sponsers suggestion

[stud0134]

Well My sponser asked me the other day that there was only 1 thing he has ask me to do three times that I havent done.and that thing was he asked me to call my grand sponsers and for some reason I dont want to.I have been openminded about everything except this 1 thing.I just have a problem calling people I dont know And comeing up with conversation.And Im shy anyways.I feel bad becouse I feel that Ive hurt some feelings here.I know I need to call and talk to my grandsponser I just dont really cant talk myself into calling him.but Im going to have to becouse my sponser Is huge and he might squash me if I dont LOL ya know.I just cant figure out what is wrong with me,why cant I call this guy Ive even met him.I think its that he seems a little intimidating,Hes really smart about the 12 steps and my sponser wants me to meet the guy that tought him,and my sponser has tought me to have a strong recovery . anyways thats my little bitty prob.anyways any ideas. :saywhat?:

[Imagine]

Hey Chris; The only thing I can share about this is that my sponsor never has lead me wrong. I relate to the shyness, I still fight mine. Being shy is just another way that fear can control us. You just keep up the good work, you'll get thru it, look at how far you've came so far. Love and Peace, Jerome.

[stud0134]

thanks Jerome I know Ill be Ok,you are right I have come along way.I just have to trust my sponser he hasnt lead me wrong yet either

[Moontime]

When I had do to something similar and was shy as well, I'd call and right off the bat just say 'this is a recovery call' and then the other person on the phone will take the lead and lead into the converstation.

[godsonmyside]

I've made meeting list calls, not knowing anyone, and just saying "I don't know what to say", been told I've said the right thing. Today, people I sponsor, I have them call a person a day from those meeting list. It is good to broaden the base of recovering addicts in our pyramid, it's not to hurt you, it's to get to know others and to use this Fellowship.
Of course I've known my Grandsponsor longer than I've known my sponsor. lolEverything is always going to be okay, I just have to beat the hell out of it in my head first. Knowing others that I can practice the theraputic value with will always work in my book. I have 3 sponsee's and 2 of them are getting to become good friends and I encourage it to the fullest. It's a beautiful thing if I can let it work.
Addict named Todd

[jenniferaz1980]

You better call you grandsponsor if you dont want to be squashed. You know I find just calling and being honest work for me. Call you grandsponsor and say hey my sponsor so and so said to give you a call. Then pause and they will more than likly he will pick it up from there.

On a side note. I was so blessed that my sponsor introduced me to my grandsponsor. she is such an incredible women and I am bless to have her in my life today.

[nutz]

yep, getting out of me comfort zone.
that's what we did in our active addiction...as bad as it was, it was still comfortable.
My sponsor always suggested to me...if i ever had a problem,
to always do the hardest thing that's in front of me.
i'm so stupid....i always feel better after i face my fears of meeting peaple.
The worst that a grandsponsor can say is "you suck dude"

good god.....i had to started dating after a 7 years relationship break up.
wellow in my own crap and got comfortable with it.
i was never told to start dating...but he'll laugh at me.
you have enough yet?, you have enough yet?, cuz you're getting any.lol
the worst she can say is "no"

My sponsor had never told me to do anything, becuase i would do the opposite.lol
He just laughs at me and say. "well.....have you suffered enough yet?"

still principle before personalities

[stud0134]

Well you are all right and I will call him So I dont get squashed lol. I just keep telling myself that Ill do it when the time is right,Im just stalling myself.Ive really got a strong program, but I havent completely came out of my shell.

I also just came out of a 8 year relationship,1 year ago And in alot of ways Im still wallowing in that to.at this point I wont let anyone too close to me.Im not haveing feeling toward noone and that sucks can anyone relate to that.becouse I dont understand it I want close friends but I dont want to trust them or get to be close to them either.

I dont know Im doing alot of prayer And Im slowly coming out of my shell.thanks being for here for me guys love ya.