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Caria · 07-09-2009, 10:34 AM

We are going to visit friends this summer (friends we ALWAYS drink very heavily with). Most of our friends also drink here and there, although i wouldnt consider anyone other than myself really has a problem not from what i have seen.

what have you told people when they offered you a drink and you wanted to refuse? I dont want to start divulging my personal info. i have been thinking of either saying im on antibiotics or something like that? what has worked for you?

my family knows that i am taking this seriously, but for peopl that arent as close to me i dont feel i should be telling them ..

tommyk · 07-09-2009, 10:46 AM

"Thanks, but I'm not drinking today."

Firehazard · 07-09-2009, 10:49 AM

No thanks. I've developed a allergy to alcohol.

Caria · 07-09-2009, 10:52 AM

thnx i guess it is that simple ...

geothinkah · 07-09-2009, 10:53 AM

No thanks!
No thanks! If you felt the way I do, you wouldn't want a drink either.
No thanks! I don't want to make an enemy out of you too.
Drink? Sure, I'll have a Coke!

**Astro** · 07-09-2009, 10:57 AM

I just spent 10 days with family and friends at a cottage near the beach, there were a few people in our group who drank, and on the island it seemed like alcohol was present just about everywhere. When the cravings came up, I picked up my Big Book and started reading, and I was able to make it to a small meeting at a church.

These answers work for me when someone offers me a drink:

* No.

* No thank you.

* No, I don't drink, but thanks.

You get the picture, right? No is a word, and most people are usually pretty accepting and respectful of it. Of course, if that doesn't work, you can always say:

* Sure, I'd love a drink, and while you're at it you might want to pre-dial 911. You're going to need the police here.

brokenhalo · 07-09-2009, 11:01 AM

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No thanks! I don't want to make an enemy out of you too.

that's hillarious!

Angel1 · 07-09-2009, 11:02 AM

I see that FireHazard said the same thing I was going to say...
tell them that you have developed an allergic reaction to alcohol. If they really care about you, and your presence is not merely to be there as a 'drinking buddy'... they will accept this explanation & respect it.
And we're not lying when we say we are allergic to alcohol, because we really do have a negative reaction to it.

bjork · 07-09-2009, 11:58 AM

I'm trying to lose weight.
My stomach is really upset. Alcohol will definitely make it worse.
I have a headache. Alcohol will definitely make it worse.

smacked · 07-09-2009, 01:11 PM

I just say no thanks.. I used to think people cared about what I did way more than they really do LOL.. and I found the only reason people even ask or pester about it is because they feel weird because they're drinking so much!

Before I quit for good, and would take "breaks" (what a laugh THAT was), I would say that I didn't feel like it, or had an early day.. or was trying to eat healthier.. etc.

shelly009 · 07-09-2009, 01:31 PM

The lose weight thing works well, if you have any weight to lose. Or I like " I am on a health kick "

Caria · 07-09-2009, 03:39 PM

thanks everyone...truly appreciated!!

NewBeginning010 · 07-09-2009, 03:52 PM

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Originally Posted by smacked

I just say no thanks.. I used to think people cared about what I did way more than they really do LOL.. and I found the only reason people even ask or pester about it is because they feel weird because they're drinking so much!

Before I quit for good, and would take "breaks" (what a laugh THAT was), I would say that I didn't feel like it, or had an early day.. or was trying to eat healthier.. etc.

Exactly Smacked ;-) I was once gently reminded on these forums that the universe didn't revolve around the event of me drinking or not... I was quite surprised lol.

Now I realize it was me making my internal universe revolve around drinking.

When it comes to staying sober I am in the "white lies are ok" club.

