Class of May 2016 Support Thread Part 9
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I appreciate your posts - not taking over at all.
I understand you Simplicity. A similar analogy - my sisters know that I quit drinking and both will mention how strong I am to being quit. I don't feel strong a lot of the time, if not most of the time. But I have wondered this...is it my perception that's off? That I am strong inside? I'm not trying to trivialize your thoughts, but could it be possible that you are way stronger inside than you realize? That it's past experiences that are affecting/creating some of this doubt? Just a thought.
My wife is a big Joe Dispenza fan. I've seen what the power of mind can do through her (another story
). Powerful stuff. I'm trying to work on myself through some of his philosophies...
I understand you Simplicity. A similar analogy - my sisters know that I quit drinking and both will mention how strong I am to being quit. I don't feel strong a lot of the time, if not most of the time. But I have wondered this...is it my perception that's off? That I am strong inside? I'm not trying to trivialize your thoughts, but could it be possible that you are way stronger inside than you realize? That it's past experiences that are affecting/creating some of this doubt? Just a thought.
My wife is a big Joe Dispenza fan. I've seen what the power of mind can do through her (another story
). Powerful stuff. I'm trying to work on myself through some of his philosophies...
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Originally Posted by tootiesdad 
But I have wondered this...is it my perception that's off? That I am strong inside? I'm not trying to trivialize your thoughts, but could it be possible that you are way stronger inside than you realize? That it's past experiences that are affecting/creating some of this doubt? Just a thought.
My wife is a big Joe Dispenza fan. I've seen what the power of mind can do through her (another story ). Powerful stuff. I'm trying to work on myself through some of his philosophies...
My wife is a big Joe Dispenza fan. I've seen what the power of mind can do through her (another story
). Powerful stuff. I'm trying to work on myself through some of his philosophies...
Looks like I have another self help book to add to the reading list. 
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Maybe I need to print out this post and hand it to my counselor....
I'm sorry you're feeling this way Sim. You had a few tough weeks lately and you've coped so well. Try to chill out this weekend if you can.
Sending you lots of love
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I think printing it out is a great idea Sim...like Elke says it's been a rough time for you lately.
Tootiesdad - I'm not sure I'm strong for giving up drinking - it got to a pretty simple live or die choice...
but I do know I didn't have any idea of how strong and capable I was until I got sober.
Tootiesdad - I'm not sure I'm strong for giving up drinking - it got to a pretty simple live or die choice...
but I do know I didn't have any idea of how strong and capable I was until I got sober.
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Originally Posted by Simplicity4114
Looks like I have another self help book to add to the reading list.
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Originally Posted by tootiesdad
Sorry Sim - just sharing a path I'm starting to take. If it came across preachy I sincerely apologize...
It's good food for thought and I like that idea far better than thinking I'm hopelessly screwed up, so emotionally detached that I can't convey my pain to someone I'm paying to help me get back to good. I appreciate you reaching out to relate and to share, and I value everyone of you. I do believe in the power of positive thinking.....even though it's been a struggle for me as of late. And I do sincerely want to check out that book! Our thoughts and how we choose to view the world and our circumstances is truly the only thing we have total control over in our lives. I've got quite the self help section in my library.....time to add another tool to the box!
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Good morning everyone! I've got my daughter's fifth grade daddy-daughter dance and dinner tonight. The last one we went to - two years ago - I was chugging alcohol in the car (hiding) before we went in. I'm looking forward to being 100% present tonight, with all of my focus on my little girl...
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Originally Posted by tootiesdad
Good morning everyone! I've got my daughter's fifth grade daddy-daughter dance and dinner tonight. The last one we went to - two years ago - I was chugging alcohol in the car (hiding) before we went in. I'm looking forward to being 100% present tonight, with all of my focus on my little girl...
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Hi everyone!
Just catching up after a long !@#$%$ up week. Sim-- you have such an eloquent way with words. Man, I can totally relate to everything you wrote.
Glad to hear from everyone-- sounds like ya'll are doing ok.
Things are good here. I wrote an article this week for the magazine where I live. Once it is published I will share. It hits pretty close to home-- it is called 'just be you." and it is about what or how to be true to yourself.. a hard thing for me to do after all these years of drinking, and the struggles over the years in getting that back. I don't really think I will ever get that back, but I have slowly been able to work on that.
