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nogard · 06-29-2009, 11:59 PM

((((HL))))) gald you let it out and I hope you get there another time.

((((Jules))))) get well quick

MCake · 06-30-2009, 03:57 AM

S.. I'm sorry to hear this. I also believe in a bigger picture - there's no way to know, but maybe this situation will work out in an even better way than you had planned. In the meantime, pistachios are great therapy

Tazman53 · 06-30-2009, 04:28 AM

Sarah being upset is so understandable, let me throw this out there, perhaps you could fly your dad out to see you all? Give him the plane ticket as his initial present and then the album when he arrives. Maybe this is not doable either, but it might be.

least · 06-30-2009, 04:51 AM

I'm sorry to hear of this. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that you can have your trip after all. Big hugs!

Jomey · 06-30-2009, 06:08 AM

Hey S - Sorry I'm late on this....All I have for you is a hug (mainly because Miss Joanie -Hevyn- already took my answer! LOL!) and a tiny bit of advice....I know your son is a little younger than my youngest, but don't worry about letting him see you cry. We all get our hearts broken in life, sad but true, and the sooner that kids learn that their parents are "real" people with real emotions, etc., the better off they are, IMO. You are setting a mighty fine example for him - crying over missing your daddy's birthday is extremely noble, considering how many of our elderly are sitting in nursing homes waiting for visits that are never even considered, let alone planned and looked forward to.

You are a wonderful daughter and mother and friend....but pistachios???? COME ON, S!!!! This calls for ice cream, candy, soda, french fries, something more FUN than pistachios!!! (hopefully that gets a little smile out of you!)

Love you! Jomey

Horselover · 06-30-2009, 06:09 AM

You guys really are amazing. As far as flying my Dad out it is a great idea, but I think he'll come on his own with his wife (my stepmom) at some point this fall or winter.

I haven't given up. We called the mortgage lady and she said we could close and they will be able to roll the cost into the mortgage, but no money back. That's not the best scenario, but it would work. If, and this is a big if at the moment, we can close this in July I could still maybe go. If it closes in August well then no. Son starts back to school in August and I have a friend I'm feeding her animals for while she's away in August. Promised her that months ago and can't go back on my word. See July is the only possibility. If I can get tickets under $1000 round trip then son and I will fly possibly. It still may work out and if not, I'll live. It just feels so bad, but I actually felt the feelings and I didn't drown them. I do feel glad that I didn't drown them because I know when things get that bad its okay to cry and really hurt because like cravings the feelings go too.

Thanks again SR for helping a person through what could have turned out to be a relapse, but wasn't because posting to you good people REALLY helped me. This is why SR can and does work. I really am thanking God (my HP) for this place and each and every one of you. xoxoxoxox Sarah

Tazman53 · 06-30-2009, 06:36 AM

Sarah I pray that what will be will be and all will be good in the long run.

coffeenut · 06-30-2009, 09:59 AM

We are thankful for you, too!

I hope everything works out....I agree w/Hevyn, btw. Hard to accept right now, though. Best wishes to you and your dad.

IO Storm · 06-30-2009, 02:48 PM

HL

I hope everything works out just exactly the way it is supposed to. The best way

for you, and your family. Don't give up!

Hugs, and prayers.

Believe808 · 06-30-2009, 02:53 PM

I'm so glad you are here, you have been a positive in my life and recovery. It will turn out okay. It's amazing that we get through things without picking up that drink today. I know my HP is working overtime with me lately, ha ha.

Aysha · 06-30-2009, 06:15 PM

I really dont have any advice either. Just want you to know I am thinking of you and hope things all work out.
Hang in there and dont give up on anything.

Bamboozle · 06-30-2009, 06:25 PM

Hello, HL. Hope you are feeling better. Hang in there.

Rusty Zipper · 06-30-2009, 07:13 PM

{{{s}}}

Horselover · 06-30-2009, 07:49 PM

Had a long talk with a friend I work with today and she told me ever since her brother died when he was 15 years old she views life quite differently. She said money is money and you will usually always owe on something, but we never know when we might lose someone or we, ourselves, might not be around. She isn't saying to be careless, but she did advise me to continue with the plans to go to N.Y. Husband urged me too.

I bit the bullet and put the last charge I will make on the card and found a pretty awesome deal. Son and I are still going, but we are flying rather then driving. My dad is actually relieved because he was worried about me driving that far. I think I could have handled it, but . . . will never know. I am just happy to be going period.

Wanted to let you all know there is a happy ending to this story and I will be off the board for awhile starting July 20th. Hugs - Sarah

Horselover · 06-30-2009, 08:01 PM

Sorry double post.

Pancake · 06-30-2009, 08:06 PM

Dear Horselover, (((((((Big large Hugs)))))))

I am so sorry for this huge disappointment you've been dealt. It is obvious how very much love you have for your father and I'm sure he knows how much you love him. What a special and lovely gift you have planned. Keep going with it he will cherish that whenever it is finished to give to him. That is a gift that takes some real love and real thought put into it for very sure!!

