's.

Congratulations on doing something other than drinking alcohol.

Julynine · 07-28-2012, 10:12 AM

Many thanks to you all. If you read one of my previous posts you'll see that one of my lessons learnt from previous failed sobriety attempts was that I didn't post here enough. I tended to only post when I was feeling good and had something positive to say. I still try and make most of my posts positive and helpful for other SR members but this time I will also not be afraid to ask for help when I need it, and today I do.

So thanks. I'll be there for some of you when you need a little help.

Julynine

debsam · 07-28-2012, 01:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Julynine

Many thanks to you all. If you read one of my previous posts you'll see that one of my lessons learnt from previous failed sobriety attempts was that I didn't post here enough. I tended to only post when I was feeling good and had something positive to say. I still try and make most of my posts positive and helpful for other SR members but this time I will also not be afraid to ask for help when I need it, and today I do.

So thanks. I'll be there for some of you when you need a little help.

Julynine

Perfect!

We're here to help you through the highs and the lows

IndaMiricale · 07-28-2012, 01:57 PM

I did and do many things still when craving come about..

Walks(long or short)
Gym
Pool
Library
Hot Shower
Serenity Prayer
Play with my dogs
and the two most popular
Come here to SR and read or go to the chat room
And for me Meetings they always make me feel better. I still go almost everyday to a meeting.

You can live free, Keep going strong.

sugarbear1 · 07-28-2012, 01:59 PM

Julynine, we all want to be a bit more positive, I believe, but more often than not, it's the I Feel Crappy Today Posts that may help another person more than Everything Is Beautiful And Wonderful (And I'm Full Of Crap) Posts....

We have been where you are and we know, we really do know how it is! It's difficult. Each day I got through crappy stuff, I felt a little better about being sober and continuing on in living a real life without hiding from my emotions.

I didn't stop smoking cigs just yet. I had a crappy Friday after I had attempting quitting for 1.5 days (that in itself was a miracle). I don't recall posting about it too much as I do have people I talk to in real life who are in recovery and who know what it's like to quit the cigs, too. Some of my madness is not posted on here. Maybe I need to let you all know when I'm in a crappy mood, too.

I know I can stop the cigs. I've stopped everything else (except sugar)... I will try again. This time, I will hope to stay stopped.

Post whenever you can!! We need to hear from you!

Hugs & love,

**Dee74** · 07-28-2012, 02:08 PM

The best thing about recovery for me is that a bad day rarely carries on into the next one

I'm really glad you posted Julynine...I'm a firm believer in helping others helps us too

D

CarolD · 07-28-2012, 02:11 PM

3 weeks is a good start ...but you are still de toxing
I imagine so please give yourself time to discover the
new healthier sober woman..

Be sober and gentle with yourself....all my best to you and your son .

Julynine · 07-28-2012, 02:55 PM

Thanks Carol. Just for the record, the last time I looked I was a man.

Here's to a better day tomorrow! Swimming and Sunday lunch with the family.

Julynine

Sasha4 · 07-28-2012, 03:09 PM

It's usually Dee that gets mistaken for a woman!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

xx

debsam · 07-28-2012, 04:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Julynine

Thanks Carol. Just for the record, the last time I looked I was a man.

Here's to a better day tomorrow! Swimming and Sunday lunch with the family.

Julynine

^^^^ great comic relief

07-28-2012, 08:48 AM	#1 (permalink)
Julynine Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 64	In need of Renewed inspiration It's nearly 3 weeks since I last had a drink and for the most part it has gone Ok and i've seen significant improvements and generally felt much better. The last few days however, and in particular today, have not gone so well and I'm feeling a 'little down' and unmotivated. I feel like I am at that 'in between stage' where I do feel better but not energetic enough to get out there and do something physical and the initial euphoria of sobriety has worn off a bit. I know I'm just having another bad day and it will pass if i stay off the booze. Feel really crap because i just shouted at my boy for something really trivial and went over the top. Could really do with some constructive helpful comments. Seems like the 2-3 week stage is difficult for a lot of us. Cheers Julynine

