For Those with Less than 2 Weeks Sober Part 6 - Page 16 - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

Omega Man · 12-13-2008, 10:54 AM

Excellent job Mariposa! Stick around this weekend and let's make sure you get off this 2 week thread.
I started this thread because I could never string 2 weeks together either. I'd make 5-10 days, start feeling really good, let my guard down and well - you know the rest.

Let's get everyone off this 2 wks and under thread and start a "15 Days, To Infinity and Beyond" thread.

Mariposa18 · 12-13-2008, 11:00 AM

Omega~ I'm happy to hear you are doing so well! I understand about the Holiday parties, I'm skipping out on a few myself. I just don't feel very at ease around too many people and most of them will be friends of friends, you know? I usually drink to relieve that anxiety and like you I don't need the trigger. You are doing great, keep up the good work and stay strong my Friend~

BTW, I'll start that thread "15 Days, To Infinity and Beyond" on Monday if you promise to join me there in 7 more days. Deal? =) Yeah, and I love the Toy Story reference! lol

Omega Man · 12-13-2008, 11:39 AM

Mariposa - count me in, I'm there. See you in 7 short days!

steamvessel · 12-13-2008, 12:47 PM

PB- crazy story, sometimes we do have to get lucky for this to work. You're not the only one who has avoided danger due to circumstances.

Day 13 for me, feeling pretty good. Went to a bar last night, woke up feeling great. One thing I was thinking of is sobriety can seem like a pain, counting days, only to get to a place that is just where you are. Then I thought, remember how much of a pain drinking was? The brutal hangovers, the finances, the depression? On top of that I still had the obsessional thinking about it, but it was about when I was going to quit, and I had to battle to set a date stick to it and believe it.

Nope, sobriety is a breeze comparitively.

Mariposa18 · 12-13-2008, 01:24 PM

Steamvessel~ Glad to hear you are feeling well =) You are right, it's easier to not drink than obsessing over our next drink. You know what I've noticed? Food tastes better and Hot Chocolate was never as delicious as it is now! lol

Keep up the good work, I'm right there with you on Day 13 =) We "graduate" from our 1st 2 weeks tomorrow! YAY! lol

**CarolD** · 12-13-2008, 02:17 PM

OM...my noon meeting topic was from page 20 in our BB
"There is a Solution"

I had not read it in ages...so I came home to do a
"refresh and re-charge" by reading the chapter...

Good to see you are moving forward.

**CarolD** · 12-13-2008, 02:20 PM

Jakey...I'm so pleased you found Lifering interesting

Thanks for sharing today..

**CarolD** · 12-13-2008, 02:21 PM

steem...Wow!
Good to know your doing well

**CarolD** · 12-13-2008, 02:36 PM

Congratulations to Mari and Steem
Our newest 2 grads from hthis thread.

....

Of course...please do come back for a visit
whenever you choose.

Mariposa18 · 12-13-2008, 03:14 PM

Thanks Carol

Today has actually been great! I've been relaxed, have come here when I began to feel antsy, and am taking time to just be. No phones, no family drama, just me and my Babies =)

I'm looking forward to starting that new thread Omega came up with on Monday =) And I will keep coming here and posting because without this thread I wouldn't have made it to today, so thank you to ALL of you~

Jakey · 12-13-2008, 05:44 PM

Glad you're feeling better today Mari! You are doing great. Stay strong!!

Mariposa18 · 12-13-2008, 07:09 PM

Thanks Jakey =) Oh and good luck with your Fantasy team this week!

Mariposa18 · 12-14-2008, 10:25 AM

Good Morning Everyone~ I hope you are all having a great and SOBER weekend =)

Well, today is day 14 for me! It feels like yesterday I was starting over on Day 1 after my Thanksgiving relapse, so angry for having messed up. Now I realize that's what it took for me to get really serious about this. The relapse wasn't a huge thing, it wasn't months of drinking but a couple of days, but really that's all it took. I feel much better everyday and I know I've made the right decision.

Stay Strong everyone and God Bless~

Omega Man · 12-14-2008, 11:23 AM

Proud of you Mariposa!