Spear fishing for Sturgeons is this weekend, and I am excited to get out on the ice and check that all out!!!
I will check in soon!
I love you guys and miss you!
Camery
Just catching up after a long !@#$%$ up week. Sim-- you have such an eloquent way with words. Man, I can totally relate to everything you wrote.
Glad to hear from everyone-- sounds like ya'll are doing ok.
Things are good here. I wrote an article this week for the magazine where I live. Once it is published I will share. It hits pretty close to home-- it is called 'just be you." and it is about what or how to be true to yourself.. a hard thing for me to do after all these years of drinking, and the struggles over the years in getting that back. I don't really think I will ever get that back, but I have slowly been able to work on that.
Spear fishing for Sturgeons is this weekend, and I am excited to get out on the ice and check that all out!!!
I will check in soon!
I love you guys and miss you!
Camery
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Camery-What an awesome opportunity to share all of your insight with others! And yes, please share when you are able! I would love to read your work! I love how you take life by storm and jump feet first into a project with enthusiasm! Whether it be moving to a new area, taking part in a video for work, volunteering, writing for a magazine, or spear fishing for sturgeons, you rise to the occasion with dogged determination and don't shy away! You go girl!
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Not a whole lot on tap for today. Time to get on out of my funk and use that precious energy for something useful.....like housecleaning! I will have babygirl for a few hours this afternoon while her parents sneak away for an early Valentine's dinner. One little smile on her little face is enough to make me forget all of this self pity non-sense and make my soul soar! There is just something about my grandchildren that bring out the absolute best in me and grounds me, re-centers me, reminds me of all the worthy things in life; of what is beautiful and precious in this world. I thank God they are here and apart of my life.
I had a 45 minute conversation with my son last night. Very odd. He called me . Even more odd. He spoke of some of the enlightenment and clarity his sobriety brought him (his words, not mine). He was expressing sorrow and regret over his past behaviors towards those he loves. I tried to reassure him that we all make mistakes and he is loved. I tried to redirect him to focus on the positive, the progress he's made and in the process I realized I need to take a teaspoon of my own medicine and stop looking back myself. There is nothing for us back there. It is marred and broken and ugly. It is full of addiction and loss and regrets. No need to revisit that. Lately, I've been in some serious need of an attitude adjustment......I just got it.
Well it is the end of another football season here in the good ole U.S. of A. and the countdown to pre-season is on! This will be the Steelers year! I can feel it already
I had a 45 minute conversation with my son last night. Very odd. He called me . Even more odd. He spoke of some of the enlightenment and clarity his sobriety brought him (his words, not mine). He was expressing sorrow and regret over his past behaviors towards those he loves. I tried to reassure him that we all make mistakes and he is loved. I tried to redirect him to focus on the positive, the progress he's made and in the process I realized I need to take a teaspoon of my own medicine and stop looking back myself. There is nothing for us back there. It is marred and broken and ugly. It is full of addiction and loss and regrets. No need to revisit that. Lately, I've been in some serious need of an attitude adjustment......I just got it.
Well it is the end of another football season here in the good ole U.S. of A. and the countdown to pre-season is on! This will be the Steelers year! I can feel it already
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Originally Posted by Simplicity4114
Toot-How did the daddy-daughter dance go? Hopefully you didn't step on her toes too many times
Hey Sim, I appreciated reading your post above. It was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you very much…
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Happy Valentine's Day Folks! I know, I know.........commercialism at it finest. The hubs and I alternate years to treat the other......so beings that I handled last year's festivities, I'm off the hook for today
This will be yet another alcohol free milestone for me!
Wishing everyone a good day and sending lots of love to my SR family!
This will be yet another alcohol free milestone for me!
Wishing everyone a good day and sending lots of love to my SR family!
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Originally Posted by Simplicity4114
This will be yet another alcohol free milestone for me!
Wishing everyone a good day and sending lots of love to my SR family!
Wishing everyone a good day and sending lots of love to my SR family!
I hope that everyone has a great day - I appreciate you
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