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WolfonPlain · 04-16-2008, 11:23 AM

yet again im falling into this ****
sorry guys i cant believe what im doing
more booze and gambling and debt
this time i WILL go to a meeting,gotta get thgings under control before they get even worse(if worse is possible)

ImJulie · 04-16-2008, 11:27 AM

Try this on for size:

Recovery is possible.

((hugs)) to you.

WolfonPlain · 04-16-2008, 11:29 AM

thanks,i know.Will try my best this time.

ImJulie · 04-16-2008, 11:31 AM

The "trick" for me was asking for help.
I tried and tried to do it MY way.
My way sucks and gets me in an awful lotta messes.

BUTTERFLY-7 · 04-16-2008, 11:38 AM

one day at a Time, Easy Dos It, Buddy remember the journey of a thousand miles is not conquer on how fast you run is that you get there.

aldo1980 · 04-16-2008, 12:34 PM

Hi Wolf!
I'm an alcoholic and compulsive gambler too (and general addict). Good to see you on here. I thought their was nobody else on here with the gambling problem. We can fight this together and morally support each other

I quit gambling about 8 years ago. I started again about 6 months ago. I was at the airport and I had a pocketful of coins which would have been no use to me when I got home, so I thought "I'll just play them in the machine". The illness returned and I was loosing about £200. I then won about £300 in all. The thing is I'm quite sure had I not have won I would have continued playing and missed my flight. I was the last onto the plane. It was that bad! Since then I havn't been able to stop playing

I think what we need to do is to completly change the places we hang out in. We can't go anywhere near the machines/tables/horses/bookies/whatever.
Send me a PM any time if you want. I'm on most days.
Take care.

**51anna** · 04-16-2008, 12:50 PM

Make a change in your life Wolfon and you can begin recovery.

**CarolD** · 04-16-2008, 01:00 PM

I've heard that desperation and pain
are the best motivators.

Good to know you are planning a change.

MagicMan08 · 04-16-2008, 04:31 PM

It took me a hell of a lot to learn that I was finally willing to go to any length to achieve and keep my sobriety. It doesn't have to be a struggle....

WolfonPlain · 04-17-2008, 01:12 AM

I am sober this morning.This evening i will go to an AA meeting and throw myself into the steps for the first time in my drinking career.i am not a spiritual person in anyway,this worries me some because from what i have read of the big book(online)it seems that AA is largely based around spirituality be it religion or higher power.
I will do my best however to embrace all the ideals and hope that i can overcome my lack of faith if that is what i need to do.

Rusty Zipper · 04-17-2008, 03:45 AM

WP

Quote:

before they get even worse(if worse is possible)

you bet its possible!

good wishes WP

faith08 · 04-17-2008, 03:55 AM

wolf --- i'm just really not into AA. it does not work for me, but i think if the spirituality part is the only thing that is bothering you---let all that go in one ear and out. if working the steps will and can help you, work them!
i think a lot of people here (even die-hard AA'ers) will tell you to take what you can use and let the rest go by.
best wishes for your AA experience!!

**CarolD** · 04-17-2008, 04:27 AM

There are other recovery options ...

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-programs.html (Recovery Programs)

however AA is usally the most active and available.

Try maybe...6 or so different meetings.
You will see that they are not exactly the same.

Let us know how it works out...k?

WolfonPlain · 04-17-2008, 05:40 AM

sure will let ya know,thx to all

WolfonPlain · 04-18-2008, 07:20 AM

Well,went to my 1st AA meeting last night and what can i say?
I have never been greeted so warmly by a complete group of strangers ever in my life before.The people there where hugely welcoming.
It was so interesting to sit and listen to these peoples experiences and within an hour i felt completely at ease as i could relate to almost everything i heard,sure some were worse off than me and others not so bad,but,to see and hear people sharing so much about themselves with no feeling f shame and nobody there judging them gives an indescribable sense of freedom.
I am so glad i went and will endeavour to get to as many meeting as possible.
My absolutely genuine gratitude to everyone who reccomended AA to me!

ananda · 04-18-2008, 07:31 AM

I am so glad to hear you sound so happy and excited.

I attend AA. If you do struggle with it, check out some of the posts available on secular recovery, and 12 step secular recovery (I think thats the name). Those are very helpful.

You helped all those people alot by showing up last night. That is why they are so happy to see you!

Freedom1990 · 04-18-2008, 08:00 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WolfonPlain

I am sober this morning.This evening i will go to an AA meeting and throw myself into the steps for the first time in my drinking career.i am not a spiritual person in anyway,this worries me some because from what i have read of the big book(online)it seems that AA is largely based around spirituality be it religion or higher power.
I will do my best however to embrace all the ideals and hope that i can overcome my lack of faith if that is what i need to do.

"The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking."

That statement alone told me not to be discouraged just because I wasn't a spiritual person when I came to AA.

Being honest, open-minded, and willing to try something new are the only other things I can suggest to you right now.

