Asking for prayers for my daughter (pk) - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

least · 07-09-2009, 10:58 AM

She is horribly depressed and stressed with new baby who screams a lot and sleeps less. She's not getting enough sleep herself and is distraught to the point of having thoughts of suicide. Hates herself cause she's feeling like having a baby was a mistake, that she can't handle it, that she's a 'bad' mom for having these feelings.

She was given antidepressants but they haven't 'kicked in' yet. She has counseling appts scheduled but had to cancel her appt yesterday due to not having slept in a day and was exhausted. I have never seen her so upset and depressed. I gave her the number for our mental health crisis team and she promised to call them today. I don't know what else to do for her except pray that she gets some relief. :praying

Please could you keep her and baby in your prayers and thoughts. I am worried sick about her and don't know what to do.

BKP · 07-09-2009, 11:47 AM

Once she realizes that she has some responsibility in regards to having a child she will want to do the best. I can not speak from experience because I have no children although take care of my newphew when i can do to similar situations as you mentioned. Being there is crucial, for support and help is crucial.

nelco · 07-09-2009, 11:50 AM

if prayers will help least....im saying them now xx

suki44883 · 07-09-2009, 11:52 AM

(((LEAST))) Of course I'll send prayers out for your daughter and her little baby. Do you live close enough to her to help her out a little? Is there anyone who could help with the baby and give her a little break? I know how stressful it is when they are so young. Is she sure it's nothing medical that could be causing the baby to scream so much? (((HUGS)))

I'm not sure I understood your post, BKP.

mistycshore · 07-09-2009, 11:54 AM

Postpartum depression sucks.

Sending good thoughts and wishes to you both.

grateful2b · 07-09-2009, 11:56 AM

Prayers on their way, Least
I had post-partum depression too, and I was alone with my baby...The first six months were brutal...
I think all mothers struggling with depression need to be assured that their feelings are normal and okay and don't deem them bad mothers. I know I needed some downtime as well as meds to get through...Didn't get the downtime but the med did eventually help..
Is there anyway people; friends can come in and sit with baby so she can get a break if she can't afford a sitter? Getting some extra sleep would really help. Can she also get some face-to-face support around this as well...that would be a huge help for her...
I wish her well. Least and you too..

least · 07-09-2009, 12:11 PM

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Originally Posted by BKP

Once she realizes that she has some responsibility in regards to having a child she will want to do the best. I can not speak from experience because I have no children although take care of my newphew when i can do to similar situations as you mentioned. Being there is crucial, for support and help is crucial.

She DOES realize her responsibility - that's what's driving her nuts. Knowing what she's supposed to do yet feeling unable to do it due to depression, lack of enough sleep, and a constantly screaming baby who will not be comforted no matter what she does.

And he's been to the baby doc recently and she found nothing wrong with him.

NewLeaf · 07-09-2009, 12:14 PM

Agree with G2B. Is she able to sleep when the baby's sleeping? I felt so guilty sleeping during the day for a while until I realized that I had to catch whatever minutes I could, whenever I could.

Will keep you and your daughter in my thoughts and prayers, Least. PLEASE keep us posted.

Hugs to all three of you.

IO Storm · 07-09-2009, 12:27 PM

My first breakdown was at 19 with second daughter..severe PPD. She was ill, allergic

to everything and cried for months. Lack of sleep..it was practically non-existent.

This mama needs some rest. I feel for her, Least, so very much. I sure will pray,

starting now, for her, and for the baby, and for your family...

Love,

Sher

SeekSobriety · 07-09-2009, 12:29 PM

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.............She's not getting enough sleep herself and is distraught to the point of having thoughts of suicide....

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
I hope she can get the help she needs.

