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IO Storm · 07-06-2009, 12:35 PM

Okay...able to come back fo a minute.

Donna))))

Acting as if...thanks for saying you are practicing this today! It does does work.

But you know..for me, it's not easy getting started. I have to really kick start myself.

Like today...

Special hugs and prayers as you "act as if throughout the day!"

HideorSeek · 07-06-2009, 12:47 PM

Thanks Nel. I like The way you are putting "I felt upset when you.." That makes sense to me (and makes the other person far less defensive, I imagine). I'll try that...

Hi IO and everyone else...

Does this mean I've used a brownie point or two?

Believe808 · 07-06-2009, 12:50 PM

My meeting topic was Principles before Personalities. That seems to be something I keep hearing today. There was a new guy there (not new to program, just this meeting) and after the topic was brought up he shared that he was there today because people at his usual meeting have been getting to him so his sponsor suggested he try a new meeting. LOL, he said perfect topic

"I" have to agree with Nel, Hos, when something or someone is unacceptable to me, I need to point that out. God did not get me sober to become someone's doormat. And the way I go about it is "I am hurt by your actions, words, etc." It seems to catch their interest a little more than when I am blaming them with "you did this or that". They immediately shut down from hearing what I have to say when I accuse.
Here is my favorite thing to read when I am uncomfortable with someone or something.

"And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation-some fact of my life-unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God's world by mistake. Unless I accept life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes."

My main reason for typing this is for myself to see and read..

Least you sound so much better than you have been

IO I love when you come by and post. You are a special lady. We all have these kind of days, but we are really lucky at these times that we do have a program and we don't have to go it alone. For me Acting as If is such a wonderful tool.

IO Storm · 07-06-2009, 01:08 PM

Whoo Hooooooo!

What a share Donna!

I remember when my income had stopped..in between wages and disability...and when I

came out of the store one evening, my car was not in the parking space I had left it

in. I stood there for a moment.."knowing" it most likely had been repossessed by the

bank. And, like a ticker tape in mind, that passage from the BB played behind my

closed eyes. I walked into the store, used their telephone..(I was so broke I didn't even

own a cell then)...and the police verified the repo. I was so calm...

Accepting life on life's terms. I had to le go of the car and file bankruptcy..didn't

want it back either...it wasn't mine to keep. Acceptance (is) still the answer to

(all) my problems today..

Believe808 · 07-06-2009, 01:23 PM

(((io)))

stone · 07-06-2009, 01:53 PM

Wow, lots of cool posts since I have been here last, Nelco you are very wise.

Drink cool, bubbly water eh, Sher? Yes, what a treat, lol!

The drinking thought didn't last long, was to do with wanting to escape feelings/reality I think. I need to busy right now and couldn't do what I needed to today to be busy. I have had so long in limbo with the not sleeping thing I have to get back into living and doing for my sanity.

Still, I got through it, I am sober and very happy to be so.

Believe808 · 07-06-2009, 01:59 PM

YAY for Stoney

least · 07-06-2009, 02:01 PM

Yes, a bit better today, not so anxious. Did my one chore this morning and have been doing nothing the rest of the day. Didn't get a nap but that's ok. I'll go to bed early tonight. Gave the dogs a good walk then put gas in the car. Now just watching Star Trek (tos) and relaxing.

Hope the rest of you are having a good day.

stone · 07-06-2009, 02:03 PM

Thanks Donna.

Least, you sound a bit better.

Ordered some Indian food!

least · 07-06-2009, 02:10 PM

Trying to post a pic of my dogs... we'll see if I do it right... That's my diabetic blind Shiba in front and my old Beagirl in back. Can't believe I did it right!

stone · 07-06-2009, 02:13 PM

Is that photo big enough? lol

Cute dogs!

nelco · 07-06-2009, 02:14 PM

Quote:

My meeting topic was Principles before Personalities.

a big one believe but a great tool to use in life in general even on some forums here lol'

Io thanks for sharing that story I was in awe of you.

