Class of September 2013 - Part 27
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Yes, feel better Brooksie! The world is filled with lots of slackers. They're everywhere. If you're sick though, that's a whole different enchilada. Hope you got some rest at least.
Love the bathroom Tallia. Looks modern ~ a pleasure to shower in I bet.
1step, we are proud of you. We know how hard it is to quit, and the misery you're in. Normies....usually don't. Many just don't understand why we can't stop, and judge the character of the alcoholic. It isn't their fault and they've been put through the ringer, but I confess that before all this, I can't say that I understood it.
So, try not to let your dad brow-beat you into shame. It will be nice to get out and work I bet! The lambs need tending....
Hope you keep tending yourself.
Today is another rainy day here in Southern California. This is NOT why I live here! I'm off to my sister's to nest....watching movies, doing puzzles, reading, nutty-doodle coffee.....ahhhhh...introvert heaven.
Love the bathroom Tallia. Looks modern ~ a pleasure to shower in I bet.
1step, we are proud of you. We know how hard it is to quit, and the misery you're in. Normies....usually don't. Many just don't understand why we can't stop, and judge the character of the alcoholic. It isn't their fault and they've been put through the ringer, but I confess that before all this, I can't say that I understood it.
So, try not to let your dad brow-beat you into shame. It will be nice to get out and work I bet! The lambs need tending....
Hope you keep tending yourself.
Today is another rainy day here in Southern California. This is NOT why I live here! I'm off to my sister's to nest....watching movies, doing puzzles, reading, nutty-doodle coffee.....ahhhhh...introvert heaven.
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Hearty congratulations on reaching 6 months ! And you have achieved this during the darkest and coldest phase of the year (aside from sunny Phuket) !! May this be just one step in a long journey of wonderous sobriety for you !! Fantastic and well done !!
Hearty congratulations on reaching 6 months ! And you have achieved this during the darkest and coldest phase of the year (aside from sunny Phuket) !! May this be just one step in a long journey of wonderous sobriety for you !! Fantastic and well done !!
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Hello All
Checking in again and thankful for making it through last night. I'm not feeling too strong lately, but I'm just going to focus on the moment and on all I'm thankful for.
I went to lunch today with my 82 year-old dad, my uncle, and my youngest sister. I would have loved a Bloody Mary, but I'm glad I chose to just savor the food and the wonderful company. My dad also lent us some money to help us make ends meet. That certainly relieves some stress, and I figure I'll do some cleaning for him so we can help each other out.
Lillian… the first and only time I visited California, it RAINED. I loved San Diego! We were there at the very beginning of December, 2012 and definitely plan to go back. I want to go to Torrey Pines again! It sounds like you had a wonderful lazy day…. I love those.
i can't WAIT to do our bedroom, Renarde. Did you repaper or paint it? Color scheme? The wallpaper we've been staring at since the early 90s is hideous, and I'm looking forward to creating a serene environment as well. Enjoy!!!!
Hugs, again, 1stepup. I'm so glad you've given yourself another chance. I join Lillian in hoping you continue tending to your needs.
Br00ksie, I hope you feel better!!! I'm willing your shift to go quickly so you can get home and into bed ASAP.
I need to get my stuff together for work tomorrow, so this might be "good night!" If I can get back on later, I might just read back through the thread and elsewhere to catch up and learn.
I went to lunch today with my 82 year-old dad, my uncle, and my youngest sister. I would have loved a Bloody Mary, but I'm glad I chose to just savor the food and the wonderful company. My dad also lent us some money to help us make ends meet. That certainly relieves some stress, and I figure I'll do some cleaning for him so we can help each other out.
Lillian… the first and only time I visited California, it RAINED. I loved San Diego! We were there at the very beginning of December, 2012 and definitely plan to go back. I want to go to Torrey Pines again! It sounds like you had a wonderful lazy day…. I love those.
i can't WAIT to do our bedroom, Renarde. Did you repaper or paint it? Color scheme? The wallpaper we've been staring at since the early 90s is hideous, and I'm looking forward to creating a serene environment as well. Enjoy!!!!
Hugs, again, 1stepup. I'm so glad you've given yourself another chance. I join Lillian in hoping you continue tending to your needs.
