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lostnspain · 04-08-2008, 12:19 AM

today i will not drink..i drink maybe a glass of wine a night..im usually to tired to drink when i get home from work. But if i can I will drink at lunch ,,you know spain has its famous 3 hour lunches,,but i know my liver is not filtering the alcohol because with one or 2 glasses of wine i can feel as if i drank a bottle..
i have to change my mind set...i want to move back to america..but im afraid. To me that is strange, I came to Spain not knowing Spanish.
I have been here and stayed because the people in Spain arent so critical. It´s easy to be in your own world here,,which probably has hindered me. I really feel like a little girl..at 53. I dont want to take care of myself. Isnt that crazy.
Does this mean I will be alone the rest of my life because Im broken and I will not know how to have a man that is good for me?

Conez · 04-08-2008, 01:02 AM

big Hello Lostnspain WELCOME to SR!
think most here @SR are trying to change mindset.
as with most life changes they're accompaned with fear, anxiety n the such...
this is warm and caring community, we share n genuienly try to cope with the overwhelming issues together.
Lost n learning, growing almost like being a child again with innocence to learn over and change our way of thinkin with hope of living without hinderence to our well being, peace n happiness.
i don't think u are broken, just need a lil mend... one thing at a time, one day at a time
my wishes are with u, peace for today

barb dwyer · 04-08-2008, 01:08 AM

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Does this mean I will be alone the rest of my life because Im broken and I will not know how to have a man that is good for me?

nope.

BUTTERFLY-7 · 04-08-2008, 10:39 AM

**51anna** · 04-08-2008, 10:42 AM

I'm glad you're here.

It does seem like addiction stops us from maturing and evolving as grown adults, that's for sure. But, that doesn't mean you can't continue to grow from this point. You have the moment and you make a choice to recover.

ImJulie · 04-08-2008, 10:53 AM

ola princessa! Ok...thats my bungled-up spanish...lol
Welcome!
You'll find lots of great people here. Im glad you're here.

dave47 · 04-08-2008, 11:39 AM

Welcome Lostnspain.
Browse through the other sections of SR, there are always those to discuss all your concerns with, best wishes.

aldo1980 · 04-08-2008, 11:47 AM

hi!
welcome aboard! lots of nice people on here with lots of good advice and wisdom to share.
take it one day at a time.
good luck.

lostnspain · 04-16-2008, 12:04 AM

Ok ..I just wrote a lot here and i touched one of the keys and it all disappeared..puff.
I don´t remember what I wrote,,except ...
It is good to know that I´m not the only one going through this, and not the only thinking this way..not the only one who has/had an abusive bf. I´m not the only one trying to climb out of this hole..and there is more help in America when I get back.

The first step message told by Sandy Beach is very very good. I could identify with most of it. Of course, I was laughing so hard at times because of the reality of what he was saying.
I wish I wasn´t so tired,,but I know that will change. Thanks again everyone for your reponses.

Tazman53 · 04-16-2008, 05:00 AM

Lost when you get back to the states I highly reccommend going some where to hear him speak, Sandy originally got sober just north of where I live now and then moved down to Fredericksburg where I do live...... sadly he then moved to Fla. before I got sober, but a lot of folks in my area including my sponsor knows him personally. I went to an AA get togather in Virginia Beach this past year where he spoke, the man has an excellent message. My sponor introduced us, he is just as awesome in person as he is on the CDs.

lostnspain · 04-16-2008, 06:57 AM

I would like to hear more of his ...meetings. Just listening to him gives me a lot to think about.. .it seems more real when someone talks about it verses me reading it..it´s a little dry for me to read right now. I don´t know if it is because I don´t hear anyone speak english except for my students or I can apply it easier to my life..(HMmm, now I´m over analyzing).

I´m more patient with myself today.

Rodney · 04-16-2008, 07:03 AM

Welcome lost in Spain,
Oh I so wish I could visit Spain someday.
I know how you feel and I standing right beside you, lets take the journey together!

***Rella927*** · 04-16-2008, 07:11 AM

Welcome to SR LostNSpain! Glad that you found us! Please keep posting

**CarolD** · 04-16-2008, 07:39 AM

Hi again...

Here is a site for AA speaker tapes..

XA-Speakers - The lights are on!

RK2007 · 04-16-2008, 08:19 AM

Hi there and welcome. There is always hope and I'm glad you found this forum - you'll find lots of support here and maybe even some new ideas from the people here to maybe help/encourage you to begin to tackle some of the stuff in your life that you're unhappy about.

Tazman53 · 04-16-2008, 08:21 AM

Lost in early sobriety listening to speakers and going to meetings is how I got by, I too read the BB, but what I found was in early sobriety I just could not seem to grasp what was being said in the BB, after I was sober a couple of months things in the book seemed to start to make a bit more sense and even more sense when I was reading it and talking about what we were reading with my sponsor.

tennis71 · 04-16-2008, 10:05 AM

Welcome! SR is a good cross section of the sober fellowships that you can find out in the world. I am not sure about Spain, but they seem to be all over the place here state side.

You don't have to be alone no matter what. Also, have you checked with a Dr. to see if our liver is functioning properly? Just a thought.

Thanks for your post and welcome!

04-08-2008, 12:19 AM	#1 (permalink)
lostnspain Candace Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Reno, Nevada Posts: 109	Hello all..Im new here. today i will not drink..i drink maybe a glass of wine a night..im usually to tired to drink when i get home from work. But if i can I will drink at lunch ,,you know spain has its famous 3 hour lunches,,but i know my liver is not filtering the alcohol because with one or 2 glasses of wine i can feel as if i drank a bottle.. i have to change my mind set...i want to move back to america..but im afraid. To me that is strange, I came to Spain not knowing Spanish. I have been here and stayed because the people in Spain arent so critical. It´s easy to be in your own world here,,which probably has hindered me. I really feel like a little girl..at 53. I dont want to take care of myself. Isnt that crazy. Does this mean I will be alone the rest of my life because Im broken and I will not know how to have a man that is good for me?