Least the cat already eats dry food . I think I got some stuff in the vets before like the one you are talking about. I will check again. She likes her brand though. One time I switched to a cheaper brand and she would not eat it. you can let me know how you get on with it. It will probably be some time before you notice muah of a change.

Stone how long are you sober now? You seem to be moving forward. I dont think INDIAN is a good idea after what you shared earlier

IO Storm · 07-06-2009, 02:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Believe808

YAY for Stoney

:

I love doing these...can anyone tell?

But I mean it too babes.

"cool bubbly water, what a treat. lol"...

Well..it is!

IO Storm · 07-06-2009, 02:16 PM

Least!

Your babies are the cayutest darlings....I just want to run in there and hug em'.

least · 07-06-2009, 02:18 PM

Stone, I resized it! Nel, I changed my dry cat food from an organic dry food to this Purina One UT health, but the UTI cat ate it and puked it up... so we'll see if he can keep it down and get used to it. I probably should have changed their food gradually but can't since I'm out of their regular organic food. If he/they wo'nt eat it I may have to pay twice as much and get a big bag of the special food from the vet (a different brand).

IO, they ARE my 'babies' in every sense of the word. And it does my heart good to be their mom.

Believe808 · 07-06-2009, 02:21 PM

The pictures tell it all Least. Now I understand why you just love snuggling with those beautiful dogs. I don't know if I said it here before but at a meeting one day someone shared that Dogs are God spelled backwards, that's why their love is unconditional. If I did share that already, well you all got it again

nelco · 07-06-2009, 02:22 PM

can you not get sample packs first. They give them out in my vets. I cant see your picture i dont know why, stone might be able to tell me. I just get the box with the little x

nelco · 07-06-2009, 02:24 PM

Quote:

The pictures tell it all Least. Now I understand why you just love snuggling with those beautiful dogs

i cant see them

Believe808 · 07-06-2009, 02:26 PM

Nel that happens sometimes with me too, but not this time

I was on Whiners the other day and I couldn't see Fube's avatar (YES AVATAR HOS) but everyone else could see it. I made him nuts, lol thinking it wasn't there. And HOS always says she has a ? for an avatar but nothing shows up under her name on my screen. (Throwing up my hands right now) Who knows why things happen. Just to make us nuts right.

Believe808 · 07-06-2009, 02:26 PM

I'll try something to see if I can get it to you Nel, give me a minute.

least · 07-06-2009, 02:31 PM

I get the "?" on my friend's list for those who don't have avatars. I think that's what she means.

stone · 07-06-2009, 02:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nelco

Stone how long are you sober now? You seem to be moving forward. I dont think INDIAN is a good idea after what you shared earlier

Yes, I realised that after I ordered it! Oops!

I am only sober about 3 weeks I think but I am doing some good step work with my new sponsor. Oh yea, I didn't mention I had a new sponsor.

Quote:

Originally Posted by IO Storm

But I mean it too babes.

"cool bubbly water, what a treat. lol"...

Well..it is!

LOL

Quote:

Originally Posted by least

Stone, I resized it!

Computer skilllzz! Nice!

Is it not the dry cat food causing problems? They have to drink a lot of water with that crap.

Believe808 · 07-06-2009, 02:33 PM

I can't do it Nel sorry

nelco · 07-06-2009, 02:38 PM

Thanks for trying Bee. Maybe I will come back to normal in a while.

Stone you have a new sponsor?? What happened the other guy? 3 weeks is good. I hope you remember your triggers and patterns this time.

Believe808 · 07-06-2009, 02:39 PM

Quote:

I am only sober about 3 weeks I think but I am doing some good step work with my new sponsor. Oh yea, I didn't mention I had a new sponsor.