Br00ksie, I hope you feel better!!! I'm willing your shift to go quickly so you can get home and into bed ASAP.
I need to get my stuff together for work tomorrow, so this might be "good night!" If I can get back on later, I might just read back through the thread and elsewhere to catch up and learn.
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Originally Posted by Br00ksie 
I'm discovering that I am the only one who shows up on time to this job. My manager was 40 min late yesterday and over an hour late the day before. One of my coworkers was 3 hours late yesterday. Not a very motivational environment. 
Their actions have nothing to do with me but I admit that I am not big on the whole "do as I say not as I do" style of management. I dunno whether to suck it up and work until 1 or go home. My ego is telling me that the wage I get paid is not enough to work when I'm sick.
On the other hand, I want to be better than that!
Their actions have nothing to do with me but I admit that I am not big on the whole "do as I say not as I do" style of management. I dunno whether to suck it up and work until 1 or go home. My ego is telling me that the wage I get paid is not enough to work when I'm sick.
On the other hand, I want to be better than that!
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So a couple Sundays every month there is a Recovery Worship Service at the church where I go to AA. I spoke a little back in December, and tonight my daughters and I got to lead the music portion of the service. It was such a blessing for me! And I hope it was for those in attendance, too. (I play keyboard, sing, and write and arrange music. My oldest daughter plays bass guitar, flute, and sings, and my youngest sings.)
One of the songs we did was about freedom, which I've talked about here before. There's a verse (Galations 5:1) that I've known by heart for many years, and it's been on my heart in such a new way since I stopped drinking. "It is for freedom that Christ has set you free. Stand firm then, and don't let yourself be burdened by a yoke of slavery."
The part that I've never been able to reconcile is the end: "don't let yourself be burdened by a yoke of slavery." It totally makes sense in terms of recovery, though. I am an alcoholic. It is my yoke. I wear it. I cannot take it away. But, if I stand firm and don't ever take that first drink, I never ever have to be BURDENED by that yoke again! I can be free! Forever! And that's what God wants for me, I fully believe. Freedom. Freedom to experience all that life holds for me. Freedom to love and be loved. Freedom to grow and make mistakes and laugh and cry and BE and GIVE.
It will be a busy week this week, so I may not be on as much as I have. I can't remember if I mentioned this before, so please forgive me if I did, but I'm speaking at a conference Thursday night, doing a local news tv segment Friday morning, and also going to see a really AWESOME comedian's show on Friday night. Those things plus my regular job, which keeps me hopping, and being a wife and mom and grandmom.
Thank God I'm sober and able to do these things! i certainly could have lost everything if I'd stayed on that insanity wagon.
Hugs to you all!
One of the songs we did was about freedom, which I've talked about here before. There's a verse (Galations 5:1) that I've known by heart for many years, and it's been on my heart in such a new way since I stopped drinking. "It is for freedom that Christ has set you free. Stand firm then, and don't let yourself be burdened by a yoke of slavery."
The part that I've never been able to reconcile is the end: "don't let yourself be burdened by a yoke of slavery." It totally makes sense in terms of recovery, though. I am an alcoholic. It is my yoke. I wear it. I cannot take it away. But, if I stand firm and don't ever take that first drink, I never ever have to be BURDENED by that yoke again! I can be free! Forever! And that's what God wants for me, I fully believe. Freedom. Freedom to experience all that life holds for me. Freedom to love and be loved. Freedom to grow and make mistakes and laugh and cry and BE and GIVE.
It will be a busy week this week, so I may not be on as much as I have. I can't remember if I mentioned this before, so please forgive me if I did, but I'm speaking at a conference Thursday night, doing a local news tv segment Friday morning, and also going to see a really AWESOME comedian's show on Friday night. Those things plus my regular job, which keeps me hopping, and being a wife and mom and grandmom.
Thank God I'm sober and able to do these things! i certainly could have lost everything if I'd stayed on that insanity wagon.
Hugs to you all!
