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27445lv · 11-03-2006, 08:11 PM

hello this is my first time here.. and i am very scared and confused, my ex husband wants to be a family again, any women our there that has been in the same situation.. i would love to make it work, but i am scared i have come so far that i dont want to go back, all of these questions are in my mind, what if??? it doesnt work?? what if my children get hurt again?? what if I get hurt gain??? the ugly what if.. my family will disown me if I even consider going back, I dont even know why i am considering it.. what is wrong with me. thanks for listening

**CarolD** · 11-03-2006, 08:19 PM

Welcome to SR!

Why not make a list of why it's a good idea
and then list why it is not?

Then you can see where you stand.
Take your time..there is no rush to make a decision.

Blessings to you and your family

lulu70 · 11-03-2006, 08:20 PM

Hey there. Welcome to SR! Glad you found us.

Is your ex-husband an addict? I would assume so since you are seeking advice here. If so, I would suggest heading down to our Friends and Family or Naranon forums and seeking advice there as well as posting here. There are a lot of folks here who have been where you are right now. Hang in there!

27445lv · 11-03-2006, 08:44 PM

Hi carol, that is true, writing the negative and positive down. I just feel like a cluts sometimes cuz for some reaseo, i have forgotten alot of the pain and suffering he put me through, and my family, thinks that i am stupid for letting all that anger go.

laurience · 11-03-2006, 08:48 PM

When you don't know what to do, do nothing. It sounds like you already know the right answer. Sometimes the evil we know is more comforting than the unknown. Stay strong, you left for a reason. List all the things he has done and stay away. You and your children will get hurt again.
Joanne

Smyle · 11-03-2006, 10:44 PM

welcome ...you have some great advice here.....

Wolfchild · 11-04-2006, 08:37 AM

11-03-2006, 08:11 PM	#1 (permalink)
27445lv Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: eo paso, tx Posts: 11	scared and confused hello this is my first time here.. and i am very scared and confused, my ex husband wants to be a family again, any women our there that has been in the same situation.. i would love to make it work, but i am scared i have come so far that i dont want to go back, all of these questions are in my mind, what if??? it doesnt work?? what if my children get hurt again?? what if I get hurt gain??? the ugly what if.. my family will disown me if I even consider going back, I dont even know why i am considering it.. what is wrong with me. thanks for listening

11-03-2006, 08:19 PM	#2 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA Posts: 16,050	Welcome to SR! Why not make a list of why it's a good idea and then list why it is not? Then you can see where you stand. Take your time..there is no rush to make a decision. Blessings to you and your family __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery!

11-03-2006, 08:20 PM	#3 (permalink)
lulu70 We all need each other. Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: The road of happy destiny. Posts: 2,223	Hey there. Welcome to SR! Glad you found us. Is your ex-husband an addict? I would assume so since you are seeking advice here. If so, I would suggest heading down to our Friends and Family or Naranon forums and seeking advice there as well as posting here. There are a lot of folks here who have been where you are right now. Hang in there! __________________ "You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.....do the thing you think you cannot do." ~Eleanor Roosevelt

11-04-2006, 08:37 AM	#7 (permalink)
Wolfchild Disposable Hero Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Being, ME Posts: 787	__________________ It's always here....it's always there It's just love, and miracles out of nowhere

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11-03-2006, 08:44 PM	#4 (permalink)
27445lv Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: eo paso, tx Posts: 11	Hi carol, that is true, writing the negative and positive down. I just feel like a cluts sometimes cuz for some reaseo, i have forgotten alot of the pain and suffering he put me through, and my family, thinks that i am stupid for letting all that anger go.

11-03-2006, 08:48 PM	#5 (permalink)
laurience Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 348	When you don't know what to do, do nothing. It sounds like you already know the right answer. Sometimes the evil we know is more comforting than the unknown. Stay strong, you left for a reason. List all the things he has done and stay away. You and your children will get hurt again. Joanne

11-03-2006, 10:44 PM	#6 (permalink)
Smyle Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Newfie-Land, Mo Posts: 1,623	welcome ...you have some great advice here.....

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