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353 · 05-11-2008, 03:02 PM

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Originally Posted by least

i am grateful to have had the loving mother i have, but don't feel happy about this day. i'm trying to forgive myself for what i've done wrong to my kids and finding it hard, to say the least. maybe next year.

I'm not a mother, but I am a father. Fathers day used to be the day I looked forward to so my family would do what I wanted, no questions asked. Now fathers day has less to do with receiving something from my children and more to do with reflecting on my Father's life. All he did for me and all I did TO him. How, through it all he loved me, how great a man he is. I find peace in that place.

Happy Mothers day least

and God's Peace to you

lilbit · 05-11-2008, 03:03 PM

Reminded me of a story...real life one.
I went to Sunday Mass with my whole family. I got this big old hat on and a spring dress...been a lil while since I had the time or energy to get back thru THOSE doors....so...I had this new hat and wanted to show it off.
So, my huzband...my three kids...all under the age of four....went into the Church. I SWEAR TO GOD! The priest actually stopped what he was saying and said...."Mz. Good....we haven't seen you in a while....welcome back."
Just then my two kids punched each other...my huzband smacked the back of one of the kidz head...and the baby just screamed bloody murder.
Did we leave? Hell no...I wore MY HAT! We all piled into this lil back room and started yelling at each other. LOUD! REAL LOUD! Swearing and cursing and acting a fool.
I punched the door open...just as every one was leaving and told my huzband to go funk himself. Guess who's the first one out of THIS mass...yup. The Rev himself.
Then my huzband grabbed my hat...smashed it to the floor and pushed passed me.
The baby, still screaming her head off...the two toddlers smacking each other...and my huzband waveing his hands around in the air calling me satan.
Once I shut my mouth...the Father just smiled and said...."Well...I guess we'll be seeing you in about six more months then."
SWEAR TO GOD!

MsPlugginTheJug · 05-11-2008, 03:09 PM

I'm not looking for anyone to DO for me today. I AM greatful that I'm going out to dinner tonight, as I have taken my energy from drinking lately and turned into a pretty good cook, but it takes alot of time and I make HUGE messes that I then have to clean, so going OUT is really awesome for me. But, in the past, I might have felt bitter about having to DO anything (like pick up after someone or do laundry, etc.) but today I find that I am mostly grateful to be sober and my gift to me is that I'm tuned back into life. I can't undo the past, and what others want to DO with that, is no longer in my hands, but I am SO grateful to be a tuned in Mom this year, and that I still have my family here and a wonderful home. I am really grateful that somehow God has helped me SEE that I am an alcoholic and that my only real option is to drink and get worse, or not and get healthy. I thank God that I have turned in the right direction for the first time in my life.

I hope everyone takes what they need today and has peace and some sort of happiness, of any degree. It's not always easy, I know.

Peace out,
Karen

MsPlugginTheJug · 05-11-2008, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by lilbit

I wore MY HAT! We all piled into this lil back room and started yelling at each other. LOUD! REAL LOUD! Swearing and cursing and acting a fool.
I punched the door open...just as every one was leaving and told my huzband to go funk himself. Guess who's the first one out of THIS mass...yup. The Rev himself.
Then my huzband grabbed my hat...smashed it to the floor and pushed passed me.
The baby, still screaming her head off...the two toddlers smacking each other...and my huzband waveing his hands around in the air calling me satan.
Once I shut my mouth...the Father just smiled and said...."Well...I guess we'll be seeing you in about six more months then."
SWEAR TO GOD!

I was really looking for a "smiley" whose jaw is on the floor, but imagine I found one and insert it here: ___________

I guess going to church alone today was a good idea for me!

What a day, lilbit.
Karen

suki44883 · 05-11-2008, 04:10 PM

Wow!

I almost feel guilty for having a wonderful Mother's Day. I went to my daughter's house (where my mother lives, also) and they grilled fajitas out on the grill. We had a wonderful time together and I played with my 6 month old grandson and my 7 year old grandson made me a lovely card.

