From naranon

[Jewelz]

I am from the naranon board I rarely ever come over to this side. I felt down, discourage, and just plainly tired of the whole thing. My boyfriend is a crack addict, and now hes drinking more than ever, he says because its cheaper. I'm getting to the point where I cant take much more of this, I'm not even upset any more I'm just tired. I thought earlier to come to this side of SR just to read around. What powerful posts you guys have, of your struggles, recovery, and inspiration. I should have known it would be like that here because of what the naranon board has done for me over 2 years.

I admire the stregnth you all had to stop that last time, the strength you all have to keep coming back here and to face your addiction whether you have been years clean or minutes.

Coming to this side reminds me that there is miracles happening everyday!

I may not stick around much longer for my abf but I will continue to pray that he gets sick and tired of the using.

Thank you all for the reminder,
Jewel

[Phinneas]

((((Jewel)))) Thank you.

This is a nasty, ugly, hopless disease - unless we hit that place of complete and total despair that leads to surrender. At least that was how it happened for me.

Recovery is, sadly, not for those who need it, but for those who want it. The light of NA is always on and I send a prayer to your b/f that he discovers the beauty of recovery real soon.

[SaTiT]

Jewelz,

For me, addiction/co-dependency is the same disease.
The disease manifest itself in different forms on the surface.
In recovery, we are informed that drug/alcohol abuss are just
the symtoms of our problems. The addict/alki must understand
FIRST things FIRST.

I've been getting Ahha moments or allowing/applying tools.
"Cease fighting"

At a certain piont of my recovery with drugs/alcohol . I gave up on trying to stop using. No matter what I did or how much I tried to stop using
I would relapse in my earily recovery. I didn't comprehend or accept
how powerless I was over my addictions. To the contrary, I'm a very
selfwill/power person. Never the less , I'm powerless over addiction/alcoholism.
I stay stopped and my urge to use stop, when I ceased figthing it.

Maybe...it'll makesense to some peaple..
"The only requirement is a desire to stop using."
I belive it was that desire or wanting to stop, even thou i'm powerless.
The spirirtual/miracle/paradox of recovery....it is mind blowing in nature.

I'm doing the samething with my co-dependency.
There's been a shift or the weight of the world had been lifted off of my
shoulders. I ceased fighting my GF's addiction/ my co-dependency.

I'm not really sure how I got to this piont. struggling with
co-dependency was hard than drugs/alcohol, for me.

It's by the grace of GOD and will always be by grace...for me.
My ESH has proving it.
Or GOD has.....

[GeorgiaPeach]

Jewel-

My husbands DOC was pain meds, anykind he could get. Then he tried Methadone trying to come off of the pain meds and bease addicted to those. He has been tapering off of Methadone and now is completely off. I started here on SA and NA because I knew how I was feeling and what I was going through but I had no idea what he was feeling or going through and everyone here helped me and got me through this. They helped me understand him but he was wanting to quit so there is the difference. Anyway, welcome and stick around and read some posts and I admire everyone here as well for ALL that they have accomplished!!!!! Keep up the GREAT work guys!!!