Going to see my youngest is a trigger - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

soberred · 05-06-2012, 09:58 AM

I am off to see my 12 year old. It is a huge trigger. Not her personally. My ex, the guilt of not being there for her. The shame of my addiction. He keeps me from her all the time. Doesn't tell me when there is a school function. Doesn't encourage her to call me. Most of it is my fault but even when I was sober for 5 months, he didn't include me. He is very religious and very judgmental. Hence one of the reasons for divorce. Have a lot of resentment towards him. I will be okay but it really bothers me. I have this gnawing feeling deep in the pit of my stomach. Something to talk to my therapist about for sure.

DisplacedGRITS · 05-06-2012, 10:09 AM

It's great that you can identify it as a trigger so you can prepare yourself for it and not be caught off guard. Be sure to let your therapist know that your identifying your triggers.

Sapling · 05-06-2012, 10:14 AM

Hang in there Soberred...If you pray...Pray for strength.

roosta · 05-06-2012, 06:29 PM

I am going through exactly the same thing.

We will get through this, I wish I had more advice. Just know there is someone out there that knows those sad feelings, and she is sober just like you are tonight.

roosta

soberred · 05-06-2012, 06:52 PM

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Originally Posted by roosta

I am going through exactly the same thing.

We will get through this, I wish I had more advice. Just know there is someone out there that knows those sad feelings, and she is sober just like you are tonight.

roosta

Thanks roosta. I made it through. Sober. It was a great visit too.

soberred · 05-06-2012, 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Sapling

Hang in there Soberred...If you pray...Pray for strength.

You have a loving heart Sapling. Thank you for always responding. I do pray.

05-06-2012, 09:58 AM	#1 (permalink)
soberred Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Where the sun is always shining Posts: 426	Going to see my youngest is a trigger I am off to see my 12 year old. It is a huge trigger. Not her personally. My ex, the guilt of not being there for her. The shame of my addiction. He keeps me from her all the time. Doesn't tell me when there is a school function. Doesn't encourage her to call me. Most of it is my fault but even when I was sober for 5 months, he didn't include me. He is very religious and very judgmental. Hence one of the reasons for divorce. Have a lot of resentment towards him. I will be okay but it really bothers me. I have this gnawing feeling deep in the pit of my stomach. Something to talk to my therapist about for sure.

05-06-2012, 10:09 AM	#2 (permalink)
DisplacedGRITS Crazy Cat Lady Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Milwaukee, WI Posts: 1,918 Blog Entries: 3	It's great that you can identify it as a trigger so you can prepare yourself for it and not be caught off guard. Be sure to let your therapist know that your identifying your triggers.

05-06-2012, 10:14 AM	#3 (permalink)
Sapling AA Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Between Meetings Posts: 9,004	Hang in there Soberred...If you pray...Pray for strength.

05-06-2012, 06:29 PM	#4 (permalink)
roosta urban chicken Join Date: May 2012 Location: Florida Posts: 74	I am going through exactly the same thing. We will get through this, I wish I had more advice. Just know there is someone out there that knows those sad feelings, and she is sober just like you are tonight. roosta

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