Codependency and Beyond Part 5

[Gypsy Feet]

Oo, I hope you find something Amy!! I put in my first "bids" for promotion, tomorrow I can check how far down the seniority list I am=)

[hotamale]

what do you want from him? do you want him to change? does SABF= substance abuser bf? anyhow, having dated for way too long, i have realized that ppl don;t change that much, so you have to take them as they are. if you don;t like who he is or what he is doing or that this is repeated behavior where you are disrespected all the time....you may have to cut your losses.

if he is loaded or drunk or whatever, obviously now is not the time to talk. unpulug the phone, and have a nice quiet evening to yourself. talk when he is reasonable and rational and sober. if you explain your position/why he is hurting you/etc. and ask him not to lie to you,...and he continues the behavior, i would leave. but, that is me. i need to be in a relationship based on mutual respect and trust. if those are not present, then i am just in a hurtful situation, which is not acceptable.

good luck love!

[Impurrfect]

Here's another Ralph Marston I thought you all might enjoy:

THE DAILY MOTIVATOR
Thursday, July 2, 2009

Now you must
+++++++++++++++++++

Stop telling yourself why you cannot do it and start
reminding yourself why you must. When you have a strong
enough reason why, you'll get it done.

It can be all too easy to come up with excuses. And it can
be all too easy to let those excuses stop you in your
tracks.

Yet you can also very easily let go of those excuses. Though
they may sound impressive, they are no longer valid for you.

Because as of now, you have chosen to move forward. As of
this moment, you have reconnected with your purpose and
you're clear about why you must.

Effort, as difficult as it may be, is a joy when there's a
good, solid, meaningful reason behind it. On this very day,
you can experience that joy.

Get up, get going, and thoroughly enjoy the process of
achievement. Remember why you must, and get it done.

Ralph Marston

[Impurrfect]

I just got an intersting call from work. It seems that one of the girls who has caused me problems is also causing THEM problems. One mg has told me it was only a matter of time until they had enough justified reasons to fire her.

Now they want me to cover the one shift when she closes. I told him "sorry, can't do it as I have another job". I am not going to rescue them, any more, when shifts aren't covered because they've scheduled people who don't want to work - especially people who have been giving me fits and they don't back me up as a supervisor in conflicts with these people.

It felt good to know I didn't have to worry about who's going to cover the shift...not my problem!

I looked at the calendar last night, and realized I could take off today, too I am still working on my room. Didn't get as much done, yesterday, as I wanted because Elvis and Mots decided to stick like glue to me, and I couldn't move without at least one cat fussing at me. Hopefully, today I'll make more progress.

Hugs and prayers!

Amy