07-06-2009, 12:35 PM	#276 (permalink)
IO Storm IO Storm Wheel Of Fortune Champion! Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 18,175 Blog Entries: 2	Okay...able to come back fo a minute. Donna)))) Acting as if...thanks for saying you are practicing this today! It does does work. But you know..for me, it's not easy getting started. I have to really kick start myself. Like today... Special hugs and prayers as you "act as if throughout the day!" __________________ "God holds me still in the eye of the Storm"

07-06-2009, 01:08 PM	#279 (permalink)
IO Storm IO Storm Wheel Of Fortune Champion! Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 18,175 Blog Entries: 2	Whoo Hooooooo! What a share Donna! I remember when my income had stopped..in between wages and disability...and when I came out of the store one evening, my car was not in the parking space I had left it in. I stood there for a moment.."knowing" it most likely had been repossessed by the bank. And, like a ticker tape in mind, that passage from the BB played behind my closed eyes. I walked into the store, used their telephone..(I was so broke I didn't even own a cell then)...and the police verified the repo. I was so calm... Accepting life on life's terms. I had to le go of the car and file bankruptcy..didn't want it back either...it wasn't mine to keep. Acceptance (is) still the answer to (all) my problems today.. __________________ "God holds me still in the eye of the Storm"

07-06-2009, 01:53 PM	#281 (permalink)
stone Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: UK Posts: 18,303	Wow, lots of cool posts since I have been here last, Nelco you are very wise. Drink cool, bubbly water eh, Sher? Yes, what a treat, lol! The drinking thought didn't last long, was to do with wanting to escape feelings/reality I think. I need to busy right now and couldn't do what I needed to today to be busy. I have had so long in limbo with the not sleeping thing I have to get back into living and doing for my sanity. Still, I got through it, I am sober and very happy to be so. __________________ . As from a fire aflame thousands of sparks come forth, even so from the Creator an infinity of beings have life and to him return again. -- Maitri Upanishads

07-06-2009, 02:01 PM	#283 (permalink)
least bona fido dog-lover Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: eastern USA Posts: 23,513 Blog Entries: 31	Yes, a bit better today, not so anxious. Did my one chore this morning and have been doing nothing the rest of the day. Didn't get a nap but that's ok. I'll go to bed early tonight. Gave the dogs a good walk then put gas in the car. Now just watching Star Trek (tos) and relaxing. Hope the rest of you are having a good day. __________________ I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them. Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole. Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

07-06-2009, 02:03 PM	#284 (permalink)
stone Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: UK Posts: 18,303	Thanks Donna. Least, you sound a bit better. Ordered some Indian food! __________________ . As from a fire aflame thousands of sparks come forth, even so from the Creator an infinity of beings have life and to him return again. -- Maitri Upanishads

07-06-2009, 12:47 PM	#277 (permalink)
HideorSeek Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: massachusetts Posts: 2,187	Thanks Nel. I like The way you are putting "I felt upset when you.." That makes sense to me (and makes the other person far less defensive, I imagine). I'll try that... Hi IO and everyone else... Does this mean I've used a brownie point or two?

07-06-2009, 12:50 PM	#278 (permalink)
Believe808 Miracles Happen Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 9,977	My meeting topic was Principles before Personalities. That seems to be something I keep hearing today. There was a new guy there (not new to program, just this meeting) and after the topic was brought up he shared that he was there today because people at his usual meeting have been getting to him so his sponsor suggested he try a new meeting. LOL, he said perfect topic "I" have to agree with Nel, Hos, when something or someone is unacceptable to me, I need to point that out. God did not get me sober to become someone's doormat. And the way I go about it is "I am hurt by your actions, words, etc." It seems to catch their interest a little more than when I am blaming them with "you did this or that". They immediately shut down from hearing what I have to say when I accuse. Here is my favorite thing to read when I am uncomfortable with someone or something. "And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation-some fact of my life-unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God's world by mistake. Unless I accept life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes." My main reason for typing this is for myself to see and read.. Least you sound so much better than you have been IO I love when you come by and post. You are a special lady. We all have these kind of days, but we are really lucky at these times that we do have a program and we don't have to go it alone. For me Acting as If is such a wonderful tool.

