Bottoms Part 66 - Page 10 - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

parentrecovers · 04-24-2008, 03:42 PM

it was a real fair question, dee.

Astro · 04-24-2008, 03:44 PM

Point taken Dee!

IO Storm · 04-24-2008, 04:03 PM

Hi Dummies...

Stoney.....

Luv...

This is for you babes. Don't give up.

From my heart to yours

ImJulie · 04-24-2008, 04:13 PM

Ok...maybe I should be moving over to the whiners thread.
I dunno if I can get it done.
The whole time Im down there Im thinking of good excuses to tell him why I dont have it done.
Then I give myself a hard time for attempting to go back on my word.
WHY is it so hard for me to just clean a freeking basement??!!

ananda · 04-24-2008, 04:17 PM

Stoney - just my opinion - I didn't care for Zen of recovery. I really like 12 steps on buddha's path, bill buddha and we by Laura S. However the one I thought you would really like (I got the name wrong before) is that one breath at a time by kennith griffin.

I did find griffins description of alchoholism and the karma of a malfunctioning liver helpfu. And Laura S.'s incorporation of the 4 knowble truths and the 8 fold path really helped me with the step work since I do AA.

Dealing with my alchoholism is a part of my spiritual journey and exploring these things has really helped me. 2 things I really like are the wy Laura S describes dealling with cravings to drink and something my buddhist sponsor said about the most compassionate thing I could do for myself and others is not drink.

Astro · 04-24-2008, 04:18 PM

God, grant Julie the serenity to clean the friggin' basement, to accept that she might not get it done perfectly, and the wisdom to know when to quit

IO Storm · 04-24-2008, 04:18 PM

Julie....

Don't be so hard on yourself! cleaning a basement? For an alkie? Gee...it's

hard enough for me sometimes to talk myself into taking a shower....

ImJulie · 04-24-2008, 04:20 PM

LOL...thankyou Astro.

Here I go again......I'll be chanting that little version of the serenity prayer while I slave away.
Cover me friends.....Im going in........

ananda · 04-24-2008, 04:21 PM

Julie - I have the same problem. My house was so dirty I was afraid to call Merry Maids. I called a place at one point, and they said they would have to wear those haz mat space suits....FOR REAL!

It's getting better, but I have had to decide it doesn't have to be perfect, and I do alot of "just pick up one thing everytime you get out of your chair". Supprisingly that has helped. Plus a mom who came to help twice since I got sober! My hairdresser even offered to come help...but I would have been too embarrased.

IO Storm · 04-24-2008, 04:23 PM

Good luck Julie...

Astro · 04-24-2008, 04:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ananda

I do alot of "just pick up one thing everytime you get out of your chair". Supprisingly that has helped.

I do that religiously and it drives my GF nuts, but my house stays pretty clean!

IO Storm · 04-24-2008, 05:11 PM

During the commercials eh Astro?

Hi Astro!

ananda · 04-24-2008, 05:13 PM

god that is soooo me IO!

ImJulie · 04-24-2008, 05:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ananda

Julie - I have the same problem. My house was so dirty I was afraid to call Merry Maids. I called a place at one point, and they said they would have to wear those haz mat space suits....FOR REAL!

It's getting better, but I have had to decide it doesn't have to be perfect, and I do alot of "just pick up one thing everytime you get out of your chair". Supprisingly that has helped. Plus a mom who came to help twice since I got sober! My hairdresser even offered to come help...but I would have been too embarrased.

OMG Ananda! Im laffin so hard over here Im crying. My teenager is looking at me like Im nuts.
You are my bestest friend right now, k? Sometimes I think people would be so grossed out if they looked in my closets, under beds, or...in the basement!
I tell myself Im the only one who cant seem to get it together and just have a decently organized house. I wont even let my mom in the house! (aka Ms Martha Stewart wanna-be)
Its so so so nice to hear someone else just be honest about it.

ImJulie · 04-24-2008, 05:31 PM

We could play "Guess What This Used To Be" with lots of the contents of my fridge.
We NEVER eat leftovers. Yet every night, I pack em up in all those tupperware bowls I got sucked into buying at one of those stoooopid home parties (I went cuz there was going to be wine)

Anywho...I pack em up, and there they sit. Until they get fuzzy.
Im sick.

IO Storm · 04-24-2008, 05:31 PM

I drink my coffee in the morning (for about three hours) and read the newspaper. And

dust and take out the garbage and sweep and read the paper and take smoke breaks

(my last vice...yuck)...and watch the news.

Then save personal business for afternoons. Notice I don't come here until afternoon?

Here in Southern Cal.. around 3:00 p.m.

Slothful...slothful...slothful!

ImJulie · 04-24-2008, 05:34 PM

Man Ananda...you got me on a roll!

K...this one is kinda funny.

My kids have never worn matching socks. They always told people they were starting a new fad....how cool.
It was really cuz the entire family's socks get washed then thrown in a big box.
You want socks? Then dig and find a pair.
Keep in mind, its a house of 6....5 of them girls with dozens of pairs of cutsie socks.
It could take an hour to find a match.

