Mother's Day Bites!

[lilbit]

I don't like Mother's Day. Nope. Sorry...not a fan of the flowers and brunch with the family. Maybe it's because we are all FORCED to say thank you to our mommi's. I watched Bobbi Brown take his ever loving wife Whitney Housten to a deluxxxe hotel with ALL the KIDZ! YIKES! THAT'S why she should have left him...for THAT reason alone! What Mother wants to keep everybody happy on ANY day?! Just looks like more work. I use to hate seving tables for Mother's Day. It was a day you HAD to work when ya first got hired at the big dinner places...Marriott was my home fer many a days....and I HATED MOTHER'S DAY! I couldn't tell ya how many high octane cocktails I sent out accross the floor to someone that needed to take the edge off...all the while sitting accross from his mom's in law and kidz. Just a sucky day.
I'd like fer my thankless huzband to take all the kidz to McDonalds fer a couple of hours while I sit around the house on my fat azz....watching the Bad Girls Club...without interruption or guilt. I would probably get a call somewhere into about 15 minutes of MY TIME and have to run down to the emergency room...I'm sure...either THAT or have to fill out a missing persons report at the local police station.....
But one can dream...can't she?
Oh....HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!
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The Bitz!

[Ann]

What helps me is adjusting my attitude and having fun anyway...

I could be bummed out and spend my day miserable and in fear, sad that my son is missing and I don't even know where he is this special day...as in so many other special days. I could mope around and cry "poor me"...

OR

I could take this beautiful day the Lord has given and celebrate ME and all the wonderful things in my life today. I could spend this day in gratitude for the wonderful wise woman with a heart of gold who raised 3 kids alone in a home filled with love for each other...the woman who was my mother and who I miss every day.

And I could share my wonderful day with all the mama's at SR, no matter how or where our kids are, no matter how or if our husbands care to celebrate our special day too (I'm grateful that my husband does)...and we could all celebrate that good days and bad, through hell and back again, we walk together on this path sharing our light with each other.

I think I'll choose to celebrate, and you're welcome to join me lilbit...we really do have a choice here.

[1963comet]

I enjoy this day more because I am sober.

Years ago my son did not want to even get me a card because I was not a good mother. He was only 13 years old. I will never forget that day.

[lilbit]

I guess I could...but....
I'm happy for you...during this time...that you have the strength to celebrate. I really think most mothers that celebrate this day...DON'T have kids. Grandmas and mother visiting their kids have reason to jump up fer joy at this blessed day...but as far as the mommi's in the trenches...with the crappy mariages....like me....it still sucks. Yes...I'm one of those moms that stays in it for the kids...and I've been a single mom...AND THAT SUCKS WORSE! I'm not feeling it. No poor me...just count me out...just for today...all day...one day at a time. No buffett. No flowers...puuuulease...bought my own chocolate. Gonna watch some reality tv and hide in the girlz room fer most of the day. THAT sounds perfect to me!
Still SOBER and CLEAN...and LOVING IT!

[CarolD]

Bottom line for me....

I am certainly grateful my mother had a child.
And also grateful I did too!

[Done-With-It]

I give my Mom, the Mom's on here who have helped me time and time again, My Grandma, my Sister, My Aunt (whose like My Mom), My Best Friends, and Many Many Mom's on here, ALL THE other Moms, the Respect they So So Deserve, and Wish them all A Very Happy Mothers Day....

Bottom Line for me, Mothers Deserve Respect.....

We do not have them forever. While they are here, give them respect.

[hope45]

I am grateful that this Mothers' Day I am not wishing my children away because their noise and enthusiasm grates on my hangover. I am grateful that I'm looking forward to calling my mom rather than trying to gather the energy to to make conversation when all I want to do is go back to bed. I am grateful I found the strength to stop the madness while my children are still relatively young so I have time to enjoy them. I am grateful for every single wonderful, hilarious, exhausting, annoying, moment I have with these two amazing sons of mine. Happy Mothers Day!

[Hevyn]

Well, that might've been a bit harsh lilbit but I understand how being bitter about your life could make you feel that way. I'm hurt, too, about the circumstances I find myself in. I may or may not hear from my son today - like 1963comet's son, he hasn't always felt I was worthy of remembering on this day! To me, I was a great mom in so many ways, so sad that the drinking part seems to be what's remembered the most. As far as my own mom is concerned, that too is a sad situation. She has never understood my alcoholism, has chosen to remain angry & judgmental over times that I hurt her feelings. She is now in her 80's, time is running out, and I can't reach her no matter what I say. SO, that's why my mother's day is a bit off to say the least.

Ann's right, though - negativity only hurts us - even when we're justified in feeling down. I want to rise above this miserable feeling I have today. I'm going to try. Thanks, everyone for giving me a place to say this.

[lilbit]

Sorry moms. Just being a big grump. It's hard to be a mom...even to my step-son...who has autism...and the escape hatch seems like the only way out of this mess. Nobody said it would be easy. My huzband just made me hug him...and I couldn't help but feel pizzed...just want it to get easier and I don't know what to do. Wanna run and hide....and being SOBER is hard enough....just sucks. Sorry.

[Done-With-It]

Originally Posted by lilbit

Sorry moms. Just being a big grump. It's hard to be a mom...even to my step-son...who has autism...and the escape hatch seems like the only way out of this mess. Nobody said it would be easy. My huzband just made me hug him...and I couldn't help but feel pizzed...just want it to get easier and I don't know what to do. Wanna run and hide....and being SOBER is hard enough....just sucks. Sorry.

At least your venting here. Being sober tis hard sometimes. Hang tough girl.
I have a hard time sometimes on Fathers Day, like you said no one said it would be easy. We just get to choose the way we want it to be.
You can make this into a great day, of all people I know you have that power.
Keep talking, we're here for ya.

[lilbit]

Now...I just told my husband I'm leaving him. Not sure it's the right thing to do...but this isn't working. Some Mother's Day...huh?

[lilbit]

Something had to give...er SOME ONE.

[hope45]

lilbit I don't know how old your kids are but mine are 9 and 12 and in my experience is DOES get much easier. I wholeheartedly agree with you that when they're younger, the nicest mothers day gift ever is for your husband to take them off your hands for a few hours. So no need to apologize for being a grump!! I think everyone can relate.

[51anna]

I, too am so very grateful for this day and to be where I am now.

I am grateful to have had the opportunity to be a Mom. I have made mistakes, but I have always done the best I could. And, I am so blessed to have my children and their spouses in my life.

[chiynita]

Ann's post really hit hard for me.
I have had 2 major incidents on past Mother's day over my addiction.
11 years ago. I was pistol whipped in the mouth and shot at point blank range over $30.
And my own stupidity of not turning the money over to the person trying to rob me.
Another occasion 7 years ago. I was lynched by about 7 drunk mexican guys over money and got my head cracked open by a really big rock.
Both times happened in the early morning hours of Mother's Day.
I look at it like this. On a day I should be thankful and honoring the woman (my grams) whoi has sacrificed everything for me and has loved me unconditionally. A woman who should have washed her hands of me so long ago from the misery and hell I have put her through.
That's what I deserve.
And from my grams point of view. I can say with 100% positivity. That she would never in a million years. Ever want me or any of her kids, grandkids, or great grandkids to be anywhere else but with her on this very special day.
I am so sorry that you feel like you do.
It is kinda sad.
I would give anything to be able to have kids.
But that just isnt in the cards for me.
I hope you find some kind of pleasure today.

Happy Mother's Day anyway.