I'm just so sorry that all mothers aren't this happy today.

lilbit · 05-11-2008, 04:32 PM

Oh...it's okay. I'm fine. Just another day in this crazy world...and me complaining about allot of nothing...in the end we all made up and I got my hot bath...and a HUGE STOMACH BUSTIN HOT FUDGE SUNDAY!!!!
Damn...it feels good to be SOBER and CLEAN!!!
Could have been WAYYYY worse....but I chose to not drink...and I'm all the richer this evening...THANK YOU...AND HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

ananda · 05-11-2008, 04:37 PM

well.....i went camping with my 78year old mom and my brother & his wife for MD for my mother as she loves to camp. It was crazy, ended up in a hotel, so busy that lots of things I need to do aren't done, and I have to go do something ecky i don't want to do next weekend to "support" my sponsor.

YUCK

My son is 29 and lives at home with me. He didn't even say happy mothers day, just like he hasn't for years and years and years.....etc.

However, I don't really mind him not saying that cause since i got out of treatment last july our relationship is so very good that it isn't realy that big a deal except when i read this thread

Some times it's all about me, and sometimes it isn't....but it never fits in to a scheduled day

BUTTERFLY-7 · 05-11-2008, 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by lilbit

And Butterfly 7...I'll be yer dysfunkshunal mom today....Thank you! You ROCK...and ROLL!!!!

I could relate to you I really could I grew up in the Hood
of the South Bronx,and Brooklyn,and every were the
Night took me I've been through it all shoot outs&Fit's fights
ruff life of a Hustler Baby It's O.K I'm a Souls Surviver
I didn't drink out of the Great "Don Pernion"or the
Great popond, Naaaaa Nat me It was the Big 40"s &throw
up the L'ssss (Blunts)
If you know what I mean, and some fried chicken to calm
the hunger nights, and when there was no chicken
It was fried eggs with French fries

U for offering me to B my Mom's

CAPTAINZING2000 · 05-11-2008, 05:21 PM

Happiness is a state of mind.

I took my mom out for dinner last week for mother's day and put up a new mail box for her instead of flowers.
I know, I'll miss my mom after she's gone.

As far as your post, I'm not quite sure, how to respond.

I've had to learn getting sober, to accept people for who they are, warts and all. I can't change anyone only myself.

Dean62 · 05-11-2008, 10:27 PM

I really miss my mom today.

I decided to contact my sister today for the first time since before I went to jail last June. I was surprised find out how much she missed me. I thought she was mad at me.

She really misses mom too. We haven't talked all that much since she suddenly passed away a little under two years ago. Until today I didn't understand how much my big sister needed or loved me.

I know Mothers Day isn't about men or their sisters but I will never forget this one.

kari69 · 05-12-2008, 03:48 AM

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Originally Posted by lilbit

I'd THANK YOU twice...but the button only works fer one....so THANK YOU...MLE!!! It ain't easy being a mommy....I hugged MY mom and told her..."Thank you for not killing me!"
Happy Mother's DAY!

I thought I was the only person who thanked there mother for not killing me.

fallingdown · 05-12-2008, 07:19 AM

Yesterday was the first Mother's Day in 33 years that I have not seen my momma. I called her yesterday and she sounded sad, apparently my little brother was not going to make it over to take her to dinner and I'm 600 miles away. I sure do miss her. Mother's Day is weird for people who don't have kids. I did get a very sweet card from my husband who signed all the dog's names to it. And he took me to the zoo and out for a nice dinner. I realized last night how sweet it was of him to do all that for me when I'm not even technically a "mom". Felt blessed yesterday, but I still miss my momma.

Lilbit, not to make light of your situation but I couldn't help but laugh about the church story, hope you don't mind.

Have a great Monday everyone.

lilbit · 05-13-2008, 09:07 AM

Nahhh...I meant fer you to laugh...how the hell do you think I get through this kinda stuff anyhows...laff on...laff on...plenty more where that came from....I'd rather make you smile today...all day...just for today...ONE DAY AT A TIME!
LOVE YA!

fallingdown · 05-13-2008, 11:14 AM

Lilbit-Good, because I do understand and respect the seriousness of what you're saying, but you have a way of creating a scene with words that just cracks me up. And I thank you for that.

barb dwyer · 05-13-2008, 09:21 PM

My sponsor told me that she suspected that Mother's day was invented by liquor companies to get all the alcoholic business back that swore off for new years.

lilbit · 05-14-2008, 03:14 AM

I worked for Miller fer a while. I was the key account rep...and I gotta tell ya....IT'S hard to quit! AND STAY QUIT! I mean...everything seems to be revolving around a drunk. From sports to driving to sitting at home...movies...reading...magazines...tv....partie s...even Martha Stewart herself can show ya how to make jail hooch! Which is a "social" liquor I would ever tell anyone I know how to make!!!! YUCK-O! You'll be surrounded by this kinda stuff for the rest of your life. But...so is killing...raping....robbing. Just cause it's being done around you doesn't mean you HAVE to do it. Sometimes our greatest peer pressure is just with ourselves. I NEVER liked the taste of alcohol. NOPE. BUT LOOOOVED THE HIGH! Now...I just love being me...warts and all. Just me...all day...just for today...one day at a time!