If she needs someone to talk to she can speak with someone at the 24 hour free counseling line 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

Quote:

What Are The Warning Signs For Suicide?
Seek help as soon as possible by contacting a mental health professional or by calling the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK if you or someone you know exhibits any of the following signs:

* Threatening to hurt or kill oneself or talking about wanting to hurt or kill oneself
* Looking for ways to kill oneself by seeking access to firearms, available pills, or other means
* Talking or writing about death, dying, or suicide when these actions are out of the ordinary for the person
* Feeling hopeless
* Feeling rage or uncontrolled anger or seeking revenge
* Acting reckless or engaging in risky activities - seemingly without thinking
* Feeling trapped - like there's no way out
* Increasing alcohol or drug use
* Withdrawing from friends, family, and society
* Feeling anxious, agitated, or unable to sleep or sleeping all the time
* Experiencing dramatic mood changes
* Seeing no reason for living or having no sense of purpose in life

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline...ningSigns.aspx

Waterman · 07-09-2009, 12:30 PM

Prayers coming.....

KenL · 07-09-2009, 12:53 PM

Hey least,

Prayers for you and the younglings are on the way. I hope they make a difference and things start to ease up.

NewBeginning010 · 07-09-2009, 01:08 PM

Inbound, may you all get through this together & be stronger for it.

Take Care,

NB

Aysha · 07-09-2009, 01:08 PM

Have no experience raising a baby. I have nothing but total respect for all parents.
I dont think I have the patience for it.

I am sending good thoughts to you all.
She will get the hang of it all soon.

Toomutch · 07-09-2009, 01:21 PM

Sending prayers Least!

hopeful999 · 07-09-2009, 02:16 PM

Thoughts and prayers are with her. My first child, a girl, was just like that. She had severe colic and reflux and was miserable for the first 3 months of her life. I got no sleep at all. The only way I could get any sleep was to sleep with her while she nursed. And that is what I did night and day for months on end. I did not get depressed, but did feel left out of the world or a while. After 3-4 months, it got better. By six months, she was still throwing up her food (reflux can take a year or more to go away) but the colic was gone and I began to see a nice little child emerge. Difficult babies can become delightful children, or even delightful older babies. I hope she can hang in there. Sounds like some post-partum depression as well, which I did not have (thank god!)

least · 07-09-2009, 05:49 PM

Pk and baby are doing a bit better this evening, both got a nap today, and they are having dinner out with sister/aunt. Please continue to keep them in your prayers. Thank you!:ghug2

**Dee74** · 07-09-2009, 05:54 PM

missed this before.

Glad they both feel a little better...and I'm glad you're there to lend a hand when you can, least.

best wishes and prayers as requested

D

***Anna*** · 07-09-2009, 06:05 PM

Hi Least,

I am so glad that your daughter is getting help and hopefully the antidepressants will begin to work soon.

I will send prayers for your daughter and her baby!

Horselover · 07-09-2009, 06:42 PM

Definitely will pray for her Least. I had post partum too and it is really not fun. Lose interest in everything including baby. I was put on meds and it really helped me. I felt balance and I only took them for a few months.

She's on my prayer list Least. Hugs to you, your daughter and the baby. God bless.

***Hevyn*** · 07-09-2009, 06:55 PM

I remember feeling so overwhelmed for the first few months. Being maternal did not come naturally to me at all - it was a struggle. We're not supposed to admit that, though. I'll be thinking of you Least - hope things continue to improve.

shaun00 · 07-09-2009, 07:13 PM

i pray that the holy father be with you both..
protect both of you and guide you..

sorry to hear that least......you are in my thoughts.

Thami · 07-10-2009, 12:40 AM

May the Good Lord be with you all, and comfort you in your time of difficulties and rejoice with you once happy days arrive...

:praying

Gypsy Feet · 07-10-2009, 12:56 AM

I remember vividly sitting on my bed, listening to my daughter cry, and actually planning to leave her with a note on my grand mother's doorstep before I disappeared forever. . .

let her know it is not forever, it does get better. My daughter is 21 now, and we are best of buds.

OZboy · 07-10-2009, 01:01 AM

hugs for mom,bubs and of coarse,nanna...lol.Oz..

