Easy NO/Doable YES!

[Chance]

I have been thinking for so long I used to always say "Is this deal easy to do? NO! Is this deal DOABLE? Yes.... I have forgotten how hard it is in early recovery and it seems like I haven't been giving this a fair shot. When a little pressure comes it seems like I fold my hand before it has even been dealt. So I thought that I would start this thread, to remind me and others that this is probably one of the hardest things that we will do, and yet it is also one of the most precious gifts to fight for. I know that it is doable for I have done it before. So, as I sit here today, with a few 24 hours behind me I am here to say this can be done. Sometimes one hour at a time, one minute at a time, and sometimes just a heart beat at a time.

Today is the day that all of us have to work on...So today just for today I can say this deal is DOABLE!!! Yep this DEAL is DOABLE!!!

Love Vic

[Hope]

Thanks for that post Vic! That was great!

[Phinneas]

Simple - yes. Easy - no.

What got me into recovery was giving up. I reached that point of unbearable despair when I could not imagine life with drinking and drugging and I could not imagine life without it. "Ok, god, I give up. I can't do this anymore. Help!"

I walked into the rooms in that hopeless state and the support of the people in recovery helped me get through each day.

NA is an amazing program. It offers hope. It offers support. It offers a solution.

[aloneagainor]

Having thought of and processed through, -across nearly 20 years of use- every reason imagainable for using, and systematically discounted them all as invalid, I've been reduced to using the "it's impossible" excuse, which is so swift, powerful, and cunning, I don't even see it coming and quickly concede, defenseless against my own addict-brain thinking. Because I lack necessary skills to counter-balance that line of thinking. DOABLE is impossible's counter-action. It IS possible, but it's a choice. We do choose our actions, though it's so easy to allow ourselves to be controlled by our drugs/ addict-thinking brain. Powerless. There seems to be some blend of self-control/ self-determination and submission to a Higher Power here that must both play a role in the decisions we make. If I (and you Vic and assuredly so many others here) weren't so damn head-strong the obvious solution would take hold. That being, think on the positives, live in the day, listen and accept your Higher Power's role in your life, be grateful for what you've got.
Mindset change, from conceding to the negative problem-- to focus on the positive solution. From "impossible" to "doable". Yes.

[SaTiT]

It is the easiest, softer way.lol

Then we get some ESH and have ahha moments.
...it's actaully the faster way.
We learned from experience rather than going crazy,
have resentments and what have ya.
it's actually faster to talk to our sponsor and read & write or
work our steps.
Yeah...that's the ticket.
Mmmmm, when I feel like crap or it just seems too great for me
to handle..i don't have to do it alone.
And yeah...add a loving god/hp into the equation works too.

By working the steps..we actaully realize we're freaken insane.
And we like to do crazy crap.lol ...as we did with drugs and alcohol.
Then we get more ahha moments from reflections.
Acceptance..We learn to accept ourselves
We learn to forgive ourselves.
We learn to love ourselves.
That's it....we learn to be easier and softer to ourselves.
Then more ahha momets.lol
"We can't give away what we don't have"
So we pratice, loving ,forgiving, accepting ourselve first
so we're able to love, forgive, & accept others too.....wow.
Why???

You know...alki/addicts like to beat up on themselve so they
can go get high. When in a drunken/high state or dealing
with consequences. Alki/addicts rather beat up on others...wow.lmaf