If you can make 2 wks, you can make 30 days! Stay strong and keep going.

sicilia1414 · 12-14-2008, 01:34 PM

Hi everyone, sorry I have been MIA for a few days...I needed a few days off to just rest and relax and get away from the computer.

Mari, I am in the same postion you are, my emotions are so up and down. And if I see one more fcuking commercial on TV for Smirnoff Vodka or Captian morgan I am going to kill someone.

We did pick a bad time to get sober around the holidays, but I am sure it will just make us stronger in the long run!

And don't be embarrassed about the BIG BOOK you silly girl! Checking out that book at the library will be a baby step for you. So many of us alcoholics care way too much what other people think. We have to learn how to say - "fcuk everyone else, this is about me getting better". Please try to go to the library again and do it. That is one of the main reasons why I am forcing myself to go to AA meetings. I HATE HATE HATE them, but I know that over time, it will get less and less scary. I need to learn how to open up and be able to talk to people about my issues and struggles. I think that you getting up the nerve to get that book at the library will be very empowering for you.

I bought a big book at my first AA meeting, and I have been reading out of it every day. Please try to get one.

Today is my 2 weeks! yay!

Omega Man · 12-14-2008, 01:58 PM

Big Book is available on-line. No need to venture out in the cold

Big Book On Line

steamvessel · 12-14-2008, 02:25 PM

Two weeks for me today also. Doing good, just keeping it mellow. It has been easier this time around than last time, my time spent sober did not go to waste because I relapsed. I'm trying to do things a little differently than last time, but it's going to be a gradual process. I'm still getting urges here and there, but one thing I have worked really, really hard at is my cognitive processing. By thinking about the situation rationally, my urges can be easily disarmed. I know I enjoy being sober, so there is no point in filling up my head with thoughts such as; "why does every one else get to 'enjoy' a drink while going out", "this is boring", "who cares my life sucks anyway". By consciously eliminating these irrational thoughts I am really starting to enjoy my life more. The way I look at it is very biochemical at the moment, I'm not getting philosophical about this. I quit smoking (almost 3 weeks), and to me drinking and smoking are the same thing to me- things I am avoid because I know they only bring negative consequences to my life, period. There is no difference, I used to be able to smoke casually, can't anymore so I've got to give it up. There doesn't seem to be much in the literature about smoking being a drug that you can maybe moderate, it seems to be a given that once you are hooked you are hooked and that you need to abstain. Why we complicate this with alcohol with all these theories and philosophies is a big question I have. With all other drugs it seems a given that you just need to give it up, I think there is a big part of our society that is tied to alcohol, and a lot of people have not admitted the damage that it causes. I think there are a lot of people hooked that are just not as bad off as we are on this board. But I find it silly that it's the only drug that you can quit that people will look at you like you're crazy when you say you've given it up. Were addicts, we've got to give it up, the end. Anyways, just my thoughts for the day- it helps me to log these here even if they don't seem that coherent. On to day 15.

**CarolD** · 12-14-2008, 03:49 PM

sicilia1414 ....I am so tickled for you
Congratulations on your 2 weeks!

**CarolD** · 12-14-2008, 04:03 PM

Steem...thanks for sharing your interesting thoughts.

Quote:

But I find it silly that it's the only drug that you can quit that people will look at you like you're crazy when you say you've given it up.

It's my exerience that those people are also drinkers.
Many people go Ho Hum...

When I told my non drinking parents I had quit....
"That's good....how's the weather in D.C.?"

gravity · 12-14-2008, 06:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sicilia1414

And don't be embarrassed about the BIG BOOK you silly girl! Checking out that book at the library will be a baby step for you. So many of us alcoholics care way too much what other people think. We have to learn how to say - "fcuk everyone else, this is about me getting better". Please try to go to the library again and do it. That is one of the main reasons why I am forcing myself to go to AA meetings. I HATE HATE HATE them, but I know that over time, it will get less and less scary. I need to learn how to open up and be able to talk to people about my issues and struggles. I think that you getting up the nerve to get that book at the library will be very empowering for you.

I used to hate going to meetings too but I kept going. At the time, I didn't want anyone to know that I am an alcoholic and attend AA meetings. What I have found is that people who love me are very supportive and everyone else just doesn't care!

I do remember vividly a meeting at about my 3 month sobriety mark. I felt at home! What a rush!

