My Reply To My Post Is Evaluation Needed

[delight]

Hi
I had to do this here..becuase it is now letting me post a reply. For some reason
I want to thank all who responded especially time2surrender with the helpful link
My husband has been reading the workbook.
Tomorrow he will find a NA meeting for the area and go to it. And see what they have to say before paying for this evaluation.
He was not a daily crack user, but also from reading the book a little he noticed that drug is not daily and is still highly addictive.
He conquered heroine 10 years ago ..and if hopeful to conquer this.
I have faith in him. He really messed up and wants to change his life..but seems scared..been living so long in that altered state..Heroine 10 years ago..then clean a year...then beer 10 years...clean 6 months ..then discovered crack
He wants the cycle to end and is saying he can never touch crack and says he is connecting them all together now. Becuase one will lead back to the other.
Its crazy how an addicts mind works
I think I could write a book about that.
He has always acted like he was above the drug or alcohol and think he finally found one that would overcome him in very evil ways
and he is now really scared
thank you everyone
I love this place
peace
delight
also if anyone knows why I am not able to post replies to my posts let me know

[WNY Addict]

It sounds like your husband never truly found himself a program to work with, delight. He may have made his way to NA in the past, but it doesn't sound like he's ever worked the program properly. When you say workbook, do you mean the NA basic text? He can't dive right in and start out doing the stepwork, and the stepwork is the only thing that I'm aware of as having a workbook.

I'd suggest he read (and reread) the basic textbook. Tell him to stay away from the second half of the book for now (the stories) as he's got enough of his own issues to deal with. He can read the "war stories" later, but for now The Program is the key.

The Program is that first 100+ pages of the book.

Stepwork is really impossible to work without a sponsor, too. A lot of people think NA is just about meetings, but it really isn't. I would say that meetings are only a small part of my recovery (and those in my sponsor family). My sponsor and his sponcees (my brothers so to speak) are more of a motivating factor than the meetings. We also have a weekly support group that we hold for our sponsorship family, and then there's personal readings and stepwork that we do on our own (and with our sponsor).

He's obviously an addict who's just crossed over from various drugs, and that cycle is going to continue until he admits he has a problem and finally commits himself to The Program. It's good that he recognizes that he has a problem, but you can't just keep hopping to a different drug of choice hoping to get better results. It's insanity, repeating the same behavior over-and-over while expecting different results.

Addiction isn't just a person getting hooked on a particular drug. The drug use is just a symptom of the disease. Addiction is a personal/spiritual issue. Some people learn that right away, some learn it the hard way, and others (sadly) never discover the true nature of their addiction. Drugs are so small a part of the disease, but we don't see that until the obsession to use has been lifted.

It sounds like you both know there's an issue there. I hope and pray that you both get the help, sobriety and serenity that we all deserve in this life.

Using isn't living, and abstinence isn't recovery.

God Bless