One Year and Under Club Part 46
Living and Loving Life at Last
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Congrats on 8 weeks Casey
Drake my old Jack Russel used to attack my Hoover, Molly just scarpers. I had a cat that was so lazy I had to nudge it out the way with the brush!
Happy and Sober Fourth of July weekend Undies. stick close if temptation looms x
Drake my old Jack Russel used to attack my Hoover, Molly just scarpers. I had a cat that was so lazy I had to nudge it out the way with the brush!
Happy and Sober Fourth of July weekend Undies. stick close if temptation looms x
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Casey hope the burn heals quickly. I also get burnt very easily.
I'm up and ready for womp. Feeling much better then get to enjoy the next 2 days off. Tomorrows holiday I'm not too worried about. I'm actually not a huge fan of July 4th. Just another excuse a lot of people around here use to get wasted. Thankfully I won't be partaking in any of that this year. Just a relaxing weekend for this girl.
So grateful to be sober and not still out drinking!
I'm up and ready for womp. Feeling much better then get to enjoy the next 2 days off. Tomorrows holiday I'm not too worried about. I'm actually not a huge fan of July 4th. Just another excuse a lot of people around here use to get wasted. Thankfully I won't be partaking in any of that this year. Just a relaxing weekend for this girl.
So grateful to be sober and not still out drinking!
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Hi Undies,
It is a beautiful day here in PA. I must admit to be enjoying the cooler temps here vs Florida. I had planned a busy day catching up on many things and was just recently thrown a curve ball. My regular Friday golf gang had excluded me this week thinking I would still be out of town, then, low and behold, a cancellation occurred and it is game on at 2:22 pm! Great tee time...finish, collect my winnings (tee-hee) or donate, grab a bite and hit a Big Book Study mtg that I really like.
BF, so happy that your short research project is complete! Funny thing, no matter how often we try, it always turns out bad. Welcome home, young lady!
Casey, congrats on 8 weeks! I too have a burn from my beach day on Tuesday on my back and probs will peal...so itchy.
Caul, good plan to play this sober thing forward. Today I am 25 months and it just keeps getting better. When I hit a rough patch, I have the tools to handle it...then let it go. Learning to FEEL - good and bad without alteration is a blessing I've learned in recovery.
Mets, enjoy your weekend away.
Amp, I like your morning strategy that prepares you for a sober day. Thanks for sharing that! I use something quite similar from a quote in the 24 Hours a Day book - Jan 6th.
Site, I couldn't agree more. I have really bought into the aspect that I cannot keep this gift of sobriety unless I find ways to give it away. Kudos to you for offering encouragement to the newcomers! Like it or not, the goodness of that returns in spades.
Gnik, your words, "I guess we have to always keep our guard up- no matter how much sober time we have" - Not only have I relapsed after 16 and 13 months. My first relapse happened after 11.5 years...so in additional to alcohol being cunning, baffling and powerful...it is very patient.
Always nice to see my fellow over-undies Toots, Drake, SW, Gilmer and Glee.
Let's have a safe and sober weekend, all.
Carlos
It is a beautiful day here in PA. I must admit to be enjoying the cooler temps here vs Florida. I had planned a busy day catching up on many things and was just recently thrown a curve ball. My regular Friday golf gang had excluded me this week thinking I would still be out of town, then, low and behold, a cancellation occurred and it is game on at 2:22 pm! Great tee time...finish, collect my winnings (tee-hee) or donate, grab a bite and hit a Big Book Study mtg that I really like.
BF, so happy that your short research project is complete! Funny thing, no matter how often we try, it always turns out bad. Welcome home, young lady!
Casey, congrats on 8 weeks! I too have a burn from my beach day on Tuesday on my back and probs will peal...so itchy.
Caul, good plan to play this sober thing forward. Today I am 25 months and it just keeps getting better. When I hit a rough patch, I have the tools to handle it...then let it go. Learning to FEEL - good and bad without alteration is a blessing I've learned in recovery.
Mets, enjoy your weekend away.
Amp, I like your morning strategy that prepares you for a sober day. Thanks for sharing that! I use something quite similar from a quote in the 24 Hours a Day book - Jan 6th.
Site, I couldn't agree more. I have really bought into the aspect that I cannot keep this gift of sobriety unless I find ways to give it away. Kudos to you for offering encouragement to the newcomers! Like it or not, the goodness of that returns in spades.
