Class of March 2013 Part 40
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Well things seem a lot better in wehavland. J and I had a good weekend last weekend, a lot of frank discussion about things and our future. We talked a lot about anxiety and fear, we talked a lot about my recovery and how I choose to look at stressful situations now, and she started praying too. I'm not super religious, but even in my dark days I've felt a "presence." And I've learned to trust that presence when I can't trust myself. It's helped me a lot.j's presence is helping her too.
I think of myself as an honest person, but I often hold back. It used to be mainly out of fear, and is definitely one of my character defects. With j lately though, I've held back a lot because her reactions to everything have been very hit and miss. One minute it would be fine, the next minute you say the sky is blue and it's the end of the world. In short, it sucked, and I kept quiet.
So we needed that big talkathon. It was about everything, it was about nothing. And we both worked hard not to personalize it.
It feels like we came out the other side, which feels amazing. It's taken me 42 years to have the guts to say what's in my heart and stick to it, not just fold when the other person has a different take. And now it seems we are both getting what we want.
We went to a friends anniversary party last night, and one of our oldest friends in Ohio mentioned that she hadn't ever seen j and I as lovey dovey as last night. It's kinda true, we were lovey dovey. We both just looked up and said it's a special time.
just about a month from now well be getting married. Despite the drama sh$@storm before, looks like it's gonna happen and be awesome.
Well things seem a lot better in wehavland. J and I had a good weekend last weekend, a lot of frank discussion about things and our future. We talked a lot about anxiety and fear, we talked a lot about my recovery and how I choose to look at stressful situations now, and she started praying too. I'm not super religious, but even in my dark days I've felt a "presence." And I've learned to trust that presence when I can't trust myself. It's helped me a lot.j's presence is helping her too.
I think of myself as an honest person, but I often hold back. It used to be mainly out of fear, and is definitely one of my character defects. With j lately though, I've held back a lot because her reactions to everything have been very hit and miss. One minute it would be fine, the next minute you say the sky is blue and it's the end of the world. In short, it sucked, and I kept quiet.
So we needed that big talkathon. It was about everything, it was about nothing. And we both worked hard not to personalize it.
It feels like we came out the other side, which feels amazing. It's taken me 42 years to have the guts to say what's in my heart and stick to it, not just fold when the other person has a different take. And now it seems we are both getting what we want.
We went to a friends anniversary party last night, and one of our oldest friends in Ohio mentioned that she hadn't ever seen j and I as lovey dovey as last night. It's kinda true, we were lovey dovey. We both just looked up and said it's a special time.
just about a month from now well be getting married. Despite the drama sh$@storm before, looks like it's gonna happen and be awesome. 
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Good morning Marchers It's a lovely day in Paradise, autumn sunshine, blue sky and a little breeze - ahh paradisical. I've done the week's clean including mopping the tiled floors so once I've done the grocery shopping the day is mine.
1Day I think our weather yesterday was Seattle-like too, it's funny that our weather experiences have coincided a few times lately.
Babs I hope you had a great time at the casino -- I've never been to one. I've walked through one to go to a theatre in Sydney but not actually gone in and played stuff.
V I hope Monday is a good day for you.
Sass has your proper spring arrived?
We I am so glad that you and J had the talkathon and that you were honest about your feelings, honest communication will help you through this trying time so much. Proud of ya girl.
Oh Toots you made smile -- I was thinking how lazy I was yesterday.
Gilmer how are you going with the changed medication?
Duff my sweet I've been meaning to ask about your running -- how's it going?
Shoes how are your springtime birdies?
Chuff are you around?
North I know you are busy with your three classes but do give us a shout out when you can.
Ken how're things with you?
Trachy -- you are a frog prince.
Soberwolf I hope you are travelling well.
Bimini how are you?
Dee I hope you are enjoying the autumn, I know you like the cooler weather.
To quote North, if I missed you it's because I love you best.
Have a good Sumonday peeps.
It's a lovely day in Paradise, autumn sunshine, blue sky and a little breeze - ahh paradisical. I've done the week's clean including mopping the tiled floors so once I've done the grocery shopping the day is mine.1Day I think our weather yesterday was Seattle-like too, it's funny that our weather experiences have coincided a few times lately.
Babs I hope you had a great time at the casino -- I've never been to one. I've walked through one to go to a theatre in Sydney but not actually gone in and played stuff.
V I hope Monday is a good day for you.
Sass has your proper spring arrived?
We I am so glad that you and J had the talkathon and that you were honest about your feelings, honest communication will help you through this trying time so much. Proud of ya girl.
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Marcher how do you manage to have so much energy! You exhaust me just reading your posts sometimes
Gilmer how are you going with the changed medication?
Duff my sweet I've been meaning to ask about your running -- how's it going?
Shoes how are your springtime birdies?
Chuff are you around?
North I know you are busy with your three classes but do give us a shout out when you can.
Ken how're things with you?
Trachy -- you are a frog prince.
Soberwolf I hope you are travelling well.
Bimini how are you?
Dee I hope you are enjoying the autumn, I know you like the cooler weather.
To quote North, if I missed you it's because I love you best.