07-09-2009, 10:58 AM	#1 (permalink)
least bona fido dog-lover Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: eastern USA Posts: 23,488 Blog Entries: 31	Asking for prayers for my daughter (pk) She is horribly depressed and stressed with new baby who screams a lot and sleeps less. She's not getting enough sleep herself and is distraught to the point of having thoughts of suicide. Hates herself cause she's feeling like having a baby was a mistake, that she can't handle it, that she's a 'bad' mom for having these feelings. She was given antidepressants but they haven't 'kicked in' yet. She has counseling appts scheduled but had to cancel her appt yesterday due to not having slept in a day and was exhausted. I have never seen her so upset and depressed. I gave her the number for our mental health crisis team and she promised to call them today. I don't know what else to do for her except pray that she gets some relief. :praying Please could you keep her and baby in your prayers and thoughts. I am worried sick about her and don't know what to do. __________________ I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them. Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole. Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

07-09-2009, 11:47 AM	#2 (permalink)
BKP Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Syracuse, NY Posts: 331	Once she realizes that she has some responsibility in regards to having a child she will want to do the best. I can not speak from experience because I have no children although take care of my newphew when i can do to similar situations as you mentioned. Being there is crucial, for support and help is crucial. __________________ Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand

07-09-2009, 11:52 AM	#4 (permalink)
suki44883 Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Somewhere Out There Posts: 9,047	(((LEAST))) Of course I'll send prayers out for your daughter and her little baby. Do you live close enough to her to help her out a little? Is there anyone who could help with the baby and give her a little break? I know how stressful it is when they are so young. Is she sure it's nothing medical that could be causing the baby to scream so much? (((HUGS))) I'm not sure I understood your post, BKP. __________________ We call them dumb animals, and so they are, for they cannot tell us how they feel, but they do not suffer less because they have no words. - Anna Sewell - So oftentimes it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key. - The Eagles

07-09-2009, 11:54 AM	#5 (permalink)
mistycshore Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 271	Postpartum depression sucks. Sending good thoughts and wishes to you both. __________________ Misty

07-09-2009, 11:56 AM	#6 (permalink)
grateful2b Leap of Faith Survivor Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 4,556	Prayers on their way, Least I had post-partum depression too, and I was alone with my baby...The first six months were brutal... I think all mothers struggling with depression need to be assured that their feelings are normal and okay and don't deem them bad mothers. I know I needed some downtime as well as meds to get through...Didn't get the downtime but the med did eventually help.. Is there anyway people; friends can come in and sit with baby so she can get a break if she can't afford a sitter? Getting some extra sleep would really help. Can she also get some face-to-face support around this as well...that would be a huge help for her... I wish her well. Least and you too.. __________________ You need to give up the life you have in order to have the life that is waiting for you.

07-09-2009, 11:50 AM	#3 (permalink)
nelco Living in sobriety Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 3,868	if prayers will help least....im saying them now xx

07-09-2009, 12:14 PM	#8 (permalink)
NewLeaf Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Getting There Posts: 799 Blog Entries: 3	Agree with G2B. Is she able to sleep when the baby's sleeping? I felt so guilty sleeping during the day for a while until I realized that I had to catch whatever minutes I could, whenever I could. Will keep you and your daughter in my thoughts and prayers, Least. PLEASE keep us posted. Hugs to all three of you. __________________ It's never too late to be who you might have been. George Eliot

07-09-2009, 12:27 PM	#9 (permalink)
IO Storm IO Storm Wheel Of Fortune Champion! Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 18,169 Blog Entries: 2	My first breakdown was at 19 with second daughter..severe PPD. She was ill, allergic to everything and cried for months. Lack of sleep..it was practically non-existent. This mama needs some rest. I feel for her, Least, so very much. I sure will pray, starting now, for her, and for the baby, and for your family... Love, Sher __________________ "God holds me still in the eye of the Storm"

07-09-2009, 12:30 PM	#11 (permalink)
Waterman Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Virginia Posts: 187	Prayers coming.....

07-09-2009, 12:53 PM	#12 (permalink)
KenL Member McDonalds Champion! Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,349 Blog Entries: 26	Hey least, Prayers for you and the younglings are on the way. I hope they make a difference and things start to ease up.

07-09-2009, 01:08 PM	#13 (permalink)
NewBeginning010 Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 1,895	Inbound, may you all get through this together & be stronger for it. Take Care, NB __________________ "Today is the first day of the rest of your life"

07-09-2009, 01:08 PM	#14 (permalink)
Aysha Looking For Myself...Sober Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Where the heart is Posts: 10,087 Blog Entries: 26	Have no experience raising a baby. I have nothing but total respect for all parents. I dont think I have the patience for it. I am sending good thoughts to you all. She will get the hang of it all soon. __________________ Dont just count your days...Make your days count! It may not get easier, But it will get better.