Gnik, your words, "I guess we have to always keep our guard up- no matter how much sober time we have" - Not only have I relapsed after 16 and 13 months. My first relapse happened after 11.5 years...so in additional to alcohol being cunning, baffling and powerful...it is very patient.
Always nice to see my fellow over-undies Toots, Drake, SW, Gilmer and Glee.
Let's have a safe and sober weekend, all.
Carlos
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Hi undies.
Had a good day at womp today. Went to a meeting tonight with my friend then stopped by a party my sis was at for a bit to see some people that are in town and then went with my friend to the casino for a bit. It's a little after 3:30 AM here and this girl is ready to get some sleep!
Thankfully I have tomorrow or technically today off! First Saturday I've had off in a year!
Carlos sounds like you had a great day as well! Enjoy your cool weather over there. It's been pretty humid here the past week and low 80s. And we all know I much prefer the cooler overcast weather!
Had a good day at womp today. Went to a meeting tonight with my friend then stopped by a party my sis was at for a bit to see some people that are in town and then went with my friend to the casino for a bit. It's a little after 3:30 AM here and this girl is ready to get some sleep!
Thankfully I have tomorrow or technically today off! First Saturday I've had off in a year!
Carlos sounds like you had a great day as well! Enjoy your cool weather over there. It's been pretty humid here the past week and low 80s. And we all know I much prefer the cooler overcast weather!
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Happy 4th of July everyone! I hope you're all having lovely, sober holidays
Sadly, I am working, but I'm in the middle of this beautiful old estate outside, so it could be so much worse. There are birds and trees everywhere.
Glad you're feeling better, BF!
I don't burn in the sun, but I do love aloe vera. I use it all the time for just about everything.
I like preparing for sober days as well. Every morning I read pg 417 from the big book about acceptance (posted below if anyone is curious), and boy does it help out my attitude for the day. I have some issues about acceptance and control, and it just puts me in the right mindset. Then I do the gratitude list every night to finish off my day on a high note.
Pg 417 "Acceptance is the answer to ALL of my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation- some fact of my life- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God's world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept my life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes"
Sadly, I am working, but I'm in the middle of this beautiful old estate outside, so it could be so much worse. There are birds and trees everywhere.
Glad you're feeling better, BF!
I don't burn in the sun, but I do love aloe vera. I use it all the time for just about everything.
I like preparing for sober days as well. Every morning I read pg 417 from the big book about acceptance (posted below if anyone is curious), and boy does it help out my attitude for the day. I have some issues about acceptance and control, and it just puts me in the right mindset. Then I do the gratitude list every night to finish off my day on a high note.
Pg 417 "Acceptance is the answer to ALL of my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation- some fact of my life- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God's world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept my life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes"
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Hi Undies
BoozeFree - I'm glad you're feeling better and back in your sober routine.
Drake - I hope HRH Olive is managing any rogue fireworks displays in your neighborhood ok this weekend.
Carlos - Sounds like a downright perfect day!
Mets - It sounds like a lovely weekend with your family.... Your aloe vera story made me chuckle; in addition to having well moisturized skin thanks to you, the TSA is also enjoying finely dressed Greek salads thanks to me!!
Site - That passage on acceptance is one of my favorites in the Big Book. Thank you for sharing it.
Casey - Great work racking up those sober days to number 54! Your positive attitude and gratitude are inspiring to me. I'm so glad you keep sharing it with us.
From my own experience I can say that recovery is definitely worth sharing with others! I'm incredibly grateful to the folks who share it with me. Seeing people who once struggled find gratitude and acceptance in the 12 steps kept my mind open to it, even when I was struggling.
When I was upset about a problem, AA folks would advise me to say the serenity prayer or go to a meeting. Honestly I never understood that response to MY problem. I wanted help solving my particular issue then and there! Haha!
With no one actually able to provide me with what I wanted, I received a gift of desperation, and got what I needed! When I started to actually take AA's advice, lo and behold, I began to feel the gratitude and acceptance that I had long been seeking. I don't feel glum, lost, or stuck anymore, and I humbly look for opportunities to share it with others.
BoozeFree - I'm glad you're feeling better and back in your sober routine.