Have a good Sumonday peeps.
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Hi Everyone!
Not much going on in Buddville right now, no news on the job, still working lots of hours.
Most of this country is getting ready to get their revenge on us for our winter weather, it's already getting very hot here. My landlord cut down a tree that shaded my place, ( It was in a bad spot and needed to come down.) but that means direct sunlight on my roof all day long. With the crappy insulation of a 50+ year old trailer, my A/C will be on pretty much all day and it still gets hot in the afternoon.
Not much going on in Buddville right now, no news on the job, still working lots of hours.
Most of this country is getting ready to get their revenge on us for our winter weather, it's already getting very hot here. My landlord cut down a tree that shaded my place, ( It was in a bad spot and needed to come down.) but that means direct sunlight on my roof all day long. With the crappy insulation of a 50+ year old trailer, my A/C will be on pretty much all day and it still gets hot in the afternoon.
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Tough day here; dad had another fall. But it's not too bad. Poor old dude, he can't catch a break. I hurt for him.
So glad you and J are in a good place now wehav. It makes me happy.
Re the tree Ken, that happened to me last October. Boy was I angry! I lost all of the shade I had here. It is now boiling in my flat in summer.
Love to all of the Marchers. ♥
(Oh, and I am 6 months sober today, so that's good.
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So glad you and J are in a good place now wehav. It makes me happy.
Re the tree Ken, that happened to me last October. Boy was I angry! I lost all of the shade I had here. It is now boiling in my flat in summer.
Love to all of the Marchers. ♥
(Oh, and I am 6 months sober today, so that's good.
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Congrats Venus focus in that today x
Feeling crap my neck is in total spasm today and I'm in agony. Had to call in sick which I hate doing. Gel, meds, hot,cold tried it all no real help jut reduces the pain level slightly. I know there are others worse of or who live daily with pain but today is all me,me,me I'm having a pity party for one!
Feeling crap my neck is in total spasm today and I'm in agony. Had to call in sick which I hate doing. Gel, meds, hot,cold tried it all no real help jut reduces the pain level slightly. I know there are others worse of or who live daily with pain but today is all me,me,me I'm having a pity party for one!
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Toots de sweet I hope you feel better soon, pain is pain, nothing to apologise for. Get some medication if you need to, don't "brave" it out.
Congrats V on six months, that's a commendable achievement.
Huge apologies to Trachy, I called you a frog prince but you are -- of course! -- a turtle prince.
Congrats V on six months, that's a commendable achievement.
Huge apologies to Trachy, I called you a frog prince but you are -- of course! -- a turtle prince.
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Hi, gang.
Marcher, I did increase my anti-d dosage little by little, just as the doctor ordered. With the increased dose at breakfast and lunch, I felt good; but with the increased dose at dinner, I quickly got bad results. After a couple of days, I found myself feeling very troubled around 4 pm. Not anxious--not sad--just troubled, with a vague sense of foreboding. Creepy!
So with my doctor's approval, I'm back down to twice a day, and now my mood is very good. Thanks for asking!
Marcher, I did increase my anti-d dosage little by little, just as the doctor ordered. With the increased dose at breakfast and lunch, I felt good; but with the increased dose at dinner, I quickly got bad results. After a couple of days, I found myself feeling very troubled around 4 pm. Not anxious--not sad--just troubled, with a vague sense of foreboding. Creepy!
So with my doctor's approval, I'm back down to twice a day, and now my mood is very good. Thanks for asking!
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Ach, Filmer it comes and goes, well, rarely goes completely but eases. I did see the doc a few months back, he told me there wasn't anything they could do other than pills and exercise. I do try to remember to do neck exercises, but when it is bad I can't do them and when it's ok I forget!
I did get the strong pills so it's back down to around a 5 with flare ups to 8. The pits is it is always so bad at night when I'm trying to sleep. Meh, I'm cancelling the pity party and sending the guests home. I have left over chocolate cake from hubby's birthday, that's pity enough for me!!!
I did get the strong pills so it's back down to around a 5 with flare ups to 8. The pits is it is always so bad at night when I'm trying to sleep. Meh, I'm cancelling the pity party and sending the guests home. I have left over chocolate cake from hubby's birthday, that's pity enough for me!!!
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Good morning Marchers My long weekend has become an extra long weekend, Mum's had a reaction to the 'flu shot, it's not bad but I didn't want to leave her alone today. I've been out on the deck soaking up some autumn sunshine.
Toots I'm glad the medication is helping even if it's not eliminating the pain completely.
Have a good day peeps.
My long weekend has become an extra long weekend, Mum's had a reaction to the 'flu shot, it's not bad but I didn't want to leave her alone today. I've been out on the deck soaking up some autumn sunshine.Toots I'm glad the medication is helping even if it's not eliminating the pain completely.
Have a good day peeps.
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I went to my parent's house this weekend, where Junior currently resides. I walked in and he was on his basking dock. He looked up at me like he knew me. This is a hand sized turtle. With a brain the size of a split pea, if that. Amazing little critter.
All in all it was a nice weekend at the folks'.
All in all it was a nice weekend at the folks'.
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