04-24-2008, 03:42 PM	#226 (permalink)
parentrecovers Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: USA Posts: 11,629	it was a real fair question, dee.
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04-24-2008, 03:44 PM	#227 (permalink)
Astro Codaholic Alcodependant Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Phoenix, AZ, in a home filled with love Posts: 5,867	Point taken Dee!
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04-24-2008, 04:03 PM	#228 (permalink)
IO Storm IO Storm Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 7,892	Hi Dummies... Stoney..... Luv... This is for you babes. Don't give up. From my heart to yours
	__________________ "God holds me still in the eye of the Storm" "You are so much neater a person healed, than just plain well." Beth Moore

04-24-2008, 04:13 PM	#229 (permalink)
ImJulie Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 527	Ok...maybe I should be moving over to the whiners thread. I dunno if I can get it done. The whole time Im down there Im thinking of good excuses to tell him why I dont have it done. Then I give myself a hard time for attempting to go back on my word. WHY is it so hard for me to just clean a freeking basement??!!
	__________________ You lift me, and I'll lift you, and we'll ascend together. - Anonymous

04-24-2008, 04:18 PM	#231 (permalink)
Astro Codaholic Alcodependant Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Phoenix, AZ, in a home filled with love Posts: 5,867	God, grant Julie the serenity to clean the friggin' basement, to accept that she might not get it done perfectly, and the wisdom to know when to quit
	__________________ "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty, and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming---WOW-What a ride"

04-24-2008, 04:17 PM	#230 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Somewhere Left of Left Posts: 4,668	Stoney - just my opinion - I didn't care for Zen of recovery. I really like 12 steps on buddha's path, bill buddha and we by Laura S. However the one I thought you would really like (I got the name wrong before) is that one breath at a time by kennith griffin. I did find griffins description of alchoholism and the karma of a malfunctioning liver helpfu. And Laura S.'s incorporation of the 4 knowble truths and the 8 fold path really helped me with the step work since I do AA. Dealing with my alchoholism is a part of my spiritual journey and exploring these things has really helped me. 2 things I really like are the wy Laura S describes dealling with cravings to drink and something my buddhist sponsor said about the most compassionate thing I could do for myself and others is not drink.

04-24-2008, 04:18 PM	#232 (permalink)
IO Storm IO Storm Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 7,892	Julie.... Don't be so hard on yourself! cleaning a basement? For an alkie? Gee...it's hard enough for me sometimes to talk myself into taking a shower....
	__________________ "God holds me still in the eye of the Storm" "You are so much neater a person healed, than just plain well." Beth Moore

04-24-2008, 04:20 PM	#233 (permalink)
ImJulie Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 527	LOL...thankyou Astro. Here I go again......I'll be chanting that little version of the serenity prayer while I slave away. Cover me friends.....Im going in........
	__________________ You lift me, and I'll lift you, and we'll ascend together. - Anonymous

04-24-2008, 04:21 PM	#234 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Somewhere Left of Left Posts: 4,668	Julie - I have the same problem. My house was so dirty I was afraid to call Merry Maids. I called a place at one point, and they said they would have to wear those haz mat space suits....FOR REAL! It's getting better, but I have had to decide it doesn't have to be perfect, and I do alot of "just pick up one thing everytime you get out of your chair". Supprisingly that has helped. Plus a mom who came to help twice since I got sober! My hairdresser even offered to come help...but I would have been too embarrased.

04-24-2008, 04:23 PM	#235 (permalink)
IO Storm IO Storm Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 7,892	Good luck Julie...
	__________________ "God holds me still in the eye of the Storm" "You are so much neater a person healed, than just plain well." Beth Moore

04-24-2008, 05:11 PM	#237 (permalink)
IO Storm IO Storm Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 7,892	During the commercials eh Astro? Hi Astro!
	__________________ "God holds me still in the eye of the Storm" "You are so much neater a person healed, than just plain well." Beth Moore

04-24-2008, 05:13 PM	#238 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Somewhere Left of Left Posts: 4,668	god that is soooo me IO!

04-24-2008, 05:31 PM	#240 (permalink)
ImJulie Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 527	We could play "Guess What This Used To Be" with lots of the contents of my fridge. We NEVER eat leftovers. Yet every night, I pack em up in all those tupperware bowls I got sucked into buying at one of those stoooopid home parties (I went cuz there was going to be wine) Anywho...I pack em up, and there they sit. Until they get fuzzy. Im sick.
	__________________ You lift me, and I'll lift you, and we'll ascend together. - Anonymous

04-24-2008, 05:31 PM	#241 (permalink)
IO Storm IO Storm Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 7,892	I drink my coffee in the morning (for about three hours) and read the newspaper. And dust and take out the garbage and sweep and read the paper and take smoke breaks (my last vice...yuck)...and watch the news. Then save personal business for afternoons. Notice I don't come here until afternoon? Here in Southern Cal.. around 3:00 p.m. Slothful...slothful...slothful!
	__________________ "God holds me still in the eye of the Storm" "You are so much neater a person healed, than just plain well." Beth Moore

04-24-2008, 05:34 PM	#242 (permalink)
ImJulie Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 527	Man Ananda...you got me on a roll! K...this one is kinda funny. My kids have never worn matching socks. They always told people they were starting a new fad....how cool. It was really cuz the entire family's socks get washed then thrown in a big box. You want socks? Then dig and find a pair. Keep in mind, its a house of 6....5 of them girls with dozens of pairs of cutsie socks. It could take an hour to find a match.
	__________________ You lift me, and I'll lift you, and we'll ascend together. - Anonymous