So...today....HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to EVERONE! Cause it's just a regular Wednesday...and there is work to be done.

05-11-2008, 03:03 PM	#27 (permalink)
lilbit SmartAzz,certified Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Leesburg,NJ Posts: 143	Funny Thing About CHURCH... Reminded me of a story...real life one. I went to Sunday Mass with my whole family. I got this big old hat on and a spring dress...been a lil while since I had the time or energy to get back thru THOSE doors....so...I had this new hat and wanted to show it off. So, my huzband...my three kids...all under the age of four....went into the Church. I SWEAR TO GOD! The priest actually stopped what he was saying and said...."Mz. Good....we haven't seen you in a while....welcome back." Just then my two kids punched each other...my huzband smacked the back of one of the kidz head...and the baby just screamed bloody murder. Did we leave? Hell no...I wore MY HAT! We all piled into this lil back room and started yelling at each other. LOUD! REAL LOUD! Swearing and cursing and acting a fool. I punched the door open...just as every one was leaving and told my huzband to go funk himself. Guess who's the first one out of THIS mass...yup. The Rev himself. Then my huzband grabbed my hat...smashed it to the floor and pushed passed me. The baby, still screaming her head off...the two toddlers smacking each other...and my huzband waveing his hands around in the air calling me satan. Once I shut my mouth...the Father just smiled and said...."Well...I guess we'll be seeing you in about six more months then." SWEAR TO GOD!

05-11-2008, 03:09 PM	#28 (permalink)
MsPlugginTheJug Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: FL Posts: 41	I'm not looking for anyone to DO for me today. I AM greatful that I'm going out to dinner tonight, as I have taken my energy from drinking lately and turned into a pretty good cook, but it takes alot of time and I make HUGE messes that I then have to clean, so going OUT is really awesome for me. But, in the past, I might have felt bitter about having to DO anything (like pick up after someone or do laundry, etc.) but today I find that I am mostly grateful to be sober and my gift to me is that I'm tuned back into life. I can't undo the past, and what others want to DO with that, is no longer in my hands, but I am SO grateful to be a tuned in Mom this year, and that I still have my family here and a wonderful home. I am really grateful that somehow God has helped me SEE that I am an alcoholic and that my only real option is to drink and get worse, or not and get healthy. I thank God that I have turned in the right direction for the first time in my life. I hope everyone takes what they need today and has peace and some sort of happiness, of any degree. It's not always easy, I know. Peace out, Karen
	__________________ Last drink: April 2nd 2008

05-11-2008, 05:21 PM	#34 (permalink)
CAPTAINZING2000 ZING Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: ILLINOIS Posts: 5,276	Happiness is a state of mind. I took my mom out for dinner last week for mother's day and put up a new mail box for her instead of flowers. I know, I'll miss my mom after she's gone. As far as your post, I'm not quite sure, how to respond. I've had to learn getting sober, to accept people for who they are, warts and all. I can't change anyone only myself.
	__________________ LIFE IS GOD'S GIFT TO YOU WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE IS YOUR GIFT TO GOD

05-11-2008, 10:27 PM	#35 (permalink)
Dean62 I'd rather be happy then right Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Salt Lake City, Utah Posts: 279	I really miss my mom today. I decided to contact my sister today for the first time since before I went to jail last June. I was surprised find out how much she missed me. I thought she was mad at me. She really misses mom too. We haven't talked all that much since she suddenly passed away a little under two years ago. Until today I didn't understand how much my big sister needed or loved me. I know Mothers Day isn't about men or their sisters but I will never forget this one.
	__________________ "Love and compassion are like the weak spots in the walls of ego." Pema Chödrön

05-13-2008, 09:21 PM	#40 (permalink)
barb dwyer same planet...different world Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: butte mt Posts: 6,615	My sponsor told me that she suspected that Mother's day was invented by liquor companies to get all the alcoholic business back that swore off for new years.
	__________________ ...THINK!!!... (or thwim!)