07-28-2012, 09:04 AM	#3 (permalink)
sugarbear1 ~sb Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: MD Posts: 9,763	ahhh, time to forget how bad it cann get, stuck in a stupor of drunkenness! Stay strong & stopped! You are worth it!!! drinking sucks. hangover city with feeling ill, remoresful, full of negativity (that was a reminder)...i'm thumb typing on a phone, bear with me... sobriety is tottally awesome! take a listen to xa-speakers.org kerry was young qhen she got sober, bea m. is a nun, there are priests on there, too! (go to the F's for father), sandy b. has a 12 step study, even if you aren't AA, the stories give you hope. Stay stopped! It keeps getting better!!! __________________ Someday everything will all make sense. For now, laugh at confusion, smile through tears, & remind yourself that everything happens for a reason. All Big Book quotes are from the first edition. Linked with the permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.

07-28-2012, 09:21 AM	#4 (permalink)
2granddaughters in my 24th year of sobriety Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Canada. About as far south as you can get Posts: 4,390	I have a daily renewal when I get on my knees and ask my H.P. for another day of "HIS will, not mine" to the best of my ability. I can start my day over anytime I want/need to. All the best. Bob R __________________ . . .If you want to drink, that's your business ..... .If you want to quit, that's A.A.'s business. . . --- driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity. . . L.D. 1989

07-28-2012, 09:25 AM	#5 (permalink)
*Anna* Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 27,813	It's part of the journey to have some ups and downs. The main thing is to know that it won't last and you can get through it. It's difficult to feel motivated every day, but try to do something enjoyable for yourself and your son. How about some ice cream? __________________ Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Marianne Willianson

07-28-2012, 09:33 AM	#7 (permalink)
MetalChick I looked like that holdin beer Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 627	I shouted at my BF(no kids) the other day for something really lame, and felt bad, but it was immeasurably better then the times I slapped him or yelled at him while drunk and felt horrified and full of self hatred in the morning. I want to be there for myself, my BF, and my little bud bud (my dogie). We can beat this __________________ If I could start again a million miles away I would keep myself I would find a way... (Trent)

07-28-2012, 09:01 AM	#2 (permalink)
Ranger Encourager In Training Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: KS Posts: 715	There's no tough day that drinking can't make worse, my Friend.

07-28-2012, 09:29 AM	#6 (permalink)
Julynine Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 64	Thanks Anna. It's a little late in the day now (bedtime for the young ones in Europe) but I just went up to his room, apologised sincerely, told him I loved him and now I feel a lot better! Ice cream tomorrow sounds good though!

07-28-2012, 09:37 AM	#8 (permalink)
debsam Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Present Moment Posts: 626	I was going to suggest an apology July9 ... Makes everyone feel a bit better, especially that your little guy is off to bed...you'll both feel better to take on the day tomorrow morning. I think Sugarbear's suggestion is a great one too...might have a peek at those myself later. __________________ ~ The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel ~ ~Whatever you put ahead of your recovery...you will lose~

07-28-2012, 09:49 AM	#9 (permalink)
katiedid722 Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Gardner Posts: 79	All of these are great suggestions. I can relate to not always keeping my emotions in check, but I know my fiance prefers those moments over the ones when I'm drunk and completely out of MIND. Your kiddo will understand Stuff that always makes me feels better on a "down" day ... a work out, snuggles with my pet, a good book or movie (getting out of your head) "this too shall pass" __________________ "No one's happiness but my own is in my power to achieve or to destroy." Sobriety Date ~ July 23, 2012

