Is Evaluation Needed????

[delight]

HI
I usually would post in nar anon but thought this better to ask her.
My husband and alcoholic for 10 years...he quit drinking about a year ago..and life was so grand until one of his terrific friends introduced him to Crack. It was a complete shock to me..I noticed money dissappearing 6 months ago..and figured out and he confessed and promise to never do again...well a couple months passed and he assured me that friend was no longer using so I let him hang out over there again. He sometimes spent the night..becuase its more of a bachelopr pad..and would tell me he would get a 6 pack here and there..
Well a couple days before xmas I discovered he was using again..he confessed and said he felt so bad..mainly becuase he used my xmas gift money on the drug. He said NO MORE
Well 2 days after xmas...I wake up and hes gone..I then realized so was cash and my credit card..I then noticed $400 taken out of my account..
He went crazy..I also noticed he drank a HUGE amount of Vodka..like a gallon bottle was gone.
I didnt know what to do , he was gone now for 7 hours and I get a call
he says he is out on beach and would not be coming home. I demanded him.
he then called me next day to pick him up..of course I did
he looked awful we called around ...and we werent getting much help(it being holidays)
I wanted him to go right into detox..He was saying he did to.
the lady on phone said he probably didnt need it
then we got in touch with PAR a drug rehab. clinic
they told him he could come in tomorrow morning for an evaluation. He has no money or insurance..He says that he has not been thinking of using
Should he get this evaluation or should he just go to meetings daily and get a sponsor
WE NEED HELP
I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO DO ..AND I KNOW HE WANTS HELP

[Time2Surrender]

Hi my name is Michael.Recovering crack addict.Here are some more links.The first one is for "Crack busters workbook" You will need a printer and plenty of ink.Its 105 pages.

Crack busters Also look up www.devilscandy.com

If your husband is ready to get clean and wants help,I recommend NA meetings.

[Evanna]

Go in for the evaluation. An evaluation is just what it says, its not a commitment to further action. I would say that your husband needs as many doors open to him as possible right now. Dont know how things work over there re; funds for getting into treatment but i would strongly suggest going in and seeing what this place has to say. Even if they cant take him they may have some alternaltive suggestions. Also the very act of going in for an evaluation sometimes helps us addicts realise what a mess we are really in.

This isnt an either or situation either. While seeing what other help is available your husband can still go to NA and get sponser etc. Support from as many sources as possible i say. Getting clean in the rooms is possible. I was using crack and opiates last time i cleaned up through the rooms. But i also used as much outside help as i could get.

I imagine this must be a nightmare for you Delight. Dont forget to look after yourself in all this.
Warmest hugs Evanna.

[nutz]

Self honesty is the name of the game.
The whole world can evaluate me untill the end of time.
I can admit my problems to the world all day long.
Until I'm honest with myself and accept it, nothing would change.
It's not that I can't see the wreckage that I've created.
Not in a million years would a nice guy like me intended for things
to be as they are. The problem is , I can't stop no matter how
much I tried. The crazy thing is, I keep doing it over and over again.
God help me stop this madness.

[HMAN]

Hopefully this can be helpfulll. It has been my experience going to a program is a safe inviorment. I have been to a few in my past. The catch is once you are out of the program you will need to go to meeting and work the steps. It will depend on what he or she is willing to do. I hope the best for him and you in his journey of recovery.....

[chrys]

Just a word about self-care. I was already starting my recovery when my spouse ended up detoxing in a psychiatric ward. Rough time. Insanely, I thought of drinking. I did not but remember how tough that was.

No matter what your husband decides to do. Seek your supports. Many counselors offer consultation and counseling to family and friends. It will help you be the kind of support to him that you really want to be.