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DSodaNow · 06-22-2008, 03:03 PM

You may not feel strong right now... but you are! I remember some of your posts just a couple of weeks ago that were so upbeat and positive. You know what you need to do to get the feeling back again. Why don't you go to a meeting tonight? Have you spoke with your sponsor today? She sounds like a pretty good source of support.

ThisIsTheDay · 06-22-2008, 03:05 PM

That is why this site SR was made....for support!

I agree with soda...call your sponsor or go to a meeting tonight!

flgirl · 06-22-2008, 03:07 PM

I am remembering some pretty horrible stuff now

warrens · 06-22-2008, 03:08 PM

FL

I don't know that we've chatted. I've been preoccupied with my own "stuff" lately.

When it comes to addiction, everything is related. Tough times call for tough friends. We cannot compartmentalize things and think that the other parts of our life have nothing to do with our vulnerability. I know that only too well.

Do not apologize for what you are feeling and thinking and going through. It is all related.

Because it is all related, there is nothing in your life that drinking won't make worse. I don't care what it is, it will be worse if you drink. Not a person here can name an experience in their lives that was enhanced by getting drunk. One of the very few absolute truths I am aware of.

In my very early sobriety I used this place and writing to occupy my brain that was screaming for alcohol. It really worked for me. Kept me focused. Perhaps it can do the same for you.

Best to you. Good things do come with sobriety. Believe in that. It is worth the struggle.

warren

ananda · 06-22-2008, 03:09 PM

can you afford to get some professional help? I really really recomend it....it's hard to get through these things by yourself. Please be careful!

least · 06-22-2008, 03:10 PM

You don't have to be sorry for anything, that's what friends are for- to share your burden when it's too much for you to carry alone.

flgirl · 06-22-2008, 03:17 PM

Ah, you are there.

ThisIsTheDay · 06-22-2008, 03:20 PM

You need to do something to block out the memories, re focus on something positive...Hey remember....you live near the beach....

Don't dwell on the bad past...you have a new sober life now!

DSodaNow · 06-22-2008, 03:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by flgirl

I am remembering some pretty horrible stuff now

I am sure that these things are really horrible and you should not have to be going thru this, but you can work thru it and feel good again.

I agree about the professional help. A professional can help you aquire the tools to get thru this.

Alcohol is not going to make it any better.... it only numbs for a little while... after that (for me) it was so much worse.

Keep posting!

flgirl · 06-22-2008, 03:28 PM

I hope so

flgirl · 06-22-2008, 03:30 PM

Ok I get the message..will have to seek counseling.

**CarolD** · 06-22-2008, 03:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by flgirl

Ok I get the message..will have to seek counseling.

Excellent plan....and more effective when sober.

flgirl · 06-22-2008, 03:54 PM

least · 06-22-2008, 03:57 PM

I go to two different counselors, one that works for a shrink and one who is a substance abuse counselor. It's a great relief to be able to talk about anything and everything to them.

I pray you can find some peace of mind. And as I just found out, again, drinking will only make it worse.

DSodaNow · 06-22-2008, 03:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by flgirl

Omg

You can't leave us hanging here. Talk it out, FLgirl. You are safe talking to us. We love you no matter what! and I really mean that.

flgirl · 06-23-2008, 03:14 PM

I am hanging on. My sponsor has been great. She has been where I am many times before and does not judge me. I heard her say that before, but did not really listen. She also says that I should not be ashamed, which, of course, I am. I am ashamed of many things. But, I have made it through the day, thus far. I read on another thread that our feelings are not us. That is a new thought for me. I do not have to be what I feel. I would like that.

chiynita · 06-23-2008, 03:22 PM

You are so right there. You dont have to be what your feeling.
Feelings change so much and they are usually impulsive. And when we act or think on our feelings. Thats usually when we get into trouble.
Never ever and I mean NEVER be sorry for reaching out for help.
Thats what this site is for. Thats why we are all here. To seek and lend support.
If you just sat there and didnt say anything or share what was on your mind. Then I would be worried.
You are not alone and you dont have to do this alone.

flgirl · 06-23-2008, 03:32 PM

Hi Chiy,

I have read what you have posted and am proud of you! The reaching out for help thing is new for me and I hate when I have done something stupid. I should just be able to deal with all this sh*t, right? I know that's why I keep coming back here. Because I recognize that I am gonna have to deal with it all. And there is no way that I am gonn able to to it alone.

