Class of March 2016 part 42
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Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Chicago, IL
Posts: 1,219
MITA - Glad your meeting went well!
Bobbie - Your joke made me groan. The intended response for sure.
KIKI - congrats on day 10. Keep using those tools!
Home and about to play Minecraft with DD. More groan. Lol. Have a good one. I'll check in again later!
Bobbie - Your joke made me groan. The intended response for sure.
KIKI - congrats on day 10. Keep using those tools!
Home and about to play Minecraft with DD. More groan. Lol. Have a good one. I'll check in again later!
Velveteen Rabbit
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: San Diego, Cali
Posts: 2,661
Hello all,
Just a note to say hi and that I'm sorry to have slipped away. Not a good story so I'll spare you my humiliation.
BUT....I feel very resolved now. Oddly at peace with sobriety. I sit here and am drinking tea and watching the sun go down here in San Diego.
As Scarlett O'Hara always said....after all, tomorrah is anotha day!
I stopped drinking Thursday and haven't missed it. I don't miss the chaos and sickness....and that's all that comes to mind when I think about drinking now.
I have some catching up to do, so I will go read posts. I hope you are all well. I've missed you.
And I do like that pack of lions...it's good to have a posse on a mission.
Just a note to say hi and that I'm sorry to have slipped away. Not a good story so I'll spare you my humiliation.
BUT....I feel very resolved now. Oddly at peace with sobriety. I sit here and am drinking tea and watching the sun go down here in San Diego.
As Scarlett O'Hara always said....after all, tomorrah is anotha day!
I stopped drinking Thursday and haven't missed it. I don't miss the chaos and sickness....and that's all that comes to mind when I think about drinking now.
I have some catching up to do, so I will go read posts. I hope you are all well. I've missed you.
And I do like that pack of lions...it's good to have a posse on a mission.
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Join Date: May 2014
Location: Valley of the Sun, AZ
Posts: 3,458
Just back from SD and was thinking of you as well, LillianGish. It's nice to have you back!!
Kiki - I hear you on that early recovery AV. We've given it a little life, but I think Dee's suggestion is a good one - pay it no attention.
Have a good night everyone!
Kiki - I hear you on that early recovery AV. We've given it a little life, but I think Dee's suggestion is a good one - pay it no attention.
Have a good night everyone!
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Join Date: Mar 2016
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 3,197
Evening class! Checking in from work and I feel completely removed from my normal routine...most likely because I am. But life will happen and that means that routines will be changed and turned on their heads sometimes....no reason to make room for AV even though she has been nagging all night.
Glad to hear about your son Bobbie - praying for him
You got this LB!!
CH - sober mornings are the best! Minecraft...oh dear...lol
MITA - great job! Travel safe!!
Purplrks - love the picture!! I couldn't ask for a better group to travel with!
Lillian - so good to see you...glad you're here!!
Kiki - you got this!! You're stronger than you think! Love you!!
Well back to work. One more hour then home to bed....whew!!
Glad to hear about your son Bobbie - praying for him
You got this LB!!
CH - sober mornings are the best! Minecraft...oh dear...lol
MITA - great job! Travel safe!!
Purplrks - love the picture!! I couldn't ask for a better group to travel with!
Lillian - so good to see you...glad you're here!!
Kiki - you got this!! You're stronger than you think! Love you!!
Well back to work. One more hour then home to bed....whew!!
Velveteen Rabbit
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: San Diego, Cali
Posts: 2,661
Originally Posted by KiKi0615 
I wanted to repost my post from this afternoon because I think it has a powerful message about the effects of alcoholism on children.
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So this happened on my walk today..........
I was about 30 minutes into it and I saw a really cute dog. I walked over to say hello and realized I knew the owner! She was an old friend of my daughters. (15 years old). I haven't seen her in a few years because they don't really hang out anymore.
Anyway, I said hello and ended up talking with her for about 30 minutes. I asked her how she had been and she said "well....it's been an interesting year...I will just leave it at that."
After talking for a few minutes she started to open up to me. I have always been good with teenagers for some reason. Well it turns out a year ago when she was 14 she tried to kill herself and was doing a lot of cutting on her arms etc. so she was in a pediatric psych ward for 10 months. So sad.
