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Jes23 · 04-30-2008, 05:30 AM

Well I finally came clean to my mother about my drinking. She is coming over and hopefully I will be able to get the help that I desperately need.

I just feel so ashamed.:praying

ananda · 04-30-2008, 05:36 AM

Jess - my thoughts will be with you today! My mother was a great support to me in my early sobriety, and still is.

The shame will fade - we are sick people who need help and love. Mom's are often a good "on hand" resource for that.

Hope she gets there soon and gives you big hugs!!!!

Jes23 · 04-30-2008, 06:30 AM

Thanks. Damn this is really difficult

tanyapmc · 04-30-2008, 06:34 AM

I am glad you told your Mother. Remember that this is not a moral issue. Let us know how it goes.

***least*** · 04-30-2008, 06:36 AM

My mom has been supportive of my sobriety, even tho she doesn't understand addiction at all, never having had any problems with it.

I'm glad your mother is being helpful to you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

:praying

Tazman53 · 04-30-2008, 07:18 AM

Jes glad to hear you came clean, the truth will set you free. There is no need to be ashamed of being an alcoholic, it is a disease that no one asked to have. Being an alcoholic myself I know that if it was a simple matter of deciding I just won't drink anymore, then there would be no reason for SR or any of the many detox centers, rehabs, and recovery programs out there.

You have taken the most important step one can in recovery, admitting you have a problem and need help to resolve it. Now it is a matter of being willing to take the actions needed to recover.

It is very hard to reach out for help, but that is the beginning, many of us go to our graves from this disease because our pride keeps us from asking for help.

MagicMan08 · 04-30-2008, 07:47 AM

feels good though doesn't it....

A recent post on my "I am a failure and suck at life" thread talked about being honest with yourself....man these last 2-3 years I have lived a lie to everyone i know save for a few other addicts who are there riding along with me

ImJulie · 04-30-2008, 08:24 AM

Good for you Jess! Good for you!

I can so identify with the shame feeling. I tend to think of my shame as a big heavy winter coat that I wear all the time. I wear it everywhere, no matter what the circumstances.
Until I shared it with someone and they told me it was ok to take my coat off for awhile.
Just for awhile, until I got a little better, a little stronger...and I was better equiped to deal with the feelings of shame and where they were coming from.

Take your coat off and stay awhile, k? :ghug2

Rella927 · 04-30-2008, 08:30 AM

Prayers to you Jes!

This will turn into a good thing! When we speak the truth it allows us to keep moving forward in the direction we need to be going. I'm sure that it feels good getting that out-Lots of support to you!

04-30-2008, 05:30 AM	#1 (permalink)
Jes23 Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 79	finally came clean Well I finally came clean to my mother about my drinking. She is coming over and hopefully I will be able to get the help that I desperately need. I just feel so ashamed.:praying __________________ There is only now, there is only here. We live to love or live in fear.

04-30-2008, 06:30 AM	#3 (permalink)
Jes23 Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 79	Thanks. Damn this is really difficult __________________ There is only now, there is only here. We live to love or live in fear.

04-30-2008, 07:18 AM	#6 (permalink)
Tazman53 Follow Directions! Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Fredericksburg, Va. Posts: 9,731	Jes glad to hear you came clean, the truth will set you free. There is no need to be ashamed of being an alcoholic, it is a disease that no one asked to have. Being an alcoholic myself I know that if it was a simple matter of deciding I just won't drink anymore, then there would be no reason for SR or any of the many detox centers, rehabs, and recovery programs out there. You have taken the most important step one can in recovery, admitting you have a problem and need help to resolve it. Now it is a matter of being willing to take the actions needed to recover. It is very hard to reach out for help, but that is the beginning, many of us go to our graves from this disease because our pride keeps us from asking for help. __________________ All BB quotes are from the First Edition of the BB Follow directions! Sobriety date 18 Sept. 2006 Sober today thanks to AA

04-30-2008, 08:24 AM	#8 (permalink)
ImJulie Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 521 Blog Entries: 10	Good for you Jess! Good for you! I can so identify with the shame feeling. I tend to think of my shame as a big heavy winter coat that I wear all the time. I wear it everywhere, no matter what the circumstances. Until I shared it with someone and they told me it was ok to take my coat off for awhile. Just for awhile, until I got a little better, a little stronger...and I was better equiped to deal with the feelings of shame and where they were coming from. Take your coat off and stay awhile, k? :ghug2 __________________ You lift me, and I'll lift you, and we'll ascend together. - Anonymous

04-30-2008, 08:30 AM	#9 (permalink)
Rella927 ¢σммυηιту gяєєтєя Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Spreading my wings Posts: 7,147	Prayers to you Jes! This will turn into a good thing! When we speak the truth it allows us to keep moving forward in the direction we need to be going. I'm sure that it feels good getting that out-Lots of support to you! __________________ Dance as though no one is watching you Love as though you have never been hurt before Live as though heaven is on earth.

04-30-2008, 05:36 AM	#2 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 12,048 Blog Entries: 1	Jess - my thoughts will be with you today! My mother was a great support to me in my early sobriety, and still is. The shame will fade - we are sick people who need help and love. Mom's are often a good "on hand" resource for that. Hope she gets there soon and gives you big hugs!!!!

04-30-2008, 06:34 AM	#4 (permalink)
tanyapmc Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Nunyabusinessville, Texas Posts: 4,443 Blog Entries: 2	I am glad you told your Mother. Remember that this is not a moral issue. Let us know how it goes.

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*least* bona fido dog-lover Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: eastern USA Posts: 28,714 Blog Entries: 31	My mom has been supportive of my sobriety, even tho she doesn't understand addiction at all, never having had any problems with it. I'm glad your mother is being helpful to you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. :praying

04-30-2008, 07:47 AM	#7 (permalink)
MagicMan08 Helping Others, Helps Me Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Minnesota Posts: 473	feels good though doesn't it.... A recent post on my "I am a failure and suck at life" thread talked about being honest with yourself....man these last 2-3 years I have lived a lie to everyone i know save for a few other addicts who are there riding along with me

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