Most of my first posts were on this thread. That was last December. Thanks to AA, SR, supportive family members, and inspirational readings, I have not had a drink!

A sober life is a good life. Once the obsession is gone, the peace is incredible. It takes hard work, a bit of frustration along the way, and patience but it can and will happen.

ksplash5 · 12-14-2008, 06:49 PM

good sunday evening everyone.

I had some strong urges today but didn't act on them. I let the first one go and then when it came back it was even stronger. i could just see myself for a second watching myself start the process of getting high. but i let that one go. and the next one.

i think it's a good thing to have urges. i'm getting more and more confident that i can walk through an urge and not be fooled by my old habits. they do nothing good for me or the planet.

thanks for listening

ksplash5 · 12-15-2008, 08:09 AM

it's another day.....and the opportunity to continue on in sobriety.

the opportunity to continue to change from a life of a taker to a life of a giver

the opportunity to start and sustain a new second half of life

the opportunity to follow your dreams

the opportunity to love instead of hate

least · 12-15-2008, 08:21 AM

Ksplash, you are such an inspiration!

I love reading your posts. I always learn something useful!

November77 · 12-15-2008, 11:35 AM

Hi all! sorry I have been so swamped with school and work. This semester is a little tougher than the last one. So I'm trying to juggle everything at once. Anyway just wanted to check in and say Hi

steamvessel · 12-15-2008, 12:07 PM

Day 15. I've officially graduated, but I'll be sticking around to provide support. It feels good to finally get some momentum, I can now start taking this recovery more seriously, I know it is just a psychological hurdle, but getting past two weeks gives me the credentials that what I am doing is for real this time.

12-13-2008, 10:54 AM	#376 (permalink)
Omega Man Ending the Old Me. Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Under a Rock Posts: 377	Excellent job Mariposa! Stick around this weekend and let's make sure you get off this 2 week thread. I started this thread because I could never string 2 weeks together either. I'd make 5-10 days, start feeling really good, let my guard down and well - you know the rest. Let's get everyone off this 2 wks and under thread and start a "15 Days, To Infinity and Beyond" thread. __________________ "It only takes one drink to get me drunk. The trouble is, I can't remember if it's the thirteenth or fourteenth." George F. Burns

12-13-2008, 11:00 AM	#377 (permalink)
Mariposa18 Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 947	Omega~ I'm happy to hear you are doing so well! I understand about the Holiday parties, I'm skipping out on a few myself. I just don't feel very at ease around too many people and most of them will be friends of friends, you know? I usually drink to relieve that anxiety and like you I don't need the trigger. You are doing great, keep up the good work and stay strong my Friend~ BTW, I'll start that thread "15 Days, To Infinity and Beyond" on Monday if you promise to join me there in 7 more days. Deal? =) Yeah, and I love the Toy Story reference! lol __________________ ~Sobriety is the best way to be in touch with reality as it is. Which is the best way to change reality to how you want it to be.~ Sober since 12-01-08

12-13-2008, 11:39 AM	#378 (permalink)
Omega Man Ending the Old Me. Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Under a Rock Posts: 377	Mariposa - count me in, I'm there. See you in 7 short days! __________________ "It only takes one drink to get me drunk. The trouble is, I can't remember if it's the thirteenth or fourteenth." George F. Burns

12-13-2008, 01:24 PM	#380 (permalink)
Mariposa18 Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 947	Steamvessel~ Glad to hear you are feeling well =) You are right, it's easier to not drink than obsessing over our next drink. You know what I've noticed? Food tastes better and Hot Chocolate was never as delicious as it is now! lol Keep up the good work, I'm right there with you on Day 13 =) We "graduate" from our 1st 2 weeks tomorrow! YAY! lol __________________ ~Sobriety is the best way to be in touch with reality as it is. Which is the best way to change reality to how you want it to be.~ Sober since 12-01-08

12-13-2008, 02:17 PM	#381 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA Posts: 21,869	OM...my noon meeting topic was from page 20 in our BB "There is a Solution" I had not read it in ages...so I came home to do a "refresh and re-charge" by reading the chapter... Good to see you are moving forward. __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery! :

12-13-2008, 12:47 PM	#379 (permalink)
steamvessel Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 977	PB- crazy story, sometimes we do have to get lucky for this to work. You're not the only one who has avoided danger due to circumstances. Day 13 for me, feeling pretty good. Went to a bar last night, woke up feeling great. One thing I was thinking of is sobriety can seem like a pain, counting days, only to get to a place that is just where you are. Then I thought, remember how much of a pain drinking was? The brutal hangovers, the finances, the depression? On top of that I still had the obsessional thinking about it, but it was about when I was going to quit, and I had to battle to set a date stick to it and believe it. Nope, sobriety is a breeze comparitively.