04-16-2008, 11:23 AM	#1 (permalink)
WolfonPlain underacheiver Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: hull Posts: 22	again yet again im falling into this **** sorry guys i cant believe what im doing more booze and gambling and debt this time i WILL go to a meeting,gotta get thgings under control before they get even worse(if worse is possible)

04-16-2008, 11:27 AM	#2 (permalink)
ImJulie Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 527	Try this on for size: Recovery is possible. ((hugs)) to you.
	__________________ You lift me, and I'll lift you, and we'll ascend together. - Anonymous

04-16-2008, 11:31 AM	#4 (permalink)
ImJulie Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 527	The "trick" for me was asking for help. I tried and tried to do it MY way. My way sucks and gets me in an awful lotta messes.
	__________________ You lift me, and I'll lift you, and we'll ascend together. - Anonymous

04-16-2008, 12:34 PM	#6 (permalink)
aldo1980 Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Italy Posts: 708	Hi Wolf! I'm an alcoholic and compulsive gambler too (and general addict). Good to see you on here. I thought their was nobody else on here with the gambling problem. We can fight this together and morally support each other I quit gambling about 8 years ago. I started again about 6 months ago. I was at the airport and I had a pocketful of coins which would have been no use to me when I got home, so I thought "I'll just play them in the machine". The illness returned and I was loosing about £200. I then won about £300 in all. The thing is I'm quite sure had I not have won I would have continued playing and missed my flight. I was the last onto the plane. It was that bad! Since then I havn't been able to stop playing I think what we need to do is to completly change the places we hang out in. We can't go anywhere near the machines/tables/horses/bookies/whatever. Send me a PM any time if you want. I'm on most days. Take care.
	__________________ sober since 2008-03-16 soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/133465-introduction-my-story.html

04-16-2008, 12:50 PM	#7 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 9,607	Make a change in your life Wolfon and you can begin recovery.
	__________________ Anna "I don't know what the future is holding in store I don't know where Im going, Im not sure where Ive been Theres a spirit that guides me, a light that shines for me My life is worth the living, I don't need to see the end." John Denver

04-16-2008, 11:29 AM	#3 (permalink)
WolfonPlain underacheiver Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: hull Posts: 22	thanks,i know.Will try my best this time.

04-16-2008, 11:38 AM	#5 (permalink)
BUTTERFLY-7 Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: bronx,ny Posts: 872	one day at a Time, Easy Dos It, Buddy remember the journey of a thousand miles is not conquer on how fast you run is that you get there.

04-16-2008, 01:00 PM	#8 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA Posts: 12,685	I've heard that desperation and pain are the best motivators. Good to know you are planning a change.
	__________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery...

04-16-2008, 04:31 PM	#9 (permalink)
MagicMan08 Stand-Up Guy Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Minnesota Posts: 263	It took me a hell of a lot to learn that I was finally willing to go to any length to achieve and keep my sobriety. It doesn't have to be a struggle....

04-17-2008, 01:12 AM	#10 (permalink)
WolfonPlain underacheiver Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: hull Posts: 22	I am sober this morning.This evening i will go to an AA meeting and throw myself into the steps for the first time in my drinking career.i am not a spiritual person in anyway,this worries me some because from what i have read of the big book(online)it seems that AA is largely based around spirituality be it religion or higher power. I will do my best however to embrace all the ideals and hope that i can overcome my lack of faith if that is what i need to do.

04-17-2008, 03:55 AM	#12 (permalink)
faith08 No AA Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: USA Posts: 156	wolf --- i'm just really not into AA. it does not work for me, but i think if the spirituality part is the only thing that is bothering you---let all that go in one ear and out. if working the steps will and can help you, work them! i think a lot of people here (even die-hard AA'ers) will tell you to take what you can use and let the rest go by. best wishes for your AA experience!!
	__________________ Trying to find my starting point again....

04-17-2008, 04:27 AM	#13 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA Posts: 12,685	There are other recovery options ... http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-programs.html (Recovery Programs) however AA is usally the most active and available. Try maybe...6 or so different meetings. You will see that they are not exactly the same. Let us know how it works out...k?
	__________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery...

04-17-2008, 05:40 AM	#14 (permalink)
WolfonPlain underacheiver Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: hull Posts: 22	sure will let ya know,thx to all

04-18-2008, 07:20 AM	#15 (permalink)
WolfonPlain underacheiver Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: hull Posts: 22	Well,went to my 1st AA meeting last night and what can i say? I have never been greeted so warmly by a complete group of strangers ever in my life before.The people there where hugely welcoming. It was so interesting to sit and listen to these peoples experiences and within an hour i felt completely at ease as i could relate to almost everything i heard,sure some were worse off than me and others not so bad,but,to see and hear people sharing so much about themselves with no feeling f shame and nobody there judging them gives an indescribable sense of freedom. I am so glad i went and will endeavour to get to as many meeting as possible. My absolutely genuine gratitude to everyone who reccomended AA to me!
	__________________ "Stars are just pinholes in the curtain of night" Dean Koontz"

04-18-2008, 07:31 AM	#16 (permalink)
ananda I'm just your imaginary friend Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Somewhere Left of Left Posts: 2,441	I am so glad to hear you sound so happy and excited. I attend AA. If you do struggle with it, check out some of the posts available on secular recovery, and 12 step secular recovery (I think thats the name). Those are very helpful. You helped all those people alot by showing up last night. That is why they are so happy to see you!