God help me get through today, because I feel like I am ready to cave...
To thine own self be true
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Originally Posted by Phaleron 
That roommate sounds like a complete @ss, but it's still no reason to drink (you're doing so well), and his tantrums aren't worth the sacrifice of your sobriety.
Stay Strong, sweets.
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Stay Strong, sweets.
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Thank you hun...
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Sweets my good friend, Your roomate is a moron. You need to get out of there as soon as possible, but you know that. I, like everyone else before me, would suggest that you spend as little time as possible at home. Go to a movie, the library, anywhere that you can think of. I don't know where in New York you live (NYC, Albany, Clayton?) but if you check the phone book there's a listing for AA that's manned 24 hrs. a day. That person can provide you with meetings closest to you, perhaps w/i walking distance. Because going to a meeting is the best thing for you right now. SR is great but you need some one on one nurturing that can only be gotten in person. It's sad that you don't have a support group of family and friends close by to turn to. But you do have us and we're all praying for you now. No one should be going through what you are right now. Hang in there as best you can. Monday may seem like an eternity away but it isn't. And when you show up on Monday ask around about places to stay. There may be someone in your exact situation who you can tie in with.
In the meantime, feel free to vent away!
In the meantime, feel free to vent away!
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((((Sweets)))))
Here's an idea that may be useful (or not). Can you start a list of the things you want to take with you when you move? Things you might need to set aside or save a few dollars to buy? I used to do that when I had to leave a bad roommate many years ago.
Love,
Lenina
Here's an idea that may be useful (or not). Can you start a list of the things you want to take with you when you move? Things you might need to set aside or save a few dollars to buy? I used to do that when I had to leave a bad roommate many years ago.
Love,
Lenina
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Originally Posted by Lenina
((((Sweets)))))
Here's an idea that may be useful (or not). Can you start a list of the things you want to take with you when you move? Things you might need to set aside or save a few dollars to buy? I used to do that when I had to leave a bad roommate many years ago.
Love,
Lenina
Here's an idea that may be useful (or not). Can you start a list of the things you want to take with you when you move? Things you might need to set aside or save a few dollars to buy? I used to do that when I had to leave a bad roommate many years ago.
Love,
Lenina
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Hi again sweets,
Yep, drinking can delay or destroy the best of plans. You'll never end up by the beach if you return to drinking, because those plans all drift away in a sea of booze.
Your roommate sounds like a basketcase, so I'd take another walk, enjoy the dreary weather and remember what your goals are. Once you're on a solid path of recovery, with a support network and others to assist you, you can lay the foundation for finding a new home, moving away from New York, and establishing yourself in a nice, warm sunny climate. Till then, ride out the storm and the abusive, inconsiderate behavior of the bonehead while he slams the doors, acts like a child and frustrates the hell out of you. He's just a temporary obstacle and impediment to your path of recovery, so stay true to yourself. While you''re out in the rain, kick up a couple puddles for me. I always enjoyed that, must be the kid in me.
Yep, drinking can delay or destroy the best of plans. You'll never end up by the beach if you return to drinking, because those plans all drift away in a sea of booze.
Your roommate sounds like a basketcase, so I'd take another walk, enjoy the dreary weather and remember what your goals are. Once you're on a solid path of recovery, with a support network and others to assist you, you can lay the foundation for finding a new home, moving away from New York, and establishing yourself in a nice, warm sunny climate. Till then, ride out the storm and the abusive, inconsiderate behavior of the bonehead while he slams the doors, acts like a child and frustrates the hell out of you. He's just a temporary obstacle and impediment to your path of recovery, so stay true to yourself. While you''re out in the rain, kick up a couple puddles for me. I always enjoyed that, must be the kid in me.
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Originally Posted by firestorm090
Hi again sweets,
Yep, drinking can delay or destroy the best of plans. You'll never end up by the beach if you return to drinking, because those plans all drift away in a sea of booze.
Your roommate sounds like a basketcase, so I'd take another walk, enjoy the dreary weather and remember what your goals are. Once you're on a solid path of recovery, with a support network and others to assist you, you can lay the foundation for finding a new home, moving away from New York, and establishing yourself in a nice, warm sunny climate. Till then, ride out the storm and the abusive, inconsiderate behavior of the bonehead while he slams the doors, acts like a child and frustrates the hell out of you. He's just a temporary obstacle and impediment to your path of recovery, so stay true to yourself. While you''re out in the rain, kick up a couple puddles for me. I always enjoyed that, must be the kid in me.