12-13-2008, 02:20 PM	#382 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA Posts: 21,869	Jakey...I'm so pleased you found Lifering interesting Thanks for sharing today.. __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery! :

12-13-2008, 02:21 PM	#383 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA Posts: 21,869	steem...Wow! Good to know your doing well __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery! :

12-13-2008, 02:36 PM	#384 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA Posts: 21,869	Congratulations to Mari and Steem Our newest 2 grads from hthis thread. .... Of course...please do come back for a visit whenever you choose. __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery! :

12-13-2008, 03:14 PM	#385 (permalink)
Mariposa18 Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 947	Thanks Carol Today has actually been great! I've been relaxed, have come here when I began to feel antsy, and am taking time to just be. No phones, no family drama, just me and my Babies =) I'm looking forward to starting that new thread Omega came up with on Monday =) And I will keep coming here and posting because without this thread I wouldn't have made it to today, so thank you to ALL of you~ __________________ ~Sobriety is the best way to be in touch with reality as it is. Which is the best way to change reality to how you want it to be.~ Sober since 12-01-08

12-13-2008, 05:44 PM	#386 (permalink)
Jakey Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: PNW Posts: 87	Glad you're feeling better today Mari! You are doing great. Stay strong!!

12-13-2008, 07:09 PM	#387 (permalink)
Mariposa18 Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 947	Thanks Jakey =) Oh and good luck with your Fantasy team this week! __________________ ~Sobriety is the best way to be in touch with reality as it is. Which is the best way to change reality to how you want it to be.~ Sober since 12-01-08

12-14-2008, 10:25 AM	#388 (permalink)
Mariposa18 Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 947	Good Morning Everyone~ I hope you are all having a great and SOBER weekend =) Well, today is day 14 for me! It feels like yesterday I was starting over on Day 1 after my Thanksgiving relapse, so angry for having messed up. Now I realize that's what it took for me to get really serious about this. The relapse wasn't a huge thing, it wasn't months of drinking but a couple of days, but really that's all it took. I feel much better everyday and I know I've made the right decision. Stay Strong everyone and God Bless~ __________________ ~Sobriety is the best way to be in touch with reality as it is. Which is the best way to change reality to how you want it to be.~ Sober since 12-01-08

12-14-2008, 11:23 AM	#389 (permalink)
Omega Man Ending the Old Me. Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Under a Rock Posts: 377	Proud of you Mariposa! If you can make 2 wks, you can make 30 days! Stay strong and keep going. __________________ "It only takes one drink to get me drunk. The trouble is, I can't remember if it's the thirteenth or fourteenth." George F. Burns

12-14-2008, 01:34 PM	#390 (permalink)
sicilia1414 new and scared. :( Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: chicago, il Posts: 114	Hi everyone, sorry I have been MIA for a few days...I needed a few days off to just rest and relax and get away from the computer. Mari, I am in the same postion you are, my emotions are so up and down. And if I see one more fcuking commercial on TV for Smirnoff Vodka or Captian morgan I am going to kill someone. We did pick a bad time to get sober around the holidays, but I am sure it will just make us stronger in the long run! And don't be embarrassed about the BIG BOOK you silly girl! Checking out that book at the library will be a baby step for you. So many of us alcoholics care way too much what other people think. We have to learn how to say - "fcuk everyone else, this is about me getting better". Please try to go to the library again and do it. That is one of the main reasons why I am forcing myself to go to AA meetings. I HATE HATE HATE them, but I know that over time, it will get less and less scary. I need to learn how to open up and be able to talk to people about my issues and struggles. I think that you getting up the nerve to get that book at the library will be very empowering for you. I bought a big book at my first AA meeting, and I have been reading out of it every day. Please try to get one. Today is my 2 weeks! yay!