07-06-2009, 01:23 PM	#280 (permalink)
Believe808 Miracles Happen Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 9,977	(((io)))

07-06-2009, 01:59 PM	#282 (permalink)
Believe808 Miracles Happen Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 9,977	YAY for Stoney

07-06-2009, 02:10 PM	#285 (permalink)
least bona fido dog-lover Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: eastern USA Posts: 23,513 Blog Entries: 31	Trying to post a pic of my dogs... we'll see if I do it right... That's my diabetic blind Shiba in front and my old Beagirl in back. Can't believe I did it right! __________________ I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them. Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole. Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

07-06-2009, 02:13 PM	#286 (permalink)
stone Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: UK Posts: 18,303	Is that photo big enough? lol Cute dogs! __________________ . As from a fire aflame thousands of sparks come forth, even so from the Creator an infinity of beings have life and to him return again. -- Maitri Upanishads

07-06-2009, 02:16 PM	#289 (permalink)
IO Storm IO Storm Wheel Of Fortune Champion! Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 18,175 Blog Entries: 2	Least! Your babies are the cayutest darlings....I just want to run in there and hug em'. __________________ "God holds me still in the eye of the Storm"

07-06-2009, 02:18 PM	#290 (permalink)
least bona fido dog-lover Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: eastern USA Posts: 23,513 Blog Entries: 31	Stone, I resized it! Nel, I changed my dry cat food from an organic dry food to this Purina One UT health, but the UTI cat ate it and puked it up... so we'll see if he can keep it down and get used to it. I probably should have changed their food gradually but can't since I'm out of their regular organic food. If he/they wo'nt eat it I may have to pay twice as much and get a big bag of the special food from the vet (a different brand). IO, they ARE my 'babies' in every sense of the word. And it does my heart good to be their mom. __________________ I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them. Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole. Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

07-06-2009, 02:21 PM	#291 (permalink)
Believe808 Miracles Happen Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 9,977	The pictures tell it all Least. Now I understand why you just love snuggling with those beautiful dogs. I don't know if I said it here before but at a meeting one day someone shared that Dogs are God spelled backwards, that's why their love is unconditional. If I did share that already, well you all got it again

07-06-2009, 02:22 PM	#292 (permalink)
nelco Living in sobriety Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 3,868	can you not get sample packs first. They give them out in my vets. I cant see your picture i dont know why, stone might be able to tell me. I just get the box with the little x

07-06-2009, 02:26 PM	#294 (permalink)
Believe808 Miracles Happen Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 9,977	Nel that happens sometimes with me too, but not this time I was on Whiners the other day and I couldn't see Fube's avatar (YES AVATAR HOS) but everyone else could see it. I made him nuts, lol thinking it wasn't there. And HOS always says she has a ? for an avatar but nothing shows up under her name on my screen. (Throwing up my hands right now) Who knows why things happen. Just to make us nuts right.

07-06-2009, 02:26 PM	#295 (permalink)
Believe808 Miracles Happen Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 9,977	I'll try something to see if I can get it to you Nel, give me a minute.

07-06-2009, 02:31 PM	#296 (permalink)
least bona fido dog-lover Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: eastern USA Posts: 23,513 Blog Entries: 31	I get the "?" on my friend's list for those who don't have avatars. I think that's what she means. __________________ I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them. Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole. Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

07-06-2009, 02:33 PM	#298 (permalink)
Believe808 Miracles Happen Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 9,977	I can't do it Nel sorry

07-06-2009, 02:38 PM	#299 (permalink)
nelco Living in sobriety Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 3,868	Thanks for trying Bee. Maybe I will come back to normal in a while. Stone you have a new sponsor?? What happened the other guy? 3 weeks is good. I hope you remember your triggers and patterns this time.

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