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Kaneda...you don't want to know. It's like sickeningly sweet juice semi carbonatedthat they try to pass off as wine. Completely horrible stuff. I did just fine at my party! It was a little odd for me at moments because they other ladies were drinking a lot but I thought through things and honestly didn't want to drink really. One girl spilled her drink on me. I found that kind of funny. Haha
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I haven't had any real urge to drink during my week in Thailand. Coming weekend will be tougher, I'll go to my sisters husbands 30 year birthday party. They now about what I am struggling with and will have some non alcoholic alternatives. Attending parties where others are drinking are among the toughest situations I can think of though.
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LOL, I had to google Arbor Mist. Yuck.
Tired. Watched the Oscars last night...without wine! Never even missed it last night. Typically that might be an evening where I felt I had to have a glass by my side. Now I know why. It is a somewhat long and boring event. I like the people watching, though, and enjoy the musical performances. I was playing with my phone during it, lol. Twitter feed, reading here, and another forum I visit. If I had been drinking, I would have just stared at the TV all night and maybe fallen alseep as well.
Tired. Watched the Oscars last night...without wine! Never even missed it last night. Typically that might be an evening where I felt I had to have a glass by my side. Now I know why. It is a somewhat long and boring event. I like the people watching, though, and enjoy the musical performances. I was playing with my phone during it, lol. Twitter feed, reading here, and another forum I visit. If I had been drinking, I would have just stared at the TV all night and maybe fallen alseep as well.
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~~~Food For Thought ~ Thank God It's Monday Edition~
~~~Your Dreams Are Valid~~~
~Note~
I'm a movie buff and had a great experience viewing the Oscars last night and was overjoyed with the accomplishments of Lupita Nyong O' Best Supporting Actress Winner and Best Picture Winner "12 Years a Slave." As an African American male these accomplishments held great substance and recognition for me. In addition, great acceptance speeches from Matthew McConaughey' and Cate Blanchette and Ellen DeGeneres did a phenomenal job as usual. it was a great time spent all in all and alcohol free at that. Now back to the regularly scheduled programming....
~The Meal~
Welcome to the day that we realize that the only validation that really matters is the one that comes from within! Today’s Mental Meal is dedicated to self value! Last night as I watched Lupita Nyong’o acceptance speech for the Oscars, and remembered her earlier speech about her feeling inadequate, all I can remember is my own feeling of inadequacy at an early age, when I kept being reminded that I wasn’t going to amount to anything!
Everyday in some shape, form, or fashion, I was being told that I would be dead or in jail by the age of 25 and that my life didn’t matter much! It wasn’t until I started to look for approval from within, that life started to turn around! While winning awards is a joyous moment and validation from society that our work is being appreciated, never forget that even without the trophies, you still matter!
The reason why you still have breathe in your body is because you still have purpose in the greater scheme of life! We are all here to manifest the greatness that is in us innately! Whether others see that greatness or not is of no consequence! Understand your value, know what you bring to the table and never let anyone steal your joy! Your Dreams are indeed Valid!
Know and understand that your belief in your dreams validity should always come from within and as long as you hold on to that belief ANYTHING is possible!! Keep pushing and take what you deserve!
~The Snacks~
“The only permission, the only validation, and the only opinion that matters in our quest for greatness is our own.”-Steve Maraboli
“As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are – what others say is irrelevant.”-Nic Sheff
“You cannot be escorted by the belief of inadequacy and get to the destination of excellence. Go along with “a can do spirit” because that is the only companion!”
-Israelmore Ayivor
“You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.”
Diane Von Furstenberg
“An amazing thing happens when you stop seeking approval and validation: You find it. People are naturally drawn like magnets to those who know who they are and cannot be shaken!”-Mandy Hale
“Find yourself first…like yourself first…love yourself FIRST…& Greatness will naturally find YOU.”-Unknown
“You’ll have less heartaches and disappointments if you stop seeking from others the things ONLY your higher power and you can give yourself!”-Yvonne Pierre
“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”
-Norman Vincent Peale
~~~Your Dreams Are Valid~~~
~Note~
I'm a movie buff and had a great experience viewing the Oscars last night and was overjoyed with the accomplishments of Lupita Nyong O' Best Supporting Actress Winner and Best Picture Winner "12 Years a Slave." As an African American male these accomplishments held great substance and recognition for me. In addition, great acceptance speeches from Matthew McConaughey' and Cate Blanchette and Ellen DeGeneres did a phenomenal job as usual. it was a great time spent all in all and alcohol free at that. Now back to the regularly scheduled programming....