04-08-2008, 01:02 AM	#2 (permalink)
Conez Guest Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 176	big Hello Lostnspain WELCOME to SR! think most here @SR are trying to change mindset. as with most life changes they're accompaned with fear, anxiety n the such... this is warm and caring community, we share n genuienly try to cope with the overwhelming issues together. Lost n learning, growing almost like being a child again with innocence to learn over and change our way of thinkin with hope of living without hinderence to our well being, peace n happiness. i don't think u are broken, just need a lil mend... one thing at a time, one day at a time my wishes are with u, peace for today
Conez Guest Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 176

04-08-2008, 10:42 AM	#5 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 10,175	I'm glad you're here. It does seem like addiction stops us from maturing and evolving as grown adults, that's for sure. But, that doesn't mean you can't continue to grow from this point. You have the moment and you make a choice to recover.
	__________________ Anna "I don't know what the future is holding in store I don't know where Im going, Im not sure where Ive been Theres a spirit that guides me, a light that shines for me My life is worth the living, I don't need to see the end." John Denver

04-08-2008, 10:53 AM	#6 (permalink)
ImJulie Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 527	ola princessa! Ok...thats my bungled-up spanish...lol Welcome! You'll find lots of great people here. Im glad you're here.
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04-08-2008, 11:39 AM	#7 (permalink)
dave47 Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: England Posts: 1,301	Welcome Lostnspain. Browse through the other sections of SR, there are always those to discuss all your concerns with, best wishes.
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04-08-2008, 11:47 AM	#8 (permalink)
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04-16-2008, 12:04 AM	#9 (permalink)
lostnspain Candace Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Reno, Nevada Posts: 109	Grateful Ok ..I just wrote a lot here and i touched one of the keys and it all disappeared..puff. I don´t remember what I wrote,,except ... It is good to know that I´m not the only one going through this, and not the only thinking this way..not the only one who has/had an abusive bf. I´m not the only one trying to climb out of this hole..and there is more help in America when I get back. The first step message told by Sandy Beach is very very good. I could identify with most of it. Of course, I was laughing so hard at times because of the reality of what he was saying. I wish I wasn´t so tired,,but I know that will change. Thanks again everyone for your reponses.
	Last edited by lostnspain; 04-16-2008 at 12:05 AM. Reason: sp check

04-16-2008, 05:00 AM	#10 (permalink)
Tazman53 Follow Directions! Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Fredericksburg, Va. Posts: 6,439	Lost when you get back to the states I highly reccommend going some where to hear him speak, Sandy originally got sober just north of where I live now and then moved down to Fredericksburg where I do live...... sadly he then moved to Fla. before I got sober, but a lot of folks in my area including my sponsor knows him personally. I went to an AA get togather in Virginia Beach this past year where he spoke, the man has an excellent message. My sponor introduced us, he is just as awesome in person as he is on the CDs.
	__________________ All BB quotes are from the First Edition of the BB Follow directions! Sobriety date 18 Sept. 2006 Sober today thanks to AA

04-16-2008, 06:57 AM	#11 (permalink)
lostnspain Candace Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Reno, Nevada Posts: 109	Good Afternoon I would like to hear more of his ...meetings. Just listening to him gives me a lot to think about.. .it seems more real when someone talks about it verses me reading it..it´s a little dry for me to read right now. I don´t know if it is because I don´t hear anyone speak english except for my students or I can apply it easier to my life..(HMmm, now I´m over analyzing). I´m more patient with myself today.
	Last edited by lostnspain; 04-16-2008 at 06:58 AM. Reason: sp ck

04-16-2008, 07:03 AM	#12 (permalink)
Rodney Prospect Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Central Oregon Posts: 59	Welcome lost in Spain, Oh I so wish I could visit Spain someday. I know how you feel and I standing right beside you, lets take the journey together!
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04-16-2008, 07:11 AM	#13 (permalink)
*Rella927* ¢σммυηιту gяєєтєя Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Spreading my wings Posts: 5,826	Welcome to SR LostNSpain! Glad that you found us! Please keep posting
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04-16-2008, 07:39 AM	#14 (permalink)
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04-16-2008, 08:19 AM	#15 (permalink)
RK2007 ninja master Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,574	Hi there and welcome. There is always hope and I'm glad you found this forum - you'll find lots of support here and maybe even some new ideas from the people here to maybe help/encourage you to begin to tackle some of the stuff in your life that you're unhappy about.
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04-16-2008, 08:21 AM	#16 (permalink)
Tazman53 Follow Directions! Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Fredericksburg, Va. Posts: 6,439	Lost in early sobriety listening to speakers and going to meetings is how I got by, I too read the BB, but what I found was in early sobriety I just could not seem to grasp what was being said in the BB, after I was sober a couple of months things in the book seemed to start to make a bit more sense and even more sense when I was reading it and talking about what we were reading with my sponsor.
	__________________ All BB quotes are from the First Edition of the BB Follow directions! Sobriety date 18 Sept. 2006 Sober today thanks to AA

04-18-2008, 02:47 AM	#18 (permalink)
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04-16-2008, 10:05 AM	#17 (permalink)
tennis71 Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 319	Welcome! SR is a good cross section of the sober fellowships that you can find out in the world. I am not sure about Spain, but they seem to be all over the place here state side. You don't have to be alone no matter what. Also, have you checked with a Dr. to see if our liver is functioning properly? Just a thought. Thanks for your post and welcome!
	__________________ Sobriety - WOW What a Ride!