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shandi76 · 05-12-2008, 11:59 PM

i'm a newbie, and sorry i did drink tonight... but my problem is having a teenager and an interfering grandmother. i was 16 when my son was born and in a sense we "grew up" together, he's always been close to me, but he's been lying to his father and i- we are different from most because we actually "stayed together" and stuck it out for the best and to give him the chance. but he and his grandmother have a very close alliance which borders on a co-dependency in that she believes he can do no wrong, and he knows how to make her believe him. i do well as far as keeping things together, i think i drink as a result of being either bored or just wanting to "unwind", and it's turned into, "well thats why, cause your mother drinks". i was close to her at one time. when my husband is off is when i do drink, which is weekend at most (fri. and sat.) i'm confused.

**CarolD** · 05-13-2008, 12:50 AM

Hello again...

When I was drinking I found all my problems were
magnified and seemed impossible to solve.
I just needed a clear mind to figure things out.

My teens lied too and my parents did not
always my decisions either.

:

Hope you and your family can find a solution soon.

shandi76 · 05-13-2008, 02:18 AM

i love this support, and i feel unworthy to be here... but i remeber one post that made me cry- it was simply ... "i love sobriety".

mle-sober · 05-13-2008, 12:29 PM

Shandi,

Are you feeling that you are having problems controlling your drinking? Are you seeing ways that it gets in the way of living a happy life?

It sounds like you are having some relationship problems within your family and that people are blaming you and your drinking for it.... is that what you're saying?

- MLE

shandi76 · 05-13-2008, 10:18 PM

i would examine all possibilities, the old me would of been like "no way!", but i've come to the conclusion the best way to deal with growing pains and being a young mom is to do it with a clear head! so that's what i intend on doing~

05-12-2008, 11:59 PM	#1 (permalink)
shandi76 Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 41	interfering grandmother i'm a newbie, and sorry i did drink tonight... but my problem is having a teenager and an interfering grandmother. i was 16 when my son was born and in a sense we "grew up" together, he's always been close to me, but he's been lying to his father and i- we are different from most because we actually "stayed together" and stuck it out for the best and to give him the chance. but he and his grandmother have a very close alliance which borders on a co-dependency in that she believes he can do no wrong, and he knows how to make her believe him. i do well as far as keeping things together, i think i drink as a result of being either bored or just wanting to "unwind", and it's turned into, "well thats why, cause your mother drinks". i was close to her at one time. when my husband is off is when i do drink, which is weekend at most (fri. and sat.) i'm confused.

05-13-2008, 12:50 AM	#2 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Serene In Dixie Posts: 34,835	Hello again... When I was drinking I found all my problems were magnified and seemed impossible to solve. I just needed a clear mind to figure things out. My teens lied too and my parents did not always my decisions either. : Hope you and your family can find a solution soon. __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery!

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05-13-2008, 02:18 AM	#3 (permalink)
shandi76 Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 41	i love this support, and i feel unworthy to be here... but i remeber one post that made me cry- it was simply ... "i love sobriety".

05-13-2008, 12:29 PM	#4 (permalink)
mle-sober mle-sober Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Golden, CO Posts: 1,243	Shandi, Are you feeling that you are having problems controlling your drinking? Are you seeing ways that it gets in the way of living a happy life? It sounds like you are having some relationship problems within your family and that people are blaming you and your drinking for it.... is that what you're saying? - MLE

05-13-2008, 10:18 PM	#5 (permalink)
shandi76 Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 41	i would examine all possibilities, the old me would of been like "no way!", but i've come to the conclusion the best way to deal with growing pains and being a young mom is to do it with a clear head! so that's what i intend on doing~

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