need some juice family

[Gooch]

Leaving for family court in a few minutes on 2 support petitions from the ex.

The first is for an increase.( I'm not working full time or even at a regular job and my income is less than the poverty level).

the 2nd is because I fell 3 weeks behind she filed a violation petition. ( I've since managed to scrape the arreaars together and get caught up.)

The court is 95 miles from here and with the price of gas I tried to get an attorney to handle it through a telephone conference. ( friend's wife works for him and they were gonne let me do some installmenets on the modest fee)

If the administrative judge wasn't such a megolomaniac, loose cannon, I wouldn't even have felt like I needed a lawyer. Well the ex found out I had an attorney and thats when she filed the violation as she must have found out that wit ha violation petition in the works it can't be handled telephonically.

Last year I paid 10 times the standard support because the judge wouldn't even entertain a modification stating that unemployment wasn't a valid reason to modify an order. ( It took them 4 and a half months just to set a court date from the time I applied.. funny when the ex applies for a petition it only takes them 3 weeks to set a date.)

I'm not trying to squelch on paying .. I know it takes $$ to support a child. My ex hasn't held a full time job in 17 years, has played the system, conned family members, and used other men to get by. Yep I am resentful.. I won't deny it. I have paid support for 17 years, and now my daughter has been breainwashed into barely speaking to me let alone comng to visit. I've bought her bikes, clothes, furniture, computers and stereos over the years and it's all wound up at mom's.

I'm tapped out. She'll be 18 years old in a few months.. Time she started earning her way.

Wish me spiritual principles, and an open heart and mind to hear his will for me today.

I'm uncomfortable in court attempting to be assertive. My track record has always been to plead guilty and take my lumps.

Thanks for being here.

[Dan]

My thoughts are with you as always Gooch.
Let that thing inside you, that thing you do that has inexplicably put some light in my path, shine for you today.
(((Gooch)))

[Gabe]

Positive energy and light coming your way (((Gooch))).

[godsonmyside]

Praying for ya here, :cursebunn judges, :cursebunn Family court, But we do get through some how.

[wastedtime4me]

{{{{{{{{{{[gooch}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
sending prayers your way..

[splendra]

(((((GOUCH))))))

You can do this. Stay focused don't let them railroad you!!!

[ted]

(((((((GOOCH))))))
PRAYING FOR YOU BROTHER .....ted

[servicejunkie]

Sending prayers your way!! Look on the bright side, she's almost 18 (no more payments), and she will be an adult very soon and will not be under to manipulation of her mother much longer. Hang in there, and remember the text "We must stand for something or we'll fall for anything"!!

[namommy]

Gooch,

My thoughts and prayers are with you dude. I know how hard it can be to deal with Ex's (I've got a couple of them). Practice that spirituality that you always manage to find when you are helping one of us.

Love ya

Laurie

[ashley80]

I love ya, Gooch. Hope it went well.

Ashley

[sherbear5104]

(((Gooch)))

I hope all went well for you today. The system can really suck sometimes.

Sherry

[godsonmyside]

Coming out to Friday night Taylor Brown mtng? I'm going tonight, Tomorrow I'm speaking at the nooner, hope to see ya.

[Imagine]

Hope everything worked out for you today. Stay strong buddy, and Peace.

[2dayzmuse]

(((Gooch))) :rose

[KelKel]

(((Gooch)))

[cj.]

Hey Gooch:

I prayed for Peace for you today.

cj

[Gooch]

Thanks you guys..

Splendra.. I guess I let them railroad me.. They had guns and handcuffs and couldn't recognize a spiritual principle if it hit them in the head. lol .. Actually all the deputies and bailiffs were polite and considerate.

The judge is a threat to the sanctity of familes.