I wish I had something wonderful to say or do to help you but I too, believe things happen for a reason. God just doesn't always tell us the reason right away. I pray that something will work out for you to be together again soon.

Love Pancake XO

Toomutch · 07-04-2009, 01:11 PM

Sarah, There is a big smile on my face knowing that you found a way to visit your dad. I'll bet that your dad is soooo happy!

Horselover · 07-04-2009, 01:35 PM

He is Suzette and I just finished his birthday present. I scrapbooked those old childhood photos of him. It was the first time I ever scrapbooked anything and I think it turned out fairly decent.

Happy Fourth Suzette!! Hugs - Sarah

stone · 07-04-2009, 01:40 PM

Hi Sarah, I am glad you are going to see your Dad and I am sure he will love the present. I think you made the right decision.

Horselover · 07-04-2009, 01:42 PM

Thanks Stoney!

IO Storm · 07-04-2009, 02:33 PM

Yay!

I'm so glad, Suzette!

Things do have a way of working out...

06-29-2009, 11:59 PM	#26 (permalink)
nogard everything is already ok Join Date: May 2005 Location: Melbourne Victoria Australia Posts: 16,962 Blog Entries: 3	((((HL))))) gald you let it out and I hope you get there another time. ((((Jules))))) get well quick __________________ ...And like a bird that's on the wing and is flying free He can hear the song of home endlessly

06-30-2009, 04:28 AM	#28 (permalink)
Tazman53 Follow Directions! Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Fredericksburg, Va. Posts: 9,745	Sarah being upset is so understandable, let me throw this out there, perhaps you could fly your dad out to see you all? Give him the plane ticket as his initial present and then the album when he arrives. Maybe this is not doable either, but it might be. __________________ All BB quotes are from the First Edition of the BB Follow directions! Sobriety date 18 Sept. 2006 Sober today thanks to AA

06-30-2009, 04:51 AM	#29 (permalink)
least bona fido dog-lover Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: eastern USA Posts: 23,513 Blog Entries: 31	I'm sorry to hear of this. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that you can have your trip after all. Big hugs! __________________ I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them. Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole. Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

06-30-2009, 06:08 AM	#30 (permalink)
Jomey Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Hicktown, PA Posts: 1,440	Hey S - Sorry I'm late on this....All I have for you is a hug (mainly because Miss Joanie -Hevyn- already took my answer! LOL!) and a tiny bit of advice....I know your son is a little younger than my youngest, but don't worry about letting him see you cry. We all get our hearts broken in life, sad but true, and the sooner that kids learn that their parents are "real" people with real emotions, etc., the better off they are, IMO. You are setting a mighty fine example for him - crying over missing your daddy's birthday is extremely noble, considering how many of our elderly are sitting in nursing homes waiting for visits that are never even considered, let alone planned and looked forward to. You are a wonderful daughter and mother and friend....but pistachios???? COME ON, S!!!! This calls for ice cream, candy, soda, french fries, something more FUN than pistachios!!! (hopefully that gets a little smile out of you!) Love you! Jomey __________________ Joy is a net of love by which we catch souls. - Mother Teresa

06-30-2009, 06:09 AM	#31 (permalink)
Horselover Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: NM Posts: 6,568 Blog Entries: 3	You guys really are amazing. As far as flying my Dad out it is a great idea, but I think he'll come on his own with his wife (my stepmom) at some point this fall or winter. I haven't given up. We called the mortgage lady and she said we could close and they will be able to roll the cost into the mortgage, but no money back. That's not the best scenario, but it would work. If, and this is a big if at the moment, we can close this in July I could still maybe go. If it closes in August well then no. Son starts back to school in August and I have a friend I'm feeding her animals for while she's away in August. Promised her that months ago and can't go back on my word. See July is the only possibility. If I can get tickets under $1000 round trip then son and I will fly possibly. It still may work out and if not, I'll live. It just feels so bad, but I actually felt the feelings and I didn't drown them. I do feel glad that I didn't drown them because I know when things get that bad its okay to cry and really hurt because like cravings the feelings go too. Thanks again SR for helping a person through what could have turned out to be a relapse, but wasn't because posting to you good people REALLY helped me. This is why SR can and does work. I really am thanking God (my HP) for this place and each and every one of you. xoxoxoxox Sarah __________________ "For who among us shall cast the first stone?"