12-14-2008, 01:58 PM	#391 (permalink)
Omega Man Ending the Old Me. Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Under a Rock Posts: 377	Big Book is available on-line. No need to venture out in the cold Big Book On Line __________________ "It only takes one drink to get me drunk. The trouble is, I can't remember if it's the thirteenth or fourteenth." George F. Burns

12-14-2008, 02:25 PM	#392 (permalink)
steamvessel Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 977	Two weeks for me today also. Doing good, just keeping it mellow. It has been easier this time around than last time, my time spent sober did not go to waste because I relapsed. I'm trying to do things a little differently than last time, but it's going to be a gradual process. I'm still getting urges here and there, but one thing I have worked really, really hard at is my cognitive processing. By thinking about the situation rationally, my urges can be easily disarmed. I know I enjoy being sober, so there is no point in filling up my head with thoughts such as; "why does every one else get to 'enjoy' a drink while going out", "this is boring", "who cares my life sucks anyway". By consciously eliminating these irrational thoughts I am really starting to enjoy my life more. The way I look at it is very biochemical at the moment, I'm not getting philosophical about this. I quit smoking (almost 3 weeks), and to me drinking and smoking are the same thing to me- things I am avoid because I know they only bring negative consequences to my life, period. There is no difference, I used to be able to smoke casually, can't anymore so I've got to give it up. There doesn't seem to be much in the literature about smoking being a drug that you can maybe moderate, it seems to be a given that once you are hooked you are hooked and that you need to abstain. Why we complicate this with alcohol with all these theories and philosophies is a big question I have. With all other drugs it seems a given that you just need to give it up, I think there is a big part of our society that is tied to alcohol, and a lot of people have not admitted the damage that it causes. I think there are a lot of people hooked that are just not as bad off as we are on this board. But I find it silly that it's the only drug that you can quit that people will look at you like you're crazy when you say you've given it up. Were addicts, we've got to give it up, the end. Anyways, just my thoughts for the day- it helps me to log these here even if they don't seem that coherent. On to day 15.

12-14-2008, 03:49 PM	#393 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA Posts: 21,869	sicilia1414 ....I am so tickled for you Congratulations on your 2 weeks! __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery! :

12-14-2008, 06:49 PM	#396 (permalink)
ksplash5 Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 951	good sunday evening everyone. I had some strong urges today but didn't act on them. I let the first one go and then when it came back it was even stronger. i could just see myself for a second watching myself start the process of getting high. but i let that one go. and the next one. i think it's a good thing to have urges. i'm getting more and more confident that i can walk through an urge and not be fooled by my old habits. they do nothing good for me or the planet. thanks for listening __________________ enough Day 1's already...it's time, right now, for the second half of my life, one day, one breath at a time

12-15-2008, 08:09 AM	#397 (permalink)
ksplash5 Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 951	it's another day.....and the opportunity to continue on in sobriety. the opportunity to continue to change from a life of a taker to a life of a giver the opportunity to start and sustain a new second half of life the opportunity to follow your dreams the opportunity to love instead of hate __________________ enough Day 1's already...it's time, right now, for the second half of my life, one day, one breath at a time

12-15-2008, 08:21 AM	#398 (permalink)
least recovering Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: eastern USA Posts: 9,930 Blog Entries: 11	Ksplash, you are such an inspiration! I love reading your posts. I always learn something useful! __________________ I'd rather live in my van with my dogs than live in a mansion without them. Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole. Plus que je connais les hommes, plus j'aime mon chien. (The more I know mankind, the more I love my dog)

12-15-2008, 11:35 AM	#399 (permalink)
November77 Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 48	Hi all! sorry I have been so swamped with school and work. This semester is a little tougher than the last one. So I'm trying to juggle everything at once. Anyway just wanted to check in and say Hi

12-15-2008, 12:07 PM	#400 (permalink)
steamvessel Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 977	Day 15. I've officially graduated, but I'll be sticking around to provide support. It feels good to finally get some momentum, I can now start taking this recovery more seriously, I know it is just a psychological hurdle, but getting past two weeks gives me the credentials that what I am doing is for real this time.

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