06-22-2008, 03:03 PM	#26 (permalink)
DSodaNow Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 264	You may not feel strong right now... but you are! I remember some of your posts just a couple of weeks ago that were so upbeat and positive. You know what you need to do to get the feeling back again. Why don't you go to a meeting tonight? Have you spoke with your sponsor today? She sounds like a pretty good source of support.
DSodaNow Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 264

06-22-2008, 03:07 PM	#28 (permalink)
flgirl Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Florida Posts: 447	I am remembering some pretty horrible stuff now
	__________________ The best way out is always through. Robert Frost

06-22-2008, 03:08 PM	#29 (permalink)
warrens Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: 49 degrees north Posts: 743	FL I don't know that we've chatted. I've been preoccupied with my own "stuff" lately. When it comes to addiction, everything is related. Tough times call for tough friends. We cannot compartmentalize things and think that the other parts of our life have nothing to do with our vulnerability. I know that only too well. Do not apologize for what you are feeling and thinking and going through. It is all related. Because it is all related, there is nothing in your life that drinking won't make worse. I don't care what it is, it will be worse if you drink. Not a person here can name an experience in their lives that was enhanced by getting drunk. One of the very few absolute truths I am aware of. In my very early sobriety I used this place and writing to occupy my brain that was screaming for alcohol. It really worked for me. Kept me focused. Perhaps it can do the same for you. Best to you. Good things do come with sobriety. Believe in that. It is worth the struggle. warren
	__________________ The thrill is gone The thrill is gone away... B.B. King

06-22-2008, 03:17 PM	#32 (permalink)
flgirl Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Florida Posts: 447	Ah, you are there.
	__________________ The best way out is always through. Robert Frost

06-22-2008, 03:28 PM	#35 (permalink)
flgirl Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Florida Posts: 447	I hope so
	__________________ The best way out is always through. Robert Frost

06-22-2008, 03:05 PM	#27 (permalink)
ThisIsTheDay Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Scottsdale, AZ Posts: 204	That is why this site SR was made....for support! I agree with soda...call your sponsor or go to a meeting tonight!

06-22-2008, 03:09 PM	#30 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Somewhere Left of Left Posts: 3,885	can you afford to get some professional help? I really really recomend it....it's hard to get through these things by yourself. Please be careful!

06-22-2008, 03:10 PM	#31 (permalink)
least Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: USA Posts: 2,303	You don't have to be sorry for anything, that's what friends are for- to share your burden when it's too much for you to carry alone.

06-22-2008, 03:20 PM	#33 (permalink)
ThisIsTheDay Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Scottsdale, AZ Posts: 204	You need to do something to block out the memories, re focus on something positive...Hey remember....you live near the beach.... Don't dwell on the bad past...you have a new sober life now!

06-22-2008, 03:30 PM	#36 (permalink)
flgirl Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Florida Posts: 447	Ok I get the message..will have to seek counseling.
	__________________ The best way out is always through. Robert Frost

06-22-2008, 03:54 PM	#38 (permalink)
flgirl Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Florida Posts: 447	Omg
	__________________ The best way out is always through. Robert Frost

06-22-2008, 03:57 PM	#39 (permalink)
least Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: USA Posts: 2,303	I go to two different counselors, one that works for a shrink and one who is a substance abuse counselor. It's a great relief to be able to talk about anything and everything to them. I pray you can find some peace of mind. And as I just found out, again, drinking will only make it worse.

06-23-2008, 03:14 PM	#41 (permalink)
flgirl Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Florida Posts: 447	I am hanging on. My sponsor has been great. She has been where I am many times before and does not judge me. I heard her say that before, but did not really listen. She also says that I should not be ashamed, which, of course, I am. I am ashamed of many things. But, I have made it through the day, thus far. I read on another thread that our feelings are not us. That is a new thought for me. I do not have to be what I feel. I would like that.
	__________________ The best way out is always through. Robert Frost

06-23-2008, 03:22 PM	#42 (permalink)
chiynita My Heart Is With The Ocean Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Clifton Park Posts: 4,349	You are so right there. You dont have to be what your feeling. Feelings change so much and they are usually impulsive. And when we act or think on our feelings. Thats usually when we get into trouble. Never ever and I mean NEVER be sorry for reaching out for help. Thats what this site is for. Thats why we are all here. To seek and lend support. If you just sat there and didnt say anything or share what was on your mind. Then I would be worried. You are not alone and you dont have to do this alone.
	__________________ "True Failure...Is When We Stop Trying." "When we long for a life without difficulty. Remind us that oaks grow strong in contrary winds and diamonds are made under pressure."

06-23-2008, 03:32 PM	#43 (permalink)
flgirl Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Florida Posts: 447	Hi Chiy, I have read what you have posted and am proud of you! The reaching out for help thing is new for me and I hate when I have done something stupid. I should just be able to deal with all this sh*t, right? I know that's why I keep coming back here. Because I recognize that I am gonna have to deal with it all. And there is no way that I am gonn able to to it alone.
	__________________ The best way out is always through. Robert Frost