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pauline · 07-09-2012, 04:48 AM

I have a bad habit of asking people how old they are. The reason I do this is because I feel that with age comes wisdom. I was reading one of the admins post about not giving out personal information. If I have offended anyone my apologies. How do you find trust?

tomsteve · 07-09-2012, 04:53 AM

trust doesnt have an age put on it. length of recovery doesnt have a trust limit on it. trust is earned through action.
i personally like to see newcomers to recovery not trust me right off. i dotn trust them either. its a 2 way street and has to be earned through action.it takes T.I.M.E.

2granddaughters · 07-09-2012, 04:59 AM

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Originally Posted by pauline

I have a bad habit of asking people how old they are. The reason I do this is because I feel that with age comes wisdom. I was reading one of the admins post about not giving out personal information. If I have offended anyone my apologies. How do you find trust?

Ask away, pauline, I will answer if I want to.. in a PM if I feel info is sensitive.

The newcomer should be free to ask anything they want, whether I answer is my doing. If answering your question would help you I would do it, here or in a PM.

No need to apologize for asking someone's age on here. If you were sitting across the AA table from me, you wouldn't have to ask

Yes, with age comes wisdom. I'm an alcoholic and with my 68 yrs has come the wisdom of a mature 17 yr old !!

All the best.

Bob R

hypochondriac · 07-09-2012, 05:07 AM

I'm 30

x

Innerchild · 07-09-2012, 05:22 AM

Im 32

aasharon90 · 07-09-2012, 05:31 AM

To me age to me is just a number. I entered
recovery at the ripe age of 30 and here I am
20 yrs later and feel extremely young with
experiences, strengths,hopes, knowledge,
and wisdom thru out those yrs. However....

Ive made a decision that I just want to stay
young in recovery. Why? Im having to much
fun today enjoying the rewards promised us
in recovery if we stay sober and pass on our
own ESH to those still suffering with addiction.

Life is too much fun no matter how old one is
just as long as I dont drink today. Yah..!!!!

Sturgis here we come..!

pauline · 07-09-2012, 05:37 AM

As a child I always was curious. I was told you don't ask a woman her age. I always asked why not. I was told it was rude. That made me think age is something to be ashamed of.

pauline · 07-09-2012, 05:38 AM

I am 63 and a grandma.

**Dee74** · 07-09-2012, 05:45 AM

I'm very bad at guessing peoples ages.

I've known some very wise teenagers and some very unwise septuagenarians...

I prefer to listen to what people say and to watch what they do...if they have what I want, that's good enough for me...age doesn't really come into it for me

D

RobbyRobot · 07-09-2012, 06:10 AM

Hi Pauline,

Trust is founded in ourselves, back from when we were children. Often enough, our trust has been broken or betrayed, somehow, and this makes for difficult going today, if we have not healed enough to trust again.

Your search for trust is admirable, and worthy. Be of good courage, and know that trust can once again be a wonderful experience.

Stevie1 · 07-09-2012, 06:54 AM

Hi Pauline, I'm never offended when someone asks my age; I don't consider it an intrusive question. The notion that a woman should be ashamed of getting older is weird and probably a dated concept.
I'm 54.

Zee · 07-09-2012, 06:57 AM

I'm 41. I'm female and I live in the UK, Oh, I forgot to mention..... I'm an alcoholic

Good to meet you x

Edited: I first typed 42... oh dear!

Live2Run25 · 07-09-2012, 08:03 AM

I'll be 26 next month! =)

07-09-2012, 04:48 AM	#1 (permalink)
pauline Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Westbury, NY Posts: 13	Apology I have a bad habit of asking people how old they are. The reason I do this is because I feel that with age comes wisdom. I was reading one of the admins post about not giving out personal information. If I have offended anyone my apologies. How do you find trust?

07-09-2012, 04:53 AM	#2 (permalink)
tomsteve Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: northern michigan. not the U.P. Posts: 2,918	trust doesnt have an age put on it. length of recovery doesnt have a trust limit on it. trust is earned through action. i personally like to see newcomers to recovery not trust me right off. i dotn trust them either. its a 2 way street and has to be earned through action.it takes T.I.M.E. __________________ all big book quotes from 1st edition

07-09-2012, 05:07 AM	#4 (permalink)
hypochondriac Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: UK Posts: 4,279	I'm 30 x __________________ “The future you have tomorrow, won't be the same future you had yesterday.” ― Chuck Palahniuk, Rant

07-09-2012, 05:22 AM	#5 (permalink)
Innerchild Grateful AA member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: In the middle of the woods, NJ Posts: 567	Im 32 __________________ "For it is by self-forgetting that one finds."

07-09-2012, 05:31 AM	#6 (permalink)
aasharon90 Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, La. Posts: 5,547	To me age to me is just a number. I entered recovery at the ripe age of 30 and here I am 20 yrs later and feel extremely young with experiences, strengths,hopes, knowledge, and wisdom thru out those yrs. However.... Ive made a decision that I just want to stay young in recovery. Why? Im having to much fun today enjoying the rewards promised us in recovery if we stay sober and pass on our own ESH to those still suffering with addiction. Life is too much fun no matter how old one is just as long as I dont drink today. Yah..!!!! Sturgis here we come..! __________________ "A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED" SHARON B. Baton Rouge, La. 8-11-90 I turn my will and life over to the care of a Power greater than I on a daily bases for guidance, care and protection.

07-09-2012, 05:37 AM	#7 (permalink)
pauline Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Westbury, NY Posts: 13	As a child I always was curious. I was told you don't ask a woman her age. I always asked why not. I was told it was rude. That made me think age is something to be ashamed of.

07-09-2012, 05:38 AM	#8 (permalink)
pauline Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Westbury, NY Posts: 13	I am 63 and a grandma.

07-09-2012, 05:45 AM	#9 (permalink)
Dee74 SR Moderator Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Seas Posts: 65,579	I'm very bad at guessing peoples ages. I've known some very wise teenagers and some very unwise septuagenarians... I prefer to listen to what people say and to watch what they do...if they have what I want, that's good enough for me...age doesn't really come into it for me D __________________

07-09-2012, 06:10 AM	#10 (permalink)
RobbyRobot End Game Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Inner Space-Time Posts: 3,157	Hi Pauline, Trust is founded in ourselves, back from when we were children. Often enough, our trust has been broken or betrayed, somehow, and this makes for difficult going today, if we have not healed enough to trust again. Your search for trust is admirable, and worthy. Be of good courage, and know that trust can once again be a wonderful experience.

07-09-2012, 06:54 AM	#11 (permalink)
Stevie1 Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: midwest Posts: 755	Hi Pauline, I'm never offended when someone asks my age; I don't consider it an intrusive question. The notion that a woman should be ashamed of getting older is weird and probably a dated concept. I'm 54.

07-09-2012, 06:57 AM	#12 (permalink)
Zee Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Sussex, England Posts: 847	I'm 41. I'm female and I live in the UK, Oh, I forgot to mention..... I'm an alcoholic Good to meet you x Edited: I first typed 42... oh dear!

07-09-2012, 08:03 AM	#13 (permalink)
Live2Run25 Run to live... live to run Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Western Maryland Posts: 936 Blog Entries: 5	I'll be 26 next month! =) __________________ -Britt Sober Since 6/3/2012. "And the day came for the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom" 9 Half Marathons completed in 1yr 5 months. Getting Married on 9/6/2013!!

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