07-09-2009, 01:21 PM	#15 (permalink)
Toomutch with a new light in my eyes Join Date: May 2007 Location: Littleton, Co. Posts: 3,178	Sending prayers Least! __________________ The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.

07-09-2009, 02:16 PM	#16 (permalink)
hopeful999 Guest Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 111 Blog Entries: 10	Thoughts and prayers are with her. My first child, a girl, was just like that. She had severe colic and reflux and was miserable for the first 3 months of her life. I got no sleep at all. The only way I could get any sleep was to sleep with her while she nursed. And that is what I did night and day for months on end. I did not get depressed, but did feel left out of the world or a while. After 3-4 months, it got better. By six months, she was still throwing up her food (reflux can take a year or more to go away) but the colic was gone and I began to see a nice little child emerge. Difficult babies can become delightful children, or even delightful older babies. I hope she can hang in there. Sounds like some post-partum depression as well, which I did not have (thank god!)

07-09-2009, 05:49 PM	#17 (permalink)
least bona fido dog-lover Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: eastern USA Posts: 23,488 Blog Entries: 31	Pk and baby are doing a bit better this evening, both got a nap today, and they are having dinner out with sister/aunt. Please continue to keep them in your prayers. Thank you!:ghug2 __________________ I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them. Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole. Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

07-09-2009, 05:54 PM	#18 (permalink)
Dee74 SR Moderator Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Seas Posts: 42,200	missed this before. Glad they both feel a little better...and I'm glad you're there to lend a hand when you can, least. best wishes and prayers as requested D __________________ “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be”Lao Tzu

07-09-2009, 06:05 PM	#19 (permalink)
*Anna* Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 22,741	Hi Least, I am so glad that your daughter is getting help and hopefully the antidepressants will begin to work soon. I will send prayers for your daughter and her baby! __________________ And I dont know what the future is holding in store I dont know where Im going, Im not sure where I've been There's a spirit that guides me, a light that shines for me My life is worth the living, I dont need to see the end. John Denver

07-09-2009, 06:42 PM	#20 (permalink)
Horselover Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: NM Posts: 6,568 Blog Entries: 3	Definitely will pray for her Least. I had post partum too and it is really not fun. Lose interest in everything including baby. I was put on meds and it really helped me. I felt balance and I only took them for a few months. She's on my prayer list Least. Hugs to you, your daughter and the baby. God bless. __________________ "For who among us shall cast the first stone?"

07-09-2009, 06:55 PM	#21 (permalink)
*Hevyn* Learning to live again Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Catskills, NY Posts: 5,385	I remember feeling so overwhelmed for the first few months. Being maternal did not come naturally to me at all - it was a struggle. We're not supposed to admit that, though. I'll be thinking of you Least - hope things continue to improve.

07-09-2009, 07:13 PM	#22 (permalink)
shaun00 Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: uk Posts: 2,184	i pray that the holy father be with you both.. protect both of you and guide you.. sorry to hear that least......you are in my thoughts.

07-10-2009, 12:40 AM	#23 (permalink)
Thami Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: JHB Posts: 89	May the Good Lord be with you all, and comfort you in your time of difficulties and rejoice with you once happy days arrive... :praying __________________ "When you have one last breath left, use it to say Thank You"

07-10-2009, 12:56 AM	#24 (permalink)
Gypsy Feet mergirl Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Paradise Posts: 3,778 Blog Entries: 4	I remember vividly sitting on my bed, listening to my daughter cry, and actually planning to leave her with a note on my grand mother's doorstep before I disappeared forever. . . let her know it is not forever, it does get better. My daughter is 21 now, and we are best of buds. __________________ ~Lisa~ ban the deed, not the breed~ three years of continuous sobriety and counting <3 (its a sideways heart!)

07-10-2009, 01:01 AM	#25 (permalink)
OZboy Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: ozstrayleeya Posts: 2,951	hugs for mom,bubs and of coarse,nanna...lol.Oz..

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