05-11-2008, 04:10 PM	#30 (permalink)
suki44883 Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Texas Posts: 357	Wow! I almost feel guilty for having a wonderful Mother's Day. I went to my daughter's house (where my mother lives, also) and they grilled fajitas out on the grill. We had a wonderful time together and I played with my 6 month old grandson and my 7 year old grandson made me a lovely card. I'm just so sorry that all mothers aren't this happy today.

05-11-2008, 04:32 PM	#31 (permalink)
lilbit SmartAzz,certified Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Leesburg,NJ Posts: 143	Oh...it's okay. I'm fine. Just another day in this crazy world...and me complaining about allot of nothing...in the end we all made up and I got my hot bath...and a HUGE STOMACH BUSTIN HOT FUDGE SUNDAY!!!! Damn...it feels good to be SOBER and CLEAN!!! Could have been WAYYYY worse....but I chose to not drink...and I'm all the richer this evening...THANK YOU...AND HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

05-11-2008, 04:37 PM	#32 (permalink)
ananda RK's - Head of Concept Dvlpmnt Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Manhattan, Kansas Posts: 1,173	well.....i went camping with my 78year old mom and my brother & his wife for MD for my mother as she loves to camp. It was crazy, ended up in a hotel, so busy that lots of things I need to do aren't done, and I have to go do something ecky i don't want to do next weekend to "support" my sponsor. YUCK My son is 29 and lives at home with me. He didn't even say happy mothers day, just like he hasn't for years and years and years.....etc. However, I don't really mind him not saying that cause since i got out of treatment last july our relationship is so very good that it isn't realy that big a deal except when i read this thread Some times it's all about me, and sometimes it isn't....but it never fits in to a scheduled day

05-12-2008, 07:19 AM	#37 (permalink)
fallingdown Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Dallas, TX Posts: 98	Yesterday was the first Mother's Day in 33 years that I have not seen my momma. I called her yesterday and she sounded sad, apparently my little brother was not going to make it over to take her to dinner and I'm 600 miles away. I sure do miss her. Mother's Day is weird for people who don't have kids. I did get a very sweet card from my husband who signed all the dog's names to it. And he took me to the zoo and out for a nice dinner. I realized last night how sweet it was of him to do all that for me when I'm not even technically a "mom". Felt blessed yesterday, but I still miss my momma. Lilbit, not to make light of your situation but I couldn't help but laugh about the church story, hope you don't mind. Have a great Monday everyone.

05-13-2008, 09:07 AM	#38 (permalink)
lilbit SmartAzz,certified Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Leesburg,NJ Posts: 143	Nahhh...I meant fer you to laugh...how the hell do you think I get through this kinda stuff anyhows...laff on...laff on...plenty more where that came from....I'd rather make you smile today...all day...just for today...ONE DAY AT A TIME! LOVE YA!

05-13-2008, 11:14 AM	#39 (permalink)
fallingdown Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Dallas, TX Posts: 98	Lilbit-Good, because I do understand and respect the seriousness of what you're saying, but you have a way of creating a scene with words that just cracks me up. And I thank you for that.

05-14-2008, 03:14 AM	#41 (permalink)
lilbit SmartAzz,certified Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Leesburg,NJ Posts: 143	Booze Business I worked for Miller fer a while. I was the key account rep...and I gotta tell ya....IT'S hard to quit! AND STAY QUIT! I mean...everything seems to be revolving around a drunk. From sports to driving to sitting at home...movies...reading...magazines...tv....partie s...even Martha Stewart herself can show ya how to make jail hooch! Which is a "social" liquor I would ever tell anyone I know how to make!!!! YUCK-O! You'll be surrounded by this kinda stuff for the rest of your life. But...so is killing...raping....robbing. Just cause it's being done around you doesn't mean you HAVE to do it. Sometimes our greatest peer pressure is just with ourselves. I NEVER liked the taste of alcohol. NOPE. BUT LOOOOVED THE HIGH! Now...I just love being me...warts and all. Just me...all day...just for today...one day at a time! So...today....HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to EVERONE! Cause it's just a regular Wednesday...and there is work to be done.