07-28-2012, 09:59 AM	#10 (permalink)
Itchy Re-Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Louisiana Posts: 4,007	When life sucks, it sucks less sober. It doesn't get better, you do. Ever notice how we never "look forward" to something bad? Look forward not back, then you can live today. Give yourself a year or three sober to really try it out. In the meantime keep posting here for others and hold your light high. Know that light at the end of the tunnel you see? You are that light for someone elses tunnel. Especially your child's. Congratulations on doing something other than drinking alcohol. __________________ "Here's to the few who forgive what you do, and the fewer who don't even care" — Leonard Cohen Fairy tales are more than true — not because they tell us dragons exist, but because they tell us dragons can be beaten. -- G. K. Chesterton

07-28-2012, 10:12 AM	#11 (permalink)
Julynine Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 64	Many thanks to you all. If you read one of my previous posts you'll see that one of my lessons learnt from previous failed sobriety attempts was that I didn't post here enough. I tended to only post when I was feeling good and had something positive to say. I still try and make most of my posts positive and helpful for other SR members but this time I will also not be afraid to ask for help when I need it, and today I do. So thanks. I'll be there for some of you when you need a little help. Julynine

07-28-2012, 01:57 PM	#13 (permalink)
IndaMiricale Powerless over Alcohol Join Date: May 2011 Location: Trudging the Road to Happy Destiny! Posts: 4,020	I did and do many things still when craving come about.. Walks(long or short) Gym Pool Library Hot Shower Serenity Prayer Play with my dogs and the two most popular Come here to SR and read or go to the chat room And for me Meetings they always make me feel better. I still go almost everyday to a meeting. You can live free, Keep going strong. __________________ "The only real thing in life are dreams, which nature cant touch with decay." Bob Dylan "Each day,somewhere in the world ,recovery begins when one alcoholic talks with another alcoholic , sharing experience,strength and hope."

07-28-2012, 01:59 PM	#14 (permalink)
sugarbear1 ~sb Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: MD Posts: 9,763	Julynine, we all want to be a bit more positive, I believe, but more often than not, it's the I Feel Crappy Today Posts that may help another person more than Everything Is Beautiful And Wonderful (And I'm Full Of Crap) Posts.... We have been where you are and we know, we really do know how it is! It's difficult. Each day I got through crappy stuff, I felt a little better about being sober and continuing on in living a real life without hiding from my emotions. I didn't stop smoking cigs just yet. I had a crappy Friday after I had attempting quitting for 1.5 days (that in itself was a miracle). I don't recall posting about it too much as I do have people I talk to in real life who are in recovery and who know what it's like to quit the cigs, too. Some of my madness is not posted on here. Maybe I need to let you all know when I'm in a crappy mood, too. I know I can stop the cigs. I've stopped everything else (except sugar)... I will try again. This time, I will hope to stay stopped. Post whenever you can!! We need to hear from you! Hugs & love, __________________ Someday everything will all make sense. For now, laugh at confusion, smile through tears, & remind yourself that everything happens for a reason. All Big Book quotes are from the first edition. Linked with the permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.

07-28-2012, 02:08 PM	#15 (permalink)
Dee74 SR Moderator Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Seas Posts: 65,477	The best thing about recovery for me is that a bad day rarely carries on into the next one I'm really glad you posted Julynine...I'm a firm believer in helping others helps us too D __________________

07-28-2012, 02:11 PM	#16 (permalink)
CarolD Forward we go...side by side Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Serene In Dixie Posts: 37,601	3 weeks is a good start ...but you are still de toxing I imagine so please give yourself time to discover the new healthier sober woman.. Be sober and gentle with yourself....all my best to you and your son . __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery!

07-28-2012, 02:55 PM	#17 (permalink)
Julynine Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 64	Thanks Carol. Just for the record, the last time I looked I was a man. Here's to a better day tomorrow! Swimming and Sunday lunch with the family. Julynine

07-28-2012, 03:09 PM	#18 (permalink)
Sasha4 Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: UK Posts: 1,386	It's usually Dee that gets mistaken for a woman!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! xx Last edited by Sasha4; 07-28-2012 at 03:10 PM. Reason: spelling

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