~The Meal~
Welcome to the day that we realize that the only validation that really matters is the one that comes from within! Today’s Mental Meal is dedicated to self value! Last night as I watched Lupita Nyong’o acceptance speech for the Oscars, and remembered her earlier speech about her feeling inadequate, all I can remember is my own feeling of inadequacy at an early age, when I kept being reminded that I wasn’t going to amount to anything!
Everyday in some shape, form, or fashion, I was being told that I would be dead or in jail by the age of 25 and that my life didn’t matter much! It wasn’t until I started to look for approval from within, that life started to turn around! While winning awards is a joyous moment and validation from society that our work is being appreciated, never forget that even without the trophies, you still matter!
The reason why you still have breathe in your body is because you still have purpose in the greater scheme of life! We are all here to manifest the greatness that is in us innately! Whether others see that greatness or not is of no consequence! Understand your value, know what you bring to the table and never let anyone steal your joy! Your Dreams are indeed Valid!
Know and understand that your belief in your dreams validity should always come from within and as long as you hold on to that belief ANYTHING is possible!! Keep pushing and take what you deserve!
~The Snacks~
“The only permission, the only validation, and the only opinion that matters in our quest for greatness is our own.”-Steve Maraboli
“As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are – what others say is irrelevant.”-Nic Sheff
“You cannot be escorted by the belief of inadequacy and get to the destination of excellence. Go along with “a can do spirit” because that is the only companion!”
-Israelmore Ayivor
“You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.”
Diane Von Furstenberg
“An amazing thing happens when you stop seeking approval and validation: You find it. People are naturally drawn like magnets to those who know who they are and cannot be shaken!”-Mandy Hale
“Find yourself first…like yourself first…love yourself FIRST…& Greatness will naturally find YOU.”-Unknown
“You’ll have less heartaches and disappointments if you stop seeking from others the things ONLY your higher power and you can give yourself!”-Yvonne Pierre
“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”
-Norman Vincent Peale
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Originally Posted by rochele
LOL, I had to google Arbor Mist. Yuck. Tired. Watched the Oscars last night...without wine! Never even missed it last night. Typically that might be an evening where I felt I had to have a glass by my side. Now I know why. It is a somewhat long and boring event. I like the people watching, though, and enjoy the musical performances. I was playing with my phone during it, lol. Twitter feed, reading here, and another forum I visit. If I had been drinking, I would have just stared at the TV all night and maybe fallen alseep as well.
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Originally Posted by PeanutButterCup
So a couple Sundays every month there is a Recovery Worship Service at the church where I go to AA. I spoke a little back in December, and tonight my daughters and I got to lead the music portion of the service. It was such a blessing for me! And I hope it was for those in attendance, too. (I play keyboard, sing, and write and arrange music. My oldest daughter plays bass guitar, flute, and sings, and my youngest sings.) One of the songs we did was about freedom, which I've talked about here before. There's a verse (Galations 5:1) that I've known by heart for many years, and it's been on my heart in such a new way since I stopped drinking. "It is for freedom that Christ has set you free. Stand firm then, and don't let yourself be burdened by a yoke of slavery." The part that I've never been able to reconcile is the end: "don't let yourself be burdened by a yoke of slavery." It totally makes sense in terms of recovery, though. I am an alcoholic. It is my yoke. I wear it. I cannot take it away. But, if I stand firm and don't ever take that first drink, I never ever have to be BURDENED by that yoke again! I can be free! Forever! And that's what God wants for me, I fully believe. Freedom. Freedom to experience all that life holds for me. Freedom to love and be loved. Freedom to grow and make mistakes and laugh and cry and BE and GIVE. It will be a busy week this week, so I may not be on as much as I have. I can't remember if I mentioned this before, so please forgive me if I did, but I'm speaking at a conference Thursday night, doing a local news tv segment Friday morning, and also going to see a really AWESOME comedian's show on Friday night. Those things plus my regular job, which keeps me hopping, and being a wife and mom and grandmom. Thank God I'm sober and able to do these things! i certainly could have lost everything if I'd stayed on that insanity wagon. Hugs to you all!