I got no due process, no representation, and was unlawfully detained. In order to be home tonight my sweety had to bring them $1000 that is not bail but the "undertaking" they asked for in the falsely filed petition of violation in which the ex claimed I was in arrears of $385.00. They also used that petition ( filed the day after my attorney asked to do the telephonic testimony) to deny me electronic testimony to challenge an increase on an order that is completely out of line with their own standards act. I had retained an attorney in this county but he wasn't willing to handle the case so far away from home. The judge wouldn't view the statemenst I have from the state agency that prove there were no arrears and stated that "everything that comes from Albany ( the capitol) is wrong anyway."

In this state support is expected to 21 if the child remains in school .. the ex is trying to sign up my daughter for some online college courses... she's nearly as cunning and baffling as .. well I won't go there ..Anyone who files an order of protection against her own parents to get them off her back after she conned $30 G out of them...citing that they were interfering with the way she was raising her children.

I had a nice lunch of weiners and beans while I sat in an orange jumpsuit in a 7' x 10' steel box. And I remembered what I had asked for in my first post. And laying on the bunk.....in between the cold flame of resentment I could feel the warmth of all your prayers and the incredible strength and courage of knowing that even though I didn't like it, my thoughts, words, and actions were more my higher powers will for me than the fear and loathing of the suffering addict that stumbled into NA with no clue in 1988'.

this battle is far from over... All I have to do is stay connected, and do the next right thing whatever it is as its revealed to me.

Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers. I know they helped me hang in there.

[Gabe]

(((Gooch))) I knew you felt it. I hit you hard with Gabe mojo. That will continue to come your way. The next good thing is also on it's way. Candles lit.

[Dan]

Serenity and peace bro.
Cold flames fizzle themselves out when you have the former in your pocket.
(...)

[ted]

GOOCH,YOUR A STRONG SOUL,YOU'LL BE IN MY PRAYERS BRO.
I GOT A CHILL READING(ORANGE JUMPSUIT,7x10 STEEL BOX).
YOU WILL COME OUT ON TOP!!!...............ted

[godsonmyside]

Love Ya Gooch!!!!!!!!!11

[sherbear5104]

(((Gooch)))

Prayers are continuing to go out for ya.

[namommy]

Gooch,

Stay strong. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I am glad you had a way to get out. "Orange Jumpsuits", I'm gonna have nightmares tonite.

[jazpoppy]

I couldn't not say something to cheer you up. I know what its like to be divorced and played out by an ex. I had put up with many many years of financial hardship (he couldn't keep a job to save his or his own family's life) due to my ex. Now that we are divorced, he wants me to pay for this and pay for that and pay the bills we had together and take his name off the $3000 credit card bill from Sears. Over my cold dead body! So I struggle with a child, moderate income, high bills and debt while he moves in with another woman so she can pay his bills for him. I don't want to deal with family court so I let it go and let god help me to figure things out. Gooch, you sound like a good person, I have read many of your posts, hang in there and things will get better!!!

Luv

Jocelyn

[Shakur T.]

Originally Posted by Gooch

I had a nice lunch of weiners and beans while I sat in an orange jumpsuit in a 7' x 10' steel box. And I remembered what I had asked for in my first post. And laying on the bunk.....in between the cold flame of resentment I could feel the warmth of all your prayers and the incredible strength and courage of knowing that even though I didn't like it, my thoughts, words, and actions were more my higher powers will for me than the fear and loathing of the suffering addict that stumbled into NA with no clue in 1988'.

this battle is far from over... All I have to do is stay connected, and do the next right thing whatever it is as its revealed to me.

Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers. I know they helped me hang in there.

Peace Gooch, Been out of touch for a while. Like you, I have my own drama going on (work stuff). I'm glad to see you maintaining your sanity even when your serenity is disturbed. I was a single parent raising two girls (by two different women) and still had to pay arrears, even though my kids were living with me. Your ex sounds a lot like my ex's...manipulative, system-workers. I just pray that YOU will not be pulled into any thing that you can't get out of, and that your daughter will eventually see that she has a heck of a good man for a father...Much love and respect to you brother. If there is anything I can do, please let me know.

BTW-(Like namommy) Orange jumpsuits, beans & franks, count time, co's, the courtesy flush...all too familair.
{{{shudders as he backs away from the keyboard}}}