Say whatever works for you:

No Thanks, I have a big day planned tomorrow
No Thanks, I am on medication
No Thanks, I am not feeling up to it today
No Thanks, I am giving my body a break
No Thanks, I am trying to tighten up my tummy
No Thanks, I am trying to be healthier
No Thanks, I am driving
No Thanks, I need to be up early in the morning
No Thanks, I am taking a break from alcohol

{One day soon} No thanks, I don't drink alcohol

I liked this one from earlier "Yes Please, do you have any coca-cola"
Yes Please, could I get a ginger ale?
Yes Please, a glass of water would be great, do you have a lemon?
Yes, Please, a coffee would be great
Yes Please, what kind of teas do you have?

Good luck & stay close

NB

07-09-2009, 10:34 AM	#1 (permalink)
Caria Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: NJ Posts: 17	So here is a question ... We are going to visit friends this summer (friends we ALWAYS drink very heavily with). Most of our friends also drink here and there, although i wouldnt consider anyone other than myself really has a problem not from what i have seen. what have you told people when they offered you a drink and you wanted to refuse? I dont want to start divulging my personal info. i have been thinking of either saying im on antibiotics or something like that? what has worked for you? my family knows that i am taking this seriously, but for peopl that arent as close to me i dont feel i should be telling them ..

07-09-2009, 10:49 AM	#3 (permalink)
Firehazard SHARING THE LOAD Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Oregon Posts: 431 Blog Entries: 16	No thanks. I've developed a allergy to alcohol. __________________ "Your sucess and happiness are forgiven you only if you generously consent to share them"--Albert Camus

07-09-2009, 10:57 AM	#6 (permalink)
Astro Forum Leader Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Scottsdale, AZ, one big happy dysfunctional family! Posts: 9,991	I just spent 10 days with family and friends at a cottage near the beach, there were a few people in our group who drank, and on the island it seemed like alcohol was present just about everywhere. When the cravings came up, I picked up my Big Book and started reading, and I was able to make it to a small meeting at a church. These answers work for me when someone offers me a drink: * No. * No thank you. * No, I don't drink, but thanks. You get the picture, right? No is a word, and most people are usually pretty accepting and respectful of it. Of course, if that doesn't work, you can always say: * Sure, I'd love a drink, and while you're at it you might want to pre-dial 911. You're going to need the police here. __________________ "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty, and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming---WOW-What a ride!"

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07-09-2009, 10:46 AM	#2 (permalink)
tommyk www.youtube.com/teekmusic Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 2,954	"Thanks, but I'm not drinking today."

07-09-2009, 10:52 AM	#4 (permalink)
Caria Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: NJ Posts: 17	thnx i guess it is that simple ...

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geothinkah Alcoholic Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Calais Maine Posts: 38 Blog Entries: 14	No thanks! No thanks! If you felt the way I do, you wouldn't want a drink either. No thanks! I don't want to make an enemy out of you too. Drink? Sure, I'll have a Coke!

07-09-2009, 11:02 AM	#8 (permalink)
Angel1 Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 384	I see that FireHazard said the same thing I was going to say... tell them that you have developed an allergic reaction to alcohol. If they really care about you, and your presence is not merely to be there as a 'drinking buddy'... they will accept this explanation & respect it. And we're not lying when we say we are allergic to alcohol, because we really do have a negative reaction to it.

07-09-2009, 11:58 AM	#9 (permalink)
bjork Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 251	I'm trying to lose weight. My stomach is really upset. Alcohol will definitely make it worse. I have a headache. Alcohol will definitely make it worse.

07-09-2009, 01:11 PM	#10 (permalink)
smacked Heathen Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: La La Land Posts: 1,314	I just say no thanks.. I used to think people cared about what I did way more than they really do LOL.. and I found the only reason people even ask or pester about it is because they feel weird because they're drinking so much! Before I quit for good, and would take "breaks" (what a laugh THAT was), I would say that I didn't feel like it, or had an early day.. or was trying to eat healthier.. etc.

07-09-2009, 01:31 PM	#11 (permalink)
shelly009 Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 139	The lose weight thing works well, if you have any weight to lose. Or I like " I am on a health kick "

07-09-2009, 03:39 PM	#12 (permalink)
Caria Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: NJ Posts: 17	thanks everyone...truly appreciated!!

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