Drake - I hope HRH Olive is managing any rogue fireworks displays in your neighborhood ok this weekend.
Carlos - Sounds like a downright perfect day!
Mets - It sounds like a lovely weekend with your family.... Your aloe vera story made me chuckle; in addition to having well moisturized skin thanks to you, the TSA is also enjoying finely dressed Greek salads thanks to me!!
Site - That passage on acceptance is one of my favorites in the Big Book. Thank you for sharing it.
Casey - Great work racking up those sober days to number 54! Your positive attitude and gratitude are inspiring to me. I'm so glad you keep sharing it with us.
From my own experience I can say that recovery is definitely worth sharing with others! I'm incredibly grateful to the folks who share it with me. Seeing people who once struggled find gratitude and acceptance in the 12 steps kept my mind open to it, even when I was struggling.
When I was upset about a problem, AA folks would advise me to say the serenity prayer or go to a meeting. Honestly I never understood that response to MY problem. I wanted help solving my particular issue then and there! Haha!
With no one actually able to provide me with what I wanted, I received a gift of desperation, and got what I needed! When I started to actually take AA's advice, lo and behold, I began to feel the gratitude and acceptance that I had long been seeking. I don't feel glum, lost, or stuck anymore, and I humbly look for opportunities to share it with others.
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Site thanks for posting that bit from the BB!
Gilmer no I actually lost some money this time at the casino but still had a good time hanging out with my friend. Can't win em all I guess!
Hope everyone had a nice day! I was at a bbq tonight at another one of my sisters friends houses and saw some old people I used to have fun with in my wild party days. One of my sober friends went with me and we had a lot of fun and some good laughs playing that card game cards against humanity. It's so nice to have fun in sobriety and remember all the fun times!
Off to bed. I think I only slept a total of like 4 hrs this morning after last posting. Looking forward to a mellow day tomorrow.
Gilmer no I actually lost some money this time at the casino but still had a good time hanging out with my friend. Can't win em all I guess!
Hope everyone had a nice day! I was at a bbq tonight at another one of my sisters friends houses and saw some old people I used to have fun with in my wild party days. One of my sober friends went with me and we had a lot of fun and some good laughs playing that card game cards against humanity. It's so nice to have fun in sobriety and remember all the fun times!
Off to bed. I think I only slept a total of like 4 hrs this morning after last posting. Looking forward to a mellow day tomorrow.
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BF, glad to hear you had fun....cards against humanity is one thing I've not done sober and one of the few activities I have no interest in anymore given I'm sober. It's one thing that seems just tailor made for drinking. Weird game! Happy you were able to enjoy it though.
I went to a big BBQ yesterday. Something like 100 people. I've gone to the event almost every year since I was 10 years old, so a real long time. It's always with my family, but that hasn't stopped me from drinking before. I've never made an arse of myself since I've been with family, but that effort to moderate is so taxing and I remember in previous years how nervous I was going into it and then how relieved I was getting into the car with my dad driving and realizing I'm not blacked out. It was just a huge relief this year being the DD and not worrying at all about how much I was drinking. Those big red cups were at the self-serve wet bar so I just grabbed one, filled it with club soda and nobody else was any wiser (though my family knew I was the DD and had no booze in it). It's interesting because my parents, my brother and his fiancé I'd say were all sober enough to drive the 20-25 minutes back to our place. Had I been drinking, I do think I'd have stopped short of blackout, but I'd have been in no condition to drive.
Beautiful morning here in the northeast. I ran 8 miles Friday (and hiked 2), ran 7 miles yesterday and am planning to run about 4 miles today and kayak for about 3-4 miles. My weight loss has really taken hold and despite soreness due to a bit of over excersice, I feel great. I really am trying to bottle up these feelings since it's just far superior to hangovers and anxiety over what I'd done while drunk.
Other than maybe cards against humanity, I'm now confident that anything can be fun while sober. During my 136 sober days of the last 137 (and now 20 consecutive weekends), I've been to all kinds of sporting events, birthday parties, holiday parties, happy hours, weddings, and even a bachelor party and had fun at all of them while sober. I haven't looked back on anything and thought "Wow, you know? I would have had a lot more fun last night if I'd had booze in me."
I hope everyone is doing well!
