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Old 12-05-2011, 05:27 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Drunk phone calls

I guess I now know how people felt when I called them up drunk. Last few days I have gotten drunk calls from my brother. That slurring "hey sis, I love you, and then 2 hours later calling again to say "hey sis, just wanted to call and say I love you". It wouldn't be so upsetting if it weren't for the fact he has cancer. He has been on a 3 day drunk and is going to chemo today. As if the chemo and radiation doesn't reek havoc on his body enough. He has to poison himself good before his last chemo treatment. I am so angry at him. I want to call him up and tell him but what good is that going to do? I would only sound like a hypocrite. You can't tell a drunk what they are doing wrong. I hate alcohol. I hate everything it does. I wish I would have never taken that first drink. I hate the destruction, pain and term-oil it has caused my family for generations. I hope I have at least broken the cycle for my daughters and their children. Thanks for letting me vent.
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I'm so sorry. This must be very difficult.
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I used to call my freinds drunk to talk, I'd make promises that I really didnt want to make, now I dont even wanto talk on the phone at all being sober, go figure.

I wish you the best, you can be and stay sober if you really wanto quit.
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I used to call my freinds drunk to talk, I'd make promises that I really didnt want to make, now I dont even wanto talk on the phone at all being sober, go figure.

I wish you the best, you can be and stay sober if you really wanto quit.

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I'm so sorry for what you and your brother are dealing with.

I also made random drunk phone calls and still cringe at the memory of them.
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I'm so sorry for what you and your brother are dealing with.

I also made random drunk phone calls and still cringe at the memory of them.

Ya. Been there. Amazing how being sober enables you to deal with things with maturity. Had I been drinking, I might be crying in my vodka right about now.
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Prayers to you & your brother,

Glad I'm sober too. Thanks :ghug3
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I don't understand how your brother can even tolerate alcohol if he's been undergoing chemo (and i assume radiation too, they usually go together). the treatments dehydrate and make you sick as a dog without help. he might be more susceptable to alcohol poisoning and his radiology-oncologist should know what he's doing.

i'm sorry for the circumstance, hope you are doing better today.
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I don't understand how your brother can even tolerate alcohol if he's been undergoing chemo (and i assume radiation too, they usually go together). the treatments dehydrate and make you sick as a dog without help. he might be more susceptable to alcohol poisoning and his radiology-oncologist should know what he's doing.

i'm sorry for the circumstance, hope you are doing better today.

I don't understand that myself. He is already dehydrated. I doubt they would give him his treatment today if they knew he was on a 3 day drunk. I am a nurse. You think he would listen to me? NO! Very frustrating.
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I am so sorry you are having to go through this. Prayers and hugs to you and your brother. Take care.
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maybe he needs extra hydration therapy before chemo treatment? especially if he has not been able to eat, there is nothing to absorb the booze he's taking in. do they have him taking clonazepam?

again, i understand your frustration and am glad you are holding up well.
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maybe he needs extra hydration therapy before chemo treatment? especially if he has not been able to eat, there is nothing to absorb the booze he's taking in. do they have him taking clonazepam?

again, i understand your frustration and am glad you are holding up well.
No. He is on pain killers, phenergan and buspar. I know he is dehydrated because his bp is really low and turgor is poor. He is eating ok now but doesn't drink enough fluids. He isn't listening. I know he is going to be very sick after this treatment.
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I'm sorry for your situation, soberred.
It's so hard to watch people we love make self destructive decisions.

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