One Year and Under Club Part 39
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One Year and Under Club Part 39
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Originally Posted by Gilmer 
NT, I was an only child, and I like to flatter myself that I ended up OK (or maybe not...)
Interesting....Wholly role reversal.
I grew up with (4)....2 brothers and (1) step-brother, (1) step sister.....
My dad made it seem like I had (4) siblings.....heh.....We were (5) on paper at least...
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You should come and stay at our house, gilmer. We're, for sure, no average white-bread either. I'd call us, more like, some kind of nutty multi-grain bread. It's true. Even our skin colors are each different. Dont ask me how that happened. lol.
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BeFree - Im glad you're feeling better. For me the path to freedom from cravings was filling my life with sober activities, thoughts, philosophies and people.
I love the people at my Monday night AA meeting. The core group is so warm, supportive, smart and happy. My favorite part is when the minivan arrives loaded with full grown men. I can only imagine the laughs, jokes and barbs going on during that ride. We ladies have our own code - comforting and supportive. These drunks inspire me to be better. A year ago I never would have conceived that an AA meeting could be inspirational, much less one of my favorite hours in the week.
My husband can't understand why I go to meetings. He thinks I'm exaggerating my problem with alcohol, and that recovery is my midlife crisis.
Recovery is far from a crisis. It's saving me. Have a great night, Undies!
I love the people at my Monday night AA meeting. The core group is so warm, supportive, smart and happy. My favorite part is when the minivan arrives loaded with full grown men. I can only imagine the laughs, jokes and barbs going on during that ride. We ladies have our own code - comforting and supportive. These drunks inspire me to be better. A year ago I never would have conceived that an AA meeting could be inspirational, much less one of my favorite hours in the week.
My husband can't understand why I go to meetings. He thinks I'm exaggerating my problem with alcohol, and that recovery is my midlife crisis.
Recovery is far from a crisis. It's saving me. Have a great night, Undies!
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Dottie, it is always good to see you. I hope this week finds you well. How is work?
Glee, I hear you about your husband's dismissing your struggle with alcohol. I am fortunate in that my husband is very supportive now of my quitting; however, both he and my social circle are uncomfortable that I would continue to identify myself with other alcoholics. My pastor worries that by frequenting SR I am defining myself with alcoholism.
First of all, ten months out I do that less and less. Secondly, why should I deny reality? i do struggle with alcohol in a way that the rest of them don't.
Sometimes when we develop our own identities separate from the pack, there's a little bit of a control issue that goes on with the "leaders". Try not to be too hurt or to take it personally; the adjustment is theirs to make.
In my experience, it got better with time.
Glee, I hear you about your husband's dismissing your struggle with alcohol. I am fortunate in that my husband is very supportive now of my quitting; however, both he and my social circle are uncomfortable that I would continue to identify myself with other alcoholics. My pastor worries that by frequenting SR I am defining myself with alcoholism.
First of all, ten months out I do that less and less. Secondly, why should I deny reality? i do struggle with alcohol in a way that the rest of them don't.
Sometimes when we develop our own identities separate from the pack, there's a little bit of a control issue that goes on with the "leaders". Try not to be too hurt or to take it personally; the adjustment is theirs to make.
In my experience, it got better with time.
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Womp, womp Gilmer.
Enjoying the conversation, but not much to add this week.
Just plugging along, having AV thoughts that I'm dealing with, and realizing I need to find some 3D friends who don't drink. Also need to find some educated spiritual council, such as a Dr. of Divinity. Surprisingly difficult to find in a world that seems full of pastors.
Enjoying the conversation, but not much to add this week.
Just plugging along, having AV thoughts that I'm dealing with, and realizing I need to find some 3D friends who don't drink. Also need to find some educated spiritual council, such as a Dr. of Divinity. Surprisingly difficult to find in a world that seems full of pastors.
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Originally Posted by SparkyMcSparky
Womp, womp Gilmer.
Enjoying the conversation, but not much to add this week.
Just plugging along, having AV thoughts that I'm dealing with, and realizing I need to find some 3D friends who don't drink. Also need to find some educated spiritual council, such as a Dr. of Divinity. Surprisingly difficult to find in a world that seems full of pastors.
Enjoying the conversation, but not much to add this week.
Just plugging along, having AV thoughts that I'm dealing with, and realizing I need to find some 3D friends who don't drink. Also need to find some educated spiritual council, such as a Dr. of Divinity. Surprisingly difficult to find in a world that seems full of pastors.
Nothing wrong with that!
3D friends??
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Originally Posted by Gilmer
Plenty of MDivs to go around!
In the rural area where I live, unfortunately, no. All of the old "mainline" churches where you would typically find someone theologically educated at the University level are closed or closing. I have attempted to engage a number of the pastors (generally Bible School educated) in our area in theological discussions, and am universally disappointed that in many cases I have a firmer basis in philosophy and theology than they do.
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Been writing this morning so I though I'd pop on in. I did a real stupid thing the other day. I sold my horse. I was having a lot of trouble with her because she was taking advantage of me not feeling up to my usual assertive manner with her. After I made the agreement with the woman who was buying her, I fell into such grief mode that I could hardly stand it. Even my husband was practically crying. Long story short, when the lady came with her trailer to get her I refused to sign the papers. So.....I still have my ornery horse. The lady was royally PO'd at me. Oh, well. I went out the last few days and just worked us both into sweaty rags. I think I've got an understanding going with her once again. She did hurt me once. But not bad and I don't think she meant to do it. (I'm ok)
I'm feeling better because of all the hard work. (Or something) Maybe the meds? Although I'm sore all over this morning! It's a cool and sparkly day here and I'm going for a walk later to get some of these kinks out. Love to you all!
I'm feeling better because of all the hard work. (Or something) Maybe the meds? Although I'm sore all over this morning! It's a cool and sparkly day here and I'm going for a walk later to get some of these kinks out. Love to you all!
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