I went to a big BBQ yesterday. Something like 100 people. I've gone to the event almost every year since I was 10 years old, so a real long time. It's always with my family, but that hasn't stopped me from drinking before. I've never made an arse of myself since I've been with family, but that effort to moderate is so taxing and I remember in previous years how nervous I was going into it and then how relieved I was getting into the car with my dad driving and realizing I'm not blacked out. It was just a huge relief this year being the DD and not worrying at all about how much I was drinking. Those big red cups were at the self-serve wet bar so I just grabbed one, filled it with club soda and nobody else was any wiser (though my family knew I was the DD and had no booze in it). It's interesting because my parents, my brother and his fiancé I'd say were all sober enough to drive the 20-25 minutes back to our place. Had I been drinking, I do think I'd have stopped short of blackout, but I'd have been in no condition to drive.
Beautiful morning here in the northeast. I ran 8 miles Friday (and hiked 2), ran 7 miles yesterday and am planning to run about 4 miles today and kayak for about 3-4 miles. My weight loss has really taken hold and despite soreness due to a bit of over excersice, I feel great. I really am trying to bottle up these feelings since it's just far superior to hangovers and anxiety over what I'd done while drunk.
Other than maybe cards against humanity, I'm now confident that anything can be fun while sober. During my 136 sober days of the last 137 (and now 20 consecutive weekends), I've been to all kinds of sporting events, birthday parties, holiday parties, happy hours, weddings, and even a bachelor party and had fun at all of them while sober. I haven't looked back on anything and thought "Wow, you know? I would have had a lot more fun last night if I'd had booze in me."
I hope everyone is doing well!
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Bf - It's really nice to see you enjoying the sober life again. We played cards against humanity Friday night - fun game, truly twisted.
Mets - I've been surprised to say the least to be the DD for people who are probably OK to drive. Like you I was a blackout drinker. When I had free reign to drink I was never in any condition to drive, either, even when I wasn't at blackout. I guess that's the difference between normies and alcoholics?
I had the opportunity to hang out with some old friends yesterday. We had a great time catching up over a roaring bonfire, eating good food, listening to good music.
An old friend was there, an old drinking buddy, who's been in and out of the hospital for the past couple years with liver and kidney failure. He is frail and feeble, and I didn't even recognize him. Well, I'm sad to say that he relapsed. At the party he fell down, couldn't get up, and had to be carried away to sleep it off. I understand the alcoholic compulsion to continue to drink despite the problems it causes. A friend in the medical profession said he probably doesn't have long to live.
Watching Tom, who was once as young and full of plans like me, die at a young age from his addiction to booze, makes me feel sad and sick. Today, I have lots of tools to handle these yucky feelings without drinking. I used to think it was my responsibility to have all the answers. Today I have the humility to know that all I can do is pray that Tom and other suffering alcoholics find peace.
All any of us can do is make a great day for ourselves. I hope everyone enjoys a wonderful sober day!
Mets - I've been surprised to say the least to be the DD for people who are probably OK to drive. Like you I was a blackout drinker. When I had free reign to drink I was never in any condition to drive, either, even when I wasn't at blackout. I guess that's the difference between normies and alcoholics?
I had the opportunity to hang out with some old friends yesterday. We had a great time catching up over a roaring bonfire, eating good food, listening to good music.
An old friend was there, an old drinking buddy, who's been in and out of the hospital for the past couple years with liver and kidney failure. He is frail and feeble, and I didn't even recognize him. Well, I'm sad to say that he relapsed. At the party he fell down, couldn't get up, and had to be carried away to sleep it off. I understand the alcoholic compulsion to continue to drink despite the problems it causes. A friend in the medical profession said he probably doesn't have long to live.
Watching Tom, who was once as young and full of plans like me, die at a young age from his addiction to booze, makes me feel sad and sick. Today, I have lots of tools to handle these yucky feelings without drinking. I used to think it was my responsibility to have all the answers. Today I have the humility to know that all I can do is pray that Tom and other suffering alcoholics find peace.
All any of us can do is make a great day for ourselves. I hope everyone enjoys a wonderful sober day!
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It always helps to read the positive stories here - it is a great reminder every day just how precious my sobriety is! And yes, Mets, I don't think that anything is better with alcohol. Glee, it is very sad to see and hear about people who are rapidly dying due to alcohol. There but for the grace .... walk I!
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