Blondie59

i am the mother of a25 year old addict who has been in rehab twice. He just returned home from an 8 month rehab in Mississippi.(His second rehab-he was away prior for 3 months) We have spent close to 100,000 on treatment. He relapsed within 2 weeks of returning home. Any advice for our family? We have decided that he may only remain in our house if he is recovery. He is trying to get back on track. I realize the disease is characterized by relapse and Im trying to keep my sanity. Our family is presently in treatment for our recovery along with Alanon but we are struggling.

Nonsensical

Welcome to SR. Sorry to learn of your troubles.

You will probably get more responses if you post in the Friends and Family section of the forum. Lots of Friends and Family hang out there.

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Best of luck!

PurpleLotus

Hi Blondie59,

I agree with Nonsensical that you will get a lot of support over in friends & family. I went through a lot with my family with my alcoholism. My parents did go to some Al Anon meetings. I think what helped them most is being referred to a very good counselor who they met with & I met with separately for support. I do know establishing boundaries was really important for my Mom so she could stay healthy. In active addiction I knew how to emotionally manipulate my parents, which I'm not proud of. But someone who is actively using will do whatever necessary to continue. I do know nothing will work until someone truly wants help. I wish the best to you and your son.

ClearMind

PurpleLotus has it bang on; nothing will work unless someone truly wants it to work. You can't force someone into recovery. Good luck to you.