Yep, drinking can delay or destroy the best of plans. You'll never end up by the beach if you return to drinking, because those plans all drift away in a sea of booze.
Your roommate sounds like a basketcase, so I'd take another walk, enjoy the dreary weather and remember what your goals are. Once you're on a solid path of recovery, with a support network and others to assist you, you can lay the foundation for finding a new home, moving away from New York, and establishing yourself in a nice, warm sunny climate. Till then, ride out the storm and the abusive, inconsiderate behavior of the bonehead while he slams the doors, acts like a child and frustrates the hell out of you. He's just a temporary obstacle and impediment to your path of recovery, so stay true to yourself. While you''re out in the rain, kick up a couple puddles for me. I always enjoyed that, must be the kid in me.
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Sweets. I'm following your progress like a spectator sport today. So far you are moving the ball up the field nicely. Good third down conversions. No fumbles. Keep scrambling to avoid getting sacked by your roommate.
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Originally Posted by Rad44
Sweets. I'm following your progress like a spectator sport today. So far you are moving the ball up the field nicely. Good third down conversions. No fumbles. Keep scrambling to avoid getting sacked by your roommate.
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Originally Posted by Rad44
Sweets. I'm following your progress like a spectator sport today. So far you are moving the ball up the field nicely. Good third down conversions. No fumbles. Keep scrambling to avoid getting sacked by your roommate.
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One of the most difficult things I have worked thru is how NOT to interact or respond to unhealthy people.
They know how to push my buttons, IF I let them.
Restraint of tongue & pen is my only option.
"For I can neither think nor act to good purpose until the habit of self restraint has become automatic".
It IS a process.........& I'll be working on it the rest of my life.
Don't give them the pleasure of seeing you upset.
They know how to push my buttons, IF I let them.
Restraint of tongue & pen is my only option.
"For I can neither think nor act to good purpose until the habit of self restraint has become automatic".
It IS a process.........& I'll be working on it the rest of my life.
Don't give them the pleasure of seeing you upset.
To thine own self be true
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Originally Posted by 1_day@_a_time
One of the most difficult things I have worked thru is how NOT to interact or respond to unhealthy people.
They know how to push my buttons, IF I let them.
Restraint of tongue & pen is my only option.
"For I can neither think nor act to good purpose until the habit of self restraint has become automatic".
It IS a process.........& I'll be working on it the rest of my life.
Don't give them the pleasure of seeing you upset.
They know how to push my buttons, IF I let them.
Restraint of tongue & pen is my only option.
"For I can neither think nor act to good purpose until the habit of self restraint has become automatic".
It IS a process.........& I'll be working on it the rest of my life.
Don't give them the pleasure of seeing you upset.
I highlighted what I found especially enlightening...Thank you again for this insightful response...Great food for thought!
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Hi again sweets,
Sounds like you have quite an agenda lined up, so you know what you want to some extent. That's the first step to getting what you want, that is to decide what "it" is.
Sounds like you've done a lot of that already. So, here's an idea, an approach if you will, to what you're up against. The first step of your new journey is to show up on Monday and talk with the counselors about your dreams, your problem with alcohol and how it sidelines your dreams and begin to put together a plan of action which will take you from point A to point B, and so forth. Considering that you only have one more day before your appt. on Monday, how bout getting out and doing something tomorrow to avoid Mr. Happy Face, and his toxic vibes. You have a whole day ahead of you tomorrow, try to think of something to celebrate the new journey you begin Monday, walk away from the negativity of your roommate and enjoy the day you have. Till then, chill out here, take a long bath or shower, read a good book, whatever you choose. That way you distract yourself from ole pia and focus on the new you. School, career, self-supporting behaviors are all learned experiences and you'll do great, one class at a time, one sober day at a time. It all adds up, kinda like putting change in a jar, sometimes you don't realize how much you have.
Sounds like you have quite an agenda lined up, so you know what you want to some extent. That's the first step to getting what you want, that is to decide what "it" is.
