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1_day@_a_time · 06-27-2009, 03:57 PM

it's the least I can do.......

As you will learn, the first lesson in Love is Letting Go of Fear is: All that I give is given to myself.

mistycshore · 06-29-2009, 01:11 PM

I can see that this is going to be a long process.

I worked lesson 1, the law of love (and kept 2 in mind) yesterday, and it's interesting because it really was a very good day. When I felt frustrated with people, my husband or myself, I took my little paper out and thought "only the gifts I want to accept for myself." I think lesson 2 popped even more often. The idea that when I presume guilt in another that I'm reinforcing my own sense of it (and even the sense that guilt exists at all) really rung a bell.

Anyway, today I'm reading further and every chapter seems even more relevant than the last. Thanks for the head's up, 1_Day.

1_day@_a_time · 06-29-2009, 01:21 PM

Thank you very much for the update Misty, AWESOME to hear from you! Keep in touch!

tyler · 07-03-2009, 08:46 PM

I got the book today (Thanks 1 Day!!) and just started reading it. I have a hard time concentrating for more than about a minute or two at a time without my mind wandering, so I find myself having to re-read sentences several times as I really want to understand and follow the concepts.

I've read the introductions and part of the first chapter. I like what I have read so far. The basic concept, as I'm understanding it, is to stay focused on the present. Guilt of the past can only harm you, and there truly is nothing you can do about it. The same with the fear of the future. If you can somehow just concentrate on RIGHT NOW, this very second, this very moment in time, you can find peace, or love, as the author defines it.

This makes a great deal of sense to me, though like most "simple" concepts, is much easier said than done!! I think if I can focus on this when I get "off center" this can help. I do have tremendous guilt about the past, and I currently have so many question marks about my future that I do fear it. None of this is doing anything positive for me though, so I shouldn't give it the control over my life that I do.

I'll post more about it when I read a bit more this weekend. Thanks again.

1_day@_a_time · 07-03-2009, 10:29 PM

I was regretting the past and fearing the future.

Suddenly my Lord was speaking:

"My name is I am"

He paused.

I waited. He continued.

"When you live in the past with its mistakes and regrets, it is hard.

I am not there.

My name is not I WAS.

When you live in the future, with its problems and fears, it is hard.

I am not there.

My name is not I WILL BE.

When you live in this moment, it is not hard.

I am here.

My name is I AM."

This is very powerful even if you don't believe in God or a Higher Power.

Take this in in the moment you are in.........RIGHT NOW!!!

happy2balive · 07-03-2009, 10:53 PM

I'm getting the book this week.

Ready2Live · 07-04-2009, 12:19 AM

I'm ordering the book as well. Thank you for the recommendation.

BTW... ending day 1 without a drink. (I seriously can't remember the last time I didn't have a drink or 12... it's been YEARS). Thank you for hanging in there with us new comers.

T.

1_day@_a_time · 07-04-2009, 01:02 PM

perhaps we can set up a study group of the book, with a web cam & telephone conference so we can all share, any of you have the knowledge to do so?

1_day@_a_time · 07-12-2009, 10:15 AM

wondering how YOU are doing with this?

06-27-2009, 03:57 PM	#26 (permalink)
1_day@_a_time Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: Pasadena, CA Posts: 1,258	it's the least I can do....... As you will learn, the first lesson in Love is Letting Go of Fear is: All that I give is given to myself. __________________ "A A's 12 Steps are a group of principles, spiritual in nature, which if practiced* as a way of life, can expel the obsession to drink/think and enable the sufferer to be happily & usefully whole"* "Calmness is trust in action"

06-29-2009, 01:11 PM	#27 (permalink)
mistycshore Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 261	I can see that this is going to be a long process. I worked lesson 1, the law of love (and kept 2 in mind) yesterday, and it's interesting because it really was a very good day. When I felt frustrated with people, my husband or myself, I took my little paper out and thought "only the gifts I want to accept for myself." I think lesson 2 popped even more often. The idea that when I presume guilt in another that I'm reinforcing my own sense of it (and even the sense that guilt exists at all) really rung a bell. Anyway, today I'm reading further and every chapter seems even more relevant than the last. Thanks for the head's up, 1_Day. __________________ Misty