It will be a busy week this week, so I may not be on as much as I have. I can't remember if I mentioned this before, so please forgive me if I did, but I'm speaking at a conference Thursday night, doing a local news tv segment Friday morning, and also going to see a really AWESOME comedian's show on Friday night. Those things plus my regular job, which keeps me hopping, and being a wife and mom and grandmom. Thank God I'm sober and able to do these things! i certainly could have lost everything if I'd stayed on that insanity wagon. Hugs to you all!
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Originally Posted by NewLeaf
Checking in again and thankful for making it through last night. I'm not feeling too strong lately, but I'm just going to focus on the moment and on all I'm thankful for. I went to lunch today with my 82 year-old dad, my uncle, and my youngest sister. I would have loved a Bloody Mary, but I'm glad I chose to just savor the food and the wonderful company. My dad also lent us some money to help us make ends meet. That certainly relieves some stress, and I figure I'll do some cleaning for him so we can help each other out. Lillian… the first and only time I visited California, it RAINED. I loved San Diego! We were there at the very beginning of December, 2012 and definitely plan to go back. I want to go to Torrey Pines again! It sounds like you had a wonderful lazy day…. I love those. i can't WAIT to do our bedroom, Renarde. Did you repaper or paint it? Color scheme? The wallpaper we've been staring at since the early 90s is hideous, and I'm looking forward to creating a serene environment as well. Enjoy!!!! Hugs, again, 1stepup. I'm so glad you've given yourself another chance. I join Lillian in hoping you continue tending to your needs. Br00ksie, I hope you feel better!!! I'm willing your shift to go quickly so you can get home and into bed ASAP. I need to get my stuff together for work tomorrow, so this might be "good night!" If I can get back on later, I might just read back through the thread and elsewhere to catch up and learn.
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Originally Posted by LillianGish
Today is another rainy day here in Southern California. This is NOT why I live here! I'm off to my sister's to nest....watching movies, doing puzzles, reading, nutty-doodle coffee.....ahhhhh...introvert heaven.
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Ugh. Thought I was just tired today, but feel like I may be coming down with a bug. Tummy feels awful. Feel weak and shaky too. Going back to bed. One of the women I was with Saturday evening was texting home all night due to a child with a tummy bug. I hope it was not shared. We were all making food together.
I hope I just need a bit more sleep and it is girly issues, but feels like more than that.
I hope I just need a bit more sleep and it is girly issues, but feels like more than that.
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Originally Posted by rochele
LOL, I had to google Arbor Mist. Yuck.
Tired. Watched the Oscars last night...without wine! Never even missed it last night. Typically that might be an evening where I felt I had to have a glass by my side. Now I know why. It is a somewhat long and boring event. I like the people watching, though, and enjoy the musical performances. I was playing with my phone during it, lol. Twitter feed, reading here, and another forum I visit. If I had been drinking, I would have just stared at the TV all night and maybe fallen alseep as well.
Tired. Watched the Oscars last night...without wine! Never even missed it last night. Typically that might be an evening where I felt I had to have a glass by my side. Now I know why. It is a somewhat long and boring event. I like the people watching, though, and enjoy the musical performances. I was playing with my phone during it, lol. Twitter feed, reading here, and another forum I visit. If I had been drinking, I would have just stared at the TV all night and maybe fallen alseep as well.
I remember someone at SR telling me early on that it became obvious to her very quickly after she quit drinking, that she had actually watched TV in order to have drinking time....not vice versa. I think I'm with her now. I don't watch TV hardly at all now. It's boring to me. I do love a good movie though.....
Gosh, WTF happened to Kim Novak? Holy smokes she was rather out of it and looked like a mess. I read she went through breast cancer treatment recently, but....she was completely incomprehensible. Was she drunk? Dementia? Too much plastic surgery?
I just loved her in Vertigo. So sad to see her like that.
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I couldn't believe that her plastic surgery either! Her head was pumped full of every filler known to man, to the point that her nose looked like it was about to rip apart from her cheeks because it was so taut. Good lord. Good point about drinking time vs TV time.
Rochele, hope you are feeling better!
Rochele, hope you are feeling better!
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