Sounds like you've done a lot of that already. So, here's an idea, an approach if you will, to what you're up against. The first step of your new journey is to show up on Monday and talk with the counselors about your dreams, your problem with alcohol and how it sidelines your dreams and begin to put together a plan of action which will take you from point A to point B, and so forth. Considering that you only have one more day before your appt. on Monday, how bout getting out and doing something tomorrow to avoid Mr. Happy Face, and his toxic vibes. You have a whole day ahead of you tomorrow, try to think of something to celebrate the new journey you begin Monday, walk away from the negativity of your roommate and enjoy the day you have. Till then, chill out here, take a long bath or shower, read a good book, whatever you choose. That way you distract yourself from ole pia and focus on the new you. School, career, self-supporting behaviors are all learned experiences and you'll do great, one class at a time, one sober day at a time. It all adds up, kinda like putting change in a jar, sometimes you don't realize how much you have.
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On the subject of hobbies. Do you have an adult learning center close to where you live? They have day and evening classes and the range is huge: pottery, dance, philosophy, cooking, languages, you name it. If there is one, check their schedule, something must draw your attention. And they might have a scholarship or reduced tuition program if money is an issue.
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Originally Posted by firestorm090
Hi again sweets,
Sounds like you have quite an agenda lined up, so you know what you want to some extent. That's the first step to getting what you want, that is to decide what "it" is.
Sounds like you've done a lot of that already. So, here's an idea, an approach if you will, to what you're up against. The first step of your new journey is to show up on Monday and talk with the counselors about your dreams, your problem with alcohol and how it sidelines your dreams and begin to put together a plan of action which will take you from point A to point B, and so forth. Considering that you only have one more day before your appt. on Monday, how bout getting out and doing something tomorrow to avoid Mr. Happy Face, and his toxic vibes. You have a whole day ahead of you tomorrow, try to think of something to celebrate the new journey you begin Monday, walk away from the negativity of your roommate and enjoy the day you have. Till then, chill out here, take a long bath or shower, read a good book, whatever you choose. That way you distract yourself from ole pia and focus on the new you. School, career, self-supporting behaviors are all learned experiences and you'll do great, one class at a time, one sober day at a time. It all adds up, kinda like putting change in a jar, sometimes you don't realize how much you have.
Sounds like you have quite an agenda lined up, so you know what you want to some extent. That's the first step to getting what you want, that is to decide what "it" is.
Sounds like you've done a lot of that already. So, here's an idea, an approach if you will, to what you're up against. The first step of your new journey is to show up on Monday and talk with the counselors about your dreams, your problem with alcohol and how it sidelines your dreams and begin to put together a plan of action which will take you from point A to point B, and so forth. Considering that you only have one more day before your appt. on Monday, how bout getting out and doing something tomorrow to avoid Mr. Happy Face, and his toxic vibes. You have a whole day ahead of you tomorrow, try to think of something to celebrate the new journey you begin Monday, walk away from the negativity of your roommate and enjoy the day you have. Till then, chill out here, take a long bath or shower, read a good book, whatever you choose. That way you distract yourself from ole pia and focus on the new you. School, career, self-supporting behaviors are all learned experiences and you'll do great, one class at a time, one sober day at a time. It all adds up, kinda like putting change in a jar, sometimes you don't realize how much you have.
To thine own self be true
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Originally Posted by OceanBound
On the subject of hobbies. Do you have an adult learning center close to where you live? They have day and evening classes and the range is huge: pottery, dance, philosophy, cooking, languages, you name it. If there is one, check their schedule, something must draw your attention. And they might have a scholarship or reduced tuition program if money is an issue.
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Originally Posted by Rad44
Sweets. Always tell everyone you are an incredible hottie when you are on the internet. That way guys will be slobbering all over you and it will be good for your ego. Just a suggestion.
AND OH GOD, read my new post...If you are on tonight...PLEASE make me laugh.
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Originally Posted by Sweets79
I wouldn't be lying AND OH GOD, read my new post...If you are on tonight...PLEASE make me laugh.
AND OH GOD, read my new post...If you are on tonight...PLEASE make me laugh.To thine own self be true
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Originally Posted by Rad44
Sweets. I'm trying my best but honestly, I'm running out of material with the Day you're having. What's next? A Cancer diagnosis?
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Sweets,
When you get to that meeting, you may want to find someone who has recovered to sit down with you and read pages 60-63 in the Big Book. It's jumping the gun, but a lot of that applies to the situation you describe.
When you get to that meeting, you may want to find someone who has recovered to sit down with you and read pages 60-63 in the Big Book. It's jumping the gun, but a lot of that applies to the situation you describe.
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