06-29-2009, 01:21 PM	#28 (permalink)
1_day@_a_time Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: Pasadena, CA Posts: 1,258	Thank you very much for the update Misty, AWESOME to hear from you! Keep in touch! __________________ "A A's 12 Steps are a group of principles, spiritual in nature, which if practiced* as a way of life, can expel the obsession to drink/think and enable the sufferer to be happily & usefully whole"* "Calmness is trust in action"

07-03-2009, 08:46 PM	#29 (permalink)
tyler Not all better, getting better Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: The Beautiful Inner Banks of NC Posts: 1,226 Blog Entries: 3	I got the book today (Thanks 1 Day!!) and just started reading it. I have a hard time concentrating for more than about a minute or two at a time without my mind wandering, so I find myself having to re-read sentences several times as I really want to understand and follow the concepts. I've read the introductions and part of the first chapter. I like what I have read so far. The basic concept, as I'm understanding it, is to stay focused on the present. Guilt of the past can only harm you, and there truly is nothing you can do about it. The same with the fear of the future. If you can somehow just concentrate on RIGHT NOW, this very second, this very moment in time, you can find peace, or love, as the author defines it. This makes a great deal of sense to me, though like most "simple" concepts, is much easier said than done!! I think if I can focus on this when I get "off center" this can help. I do have tremendous guilt about the past, and I currently have so many question marks about my future that I do fear it. None of this is doing anything positive for me though, so I shouldn't give it the control over my life that I do. I'll post more about it when I read a bit more this weekend. Thanks again. __________________ Peace and Love, Tyler *"I used to do a little but a little wouldn't do it so a little got more and more. I just keep tryin' to get a little better, said a little better than before."* Mr. Brownstone G-n-R Heck is where people go who don't believe in Gosh

07-03-2009, 10:29 PM	#30 (permalink)
1_day@_a_time Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: Pasadena, CA Posts: 1,258	I am I was regretting the past and fearing the future. Suddenly my Lord was speaking: "My name is I am" He paused. I waited. He continued. "When you live in the past with its mistakes and regrets, it is hard. I am not there. My name is not I WAS. When you live in the future, with its problems and fears, it is hard. I am not there. My name is not I WILL BE. When you live in this moment, it is not hard. I am here. My name is I AM." This is very powerful even if you don't believe in God or a Higher Power. Take this in in the moment you are in.........RIGHT NOW!!! __________________ "A A's 12 Steps are a group of principles, spiritual in nature, which if practiced* as a way of life, can expel the obsession to drink/think and enable the sufferer to be happily & usefully whole"* "Calmness is trust in action"

07-03-2009, 10:53 PM	#31 (permalink)
happy2balive Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 46	I'm getting the book this week.

07-04-2009, 12:19 AM	#32 (permalink)
Ready2Live Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Tucson, AZ Posts: 34	I'm ordering the book as well. Thank you for the recommendation. BTW... ending day 1 without a drink. (I seriously can't remember the last time I didn't have a drink or 12... it's been YEARS). Thank you for hanging in there with us new comers. T.

07-04-2009, 01:02 PM	#33 (permalink)
1_day@_a_time Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: Pasadena, CA Posts: 1,258	perhaps we can set up a study group of the book, with a web cam & telephone conference so we can all share, any of you have the knowledge to do so? __________________ "A A's 12 Steps are a group of principles, spiritual in nature, which if practiced* as a way of life, can expel the obsession to drink/think and enable the sufferer to be happily & usefully whole"* "Calmness is trust in action"

07-12-2009, 10:15 AM	#34 (permalink)
1_day@_a_time Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: Pasadena, CA Posts: 1,258	wondering how YOU are doing with this? __________________ "A A's 12 Steps are a group of principles, spiritual in nature, which if practiced* as a way of life, can expel the obsession to drink/think and enable the sufferer to be happily & usefully whole"* "Calmness is trust in action"

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