06-30-2009, 03:57 AM	#27 (permalink)
MCake Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 2,261 Blog Entries: 8	S.. I'm sorry to hear this. I also believe in a bigger picture - there's no way to know, but maybe this situation will work out in an even better way than you had planned. In the meantime, pistachios are great therapy

06-30-2009, 06:36 AM	#32 (permalink)
Tazman53 Follow Directions! Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Fredericksburg, Va. Posts: 9,745	Sarah I pray that what will be will be and all will be good in the long run. __________________ All BB quotes are from the First Edition of the BB Follow directions! Sobriety date 18 Sept. 2006 Sober today thanks to AA

06-30-2009, 09:59 AM	#33 (permalink)
coffeenut 6/20/08 Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 4,059	We are thankful for you, too! I hope everything works out....I agree w/Hevyn, btw. Hard to accept right now, though. Best wishes to you and your dad. __________________ Standing at the starting line, we're all cowards. Alberto Salazar

06-30-2009, 02:48 PM	#34 (permalink)
IO Storm IO Storm Wheel Of Fortune Champion! Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 18,175 Blog Entries: 2	HL I hope everything works out just exactly the way it is supposed to. The best way for you, and your family. Don't give up! Hugs, and prayers. __________________ "God holds me still in the eye of the Storm"

06-30-2009, 02:53 PM	#35 (permalink)
Believe808 Miracles Happen Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 9,977	I'm so glad you are here, you have been a positive in my life and recovery. It will turn out okay. It's amazing that we get through things without picking up that drink today. I know my HP is working overtime with me lately, ha ha.

06-30-2009, 06:15 PM	#36 (permalink)
Aysha Looking For Myself...Sober Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Where the heart is Posts: 10,087 Blog Entries: 26	I really dont have any advice either. Just want you to know I am thinking of you and hope things all work out. Hang in there and dont give up on anything. __________________ Dont just count your days...Make your days count! It may not get easier, But it will get better.

06-30-2009, 06:25 PM	#37 (permalink)
Bamboozle I got nothin' Duck Hunt 2 Champion! Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: My house. Posts: 4,776 Blog Entries: 14	Hello, HL. Hope you are feeling better. Hang in there. __________________ A strange game. The only winning move is not to play.

06-30-2009, 07:13 PM	#38 (permalink)
Rusty Zipper Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: my room in ct. Posts: 34,764	{{{s}}} __________________ *Rule 62*

06-30-2009, 07:49 PM	#39 (permalink)
Horselover Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: NM Posts: 6,568 Blog Entries: 3	Had a long talk with a friend I work with today and she told me ever since her brother died when he was 15 years old she views life quite differently. She said money is money and you will usually always owe on something, but we never know when we might lose someone or we, ourselves, might not be around. She isn't saying to be careless, but she did advise me to continue with the plans to go to N.Y. Husband urged me too. I bit the bullet and put the last charge I will make on the card and found a pretty awesome deal. Son and I are still going, but we are flying rather then driving. My dad is actually relieved because he was worried about me driving that far. I think I could have handled it, but . . . will never know. I am just happy to be going period. Wanted to let you all know there is a happy ending to this story and I will be off the board for awhile starting July 20th. Hugs - Sarah __________________ "For who among us shall cast the first stone?"

06-30-2009, 08:01 PM	#40 (permalink)
Horselover Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: NM Posts: 6,568 Blog Entries: 3	Sorry double post. __________________ "For who among us shall cast the first stone?"

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06-30-2009, 08:06 PM	#41 (permalink)
Pancake Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 512	Dear Horselover, (((((((Big large Hugs))))))) I am so sorry for this huge disappointment you've been dealt. It is obvious how very much love you have for your father and I'm sure he knows how much you love him. What a special and lovely gift you have planned. Keep going with it he will cherish that whenever it is finished to give to him. That is a gift that takes some real love and real thought put into it for very sure!! I wish I had something wonderful to say or do to help you but I too, believe things happen for a reason. God just doesn't always tell us the reason right away. I pray that something will work out for you to be together again soon. Love Pancake XO __________________ Sober since January 1, 2009 NON-Smoker since September 16, 2009

07-04-2009, 01:11 PM	#42 (permalink)
Toomutch with a new light in my eyes Join Date: May 2007 Location: Littleton, Co. Posts: 3,178	Sarah, There is a big smile on my face knowing that you found a way to visit your dad. I'll bet that your dad is soooo happy! __________________ The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.

07-04-2009, 01:35 PM	#43 (permalink)
Horselover Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: NM Posts: 6,568 Blog Entries: 3	He is Suzette and I just finished his birthday present. I scrapbooked those old childhood photos of him. It was the first time I ever scrapbooked anything and I think it turned out fairly decent. Happy Fourth Suzette!! Hugs - Sarah __________________ "For who among us shall cast the first stone?"

07-04-2009, 01:40 PM	#44 (permalink)
stone Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: UK Posts: 18,303	Hi Sarah, I am glad you are going to see your Dad and I am sure he will love the present. I think you made the right decision. __________________ . As from a fire aflame thousands of sparks come forth, even so from the Creator an infinity of beings have life and to him return again. -- Maitri Upanishads

07-04-2009, 01:42 PM	#45 (permalink)
Horselover Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: NM Posts: 6,568 Blog Entries: 3	Thanks Stoney! __________________ "For who among us shall cast the first stone?"

07-04-2009, 02:33 PM	#46 (permalink)
IO Storm IO Storm Wheel Of Fortune Champion! Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 18,175 Blog Entries: 2	Yay! I'm so glad, Suzette! Things do have a way of working out... __________________ "God holds me still in the eye of the Storm"

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