I hate to say this but I have kinda seen this coming since she and my daughter were in the same Kindergarten class 10 years ago. Her mom is a bad alcoholic and it had really effected her 2 kids over the past 10 years. Her mom's alcoholism really progressed and she ended up leaving her kids and husband.
She still saw them but my daughter's friend said even when she was only 5 years old she knew her mom was drinking and it made her feel like she was being abandoned because her mom was never emotionally there for her. This took me straight back to when I was 15 so I was able to talk to her and relate. It was kinda like 2 hurt 15 year olds talking....
Anyway, she is doing much better now but I could see the sadness in her eyes when she said her mom is still drinking and her older brother is now on drugs. It made me realize how much damage we really do to our kids when we drink even if we think they don't know. They DO know! And it causes life-time pain.
I was so glad I saw her today and I think it was definitely a "God thing". I think God wanted me to see the pain and suffering that kids of alcoholics can and do go through if their parents still drink. It reinforced why I don't want to drink anymore.
Anyway, she's not suicidal anymore and doesn't cut her arms. She is 15 now and is back in school. She said she is going to start volunteering at the local psychiatric hospital and wants to be a psychologist someday so she can help troubled kids.
I told her how proud I am of her and hugged her!!! Her dad ended up getting re-married but her mom is still drinking and absent.
The thing that really struck me was when she said that she remembers her mom drinking all the way back to when she was in kindergarten and it really hurt her. They KNOW folks! :-(
It was really good to be able to be there for her today instead of being a selfish ******* out at a bar drinking. Stupid. Just wanted to share....
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So this happened on my walk today..........
I was about 30 minutes into it and I saw a really cute dog. I walked over to say hello and realized I knew the owner! She was an old friend of my daughters. (15 years old). I haven't seen her in a few years because they don't really hang out anymore.
Anyway, I said hello and ended up talking with her for about 30 minutes. I asked her how she had been and she said "well....it's been an interesting year...I will just leave it at that."
After talking for a few minutes she started to open up to me. I have always been good with teenagers for some reason. Well it turns out a year ago when she was 14 she tried to kill herself and was doing a lot of cutting on her arms etc. so she was in a pediatric psych ward for 10 months. So sad.
I hate to say this but I have kinda seen this coming since she and my daughter were in the same Kindergarten class 10 years ago. Her mom is a bad alcoholic and it had really effected her 2 kids over the past 10 years. Her mom's alcoholism really progressed and she ended up leaving her kids and husband.
She still saw them but my daughter's friend said even when she was only 5 years old she knew her mom was drinking and it made her feel like she was being abandoned because her mom was never emotionally there for her. This took me straight back to when I was 15 so I was able to talk to her and relate. It was kinda like 2 hurt 15 year olds talking....
Anyway, she is doing much better now but I could see the sadness in her eyes when she said her mom is still drinking and her older brother is now on drugs. It made me realize how much damage we really do to our kids when we drink even if we think they don't know. They DO know! And it causes life-time pain.
I was so glad I saw her today and I think it was definitely a "God thing". I think God wanted me to see the pain and suffering that kids of alcoholics can and do go through if their parents still drink. It reinforced why I don't want to drink anymore.
Anyway, she's not suicidal anymore and doesn't cut her arms. She is 15 now and is back in school. She said she is going to start volunteering at the local psychiatric hospital and wants to be a psychologist someday so she can help troubled kids.
I told her how proud I am of her and hugged her!!! Her dad ended up getting re-married but her mom is still drinking and absent.
The thing that really struck me was when she said that she remembers her mom drinking all the way back to when she was in kindergarten and it really hurt her. They KNOW folks! :-(
It was really good to be able to be there for her today instead of being a selfish ******* out at a bar drinking. Stupid. Just wanted to share....
Thank you for sharing it. I think I'll go give my children some attention.
Velveteen Rabbit
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: San Diego, Cali
Posts: 2,661
Originally Posted by ManInTheArena
Just back from SD and was thinking of you as well, LillianGish. It's nice to have you back!!
I doubt I'll be invited to the Atlanta conference next year after my boozy behavior last week....but on the upside I guess I won't have to worry about flying in February again. Oy.
Never drink and drive. Never drink at work. Let's just not drink. Ever. So much simpler.
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