Do You Ever Get to Drink Again?

[jwell100]

I am way new to this and still working on day two, so this question is not necessarily for me at this time.

Are there any of you that have finally gotten things "under control" and allow yourself to drink once or twice per month in "moderation?" I have read many posts that say when you are done you are done. For me, it is difficult to think of never drinking again. I am not about to go two days and then drink on the third, but I would like to think that there will come a day that I could have a drink and not get myself into trouble. I have a friend who was a heavy drinker for ten years and passed out on the couch every night. One day he just stopped drinking and, two years later, allows himself to drink once or twice per month. Is it realistic to think that I could do this, or is it just to early to know?

Thanks for your input.

[HeavyJ]

I've tried more time than I can count. Sober up, try to drink in moderation etc... It never works for me. I always end up back at the bottom saying, "What have I done, and why have I done this again?"

I am hoping to stop drinking forever....

Heavy

P.S. My little screen name "Heavy" isn't just because I'm a bigger guy, it's because when I drink I get very "Heavy" weighted down, worried, drunk, nothing good ever comes from it..

[51anna]

Not me.

It's been almost 8 years and I know I can't have a casual drink ever again.

[Jomey]

Not me, either. Oh, and what Heavy said.

Try not to think about "never" or "forever" - just think about today.

Jomey

[bugsworth]

jwell...IMO I'd rather not take a chance...alcohol almost killed me why dance with it again?

[wellgrrl]

I have thought like this before. I've even tried to convince my sober husband to drink with me again. How crazy is that? Me, I don't think I could do it. Even if it was once or twice (or three or four or five) times a month, I'd most likely overdo it. That's just me.

I will give you an example. I thought I could drink like an "adult" so I tried. Admittedly, I was doomed to fail, since I drank with an alcoholic. One drink turned into about 5-6 (who's counting?...not me!) and I ended up passing out, freaking out his neighbor, having the neighbor call the cops and getting hauled off to the hospital. No fun.

[ksplash5]

there are times that I want a drink because it's just not fair that I can't drink (in my mind) it's not fair that I can't take a break from life and get drunk.

It's not so much about having a taste of alcohol. If I am getting the desire to drink it's because I want a buzz. i want 3 drinks.

but after I have 3 drinks I want more.

and then I want anything

Maybe someday? I don't know. I would like to think so, but if that's ever possible it is a long way off. right now I want to stop using crack. in order to do that I have to NOT DRINK.

it doesn't look very likely to me that I can be a 'drinker' someday.

for now it's better if I just focus on what i can be, what i am, what is around me, and try to create a life without drinking that i love. and within that life I don't see a whole lot of time beilng spent at bars, or rock concerts.

i need to focus on the change that i want in my life.

[maybetoday]

Originally Posted by ksplash5

i need to focus on the change that i want in my life.

Amen to that!

[Toomutch]

I know I could never take a drink again.

After 7 years sober I thought it would be possible to drink again. I was wrong- almost dead wrong.

[sct]

Anyone is welcome to try. I'm always happy to keep a chair open for anyone who went out to experiment with drinking again.

For me... it's not something I'm willing to experiment with. I don't have a 'moderate' switch in my head- for anything. If it feels good- I want more of it.

[Horselover]

"Do you every get to drink again?" If you mean me when you say you then I would say no. My drinking days are behind me and believe me when I say I won't miss them. Happier times are ahead.

I am 44 days without today and am very happy the way my life is turning out.

[tommyk]

Yes, I can have 1 or 2 drinks anytime I want.

But here's the problem: I don't want 1 or 2 drinks... I want 10 or 12 drinks.

I've never had 1 or 2 drinks in my life, it was always way more than that.

So, I ask myself, "Why torture yourself with 1 or 2 drinks?"

Another thing I say to myself is that I will reconsider my decision when I am 80.

[FizzyWater]

Hi Jwell, your friend that allows himself a drink once or twice a month. Does he really have A drink ie one or does he get rip roaring drunk once or twice a month.

I too have problems accepting I'll never drink again.

The facts are though that I have never been able to have one drink, always chased the buzz, than chased it some more, then ran it to death.

Can never deal with the hangovers neither so I know the chances are I'll drink again the next day as well, and the next, and the next, hence we find ourselves here.

Dont think I could trust myself to drink once or twice a month, actually dont think at all, I know I couldn't.

At present I don't think I'll drink again, as to whether I do or not ......................I dunno !!!!!

[Jules62]

I understand how the thought 'I can never drink again' makes it all seem overwhelming in the beginning.I know I fought it for a very long time.If I looked at the rest of my life not drinking, I felt utterly depressed but I was still associating drinking with fun, even though there actually hadn't been a 'fun part' for a very long time.

As others have said-focus on today.It took me a long time to accept that I couldn't 'drink in moderation' and believe me, I tried.I cannot stop at one or two drinks and will never be able to.I'm an alcoholic-plain and simple.

Get through these early days first, focus on making your life a better one as a sober person.I know the initial days can be rough,

Thinking of you,

Jules.

[LibertyorDeath]

Originally Posted by jwell100

...For me, it is difficult to think of never drinking again. ...

Don't fret about tomorrow. Just work on this second, this minute, this hour, this day~ That has helped me tremendously. I enjoy living in the moment, which is another blessing altogether.