Consequence for everything you do

[Made a Mistake]

I made a mistake months ago and I was continuing to make those mistakes. For years they came to me. then I tried my Own supply. No one has ever seen me use, I guess I'm the closet user. But what I would do is tell my wife and kids I would be back in a bit , with every good intentions of doing so, but I would stay gone for a couple of days. I've been using now since february 04. Istopped for a couple of months but, a few months ago they called me for the hook up and I made the connection call, and I made the same mistake again. But this past weekend I made the decision that I cannot do this on my own anymore. My wife is very frustrated with me and my kids don't know what's wrong with Daddy, which is one of the reasons I stay away until I sorta come down. So I called family members, who kinda suspected that I was using, and with their support and my Wifee, I will get through this, But I'm embaressed, and really don't want outsiders i.e. work, friends, and the one I use to supply. I made the first step I think, now where do I go for help???

[splendra]

(((((MAM)))))))

Welcome to Sober Recovery!!! I am a recovering addict/alcoholic. I am glad you have decided to get clean......It is one day at a time around here that we stay clean. It is good that you have come here because people will be honest with you.

I want to encourage you to try some NA meetings. If you hang with the winners it will really help, Also your wife and kids probably need naranon to help them get thru the changes too.

We recover when we get our stuff out in the open and ask for help from another addict who is also recoverring. You don't have to tell everybody you know about your problem but, you might be surprized to find that you haven't kept your seceret all that well. People who don't use notice changes in in people who have a drug or alcohol problem. I guess it is our denial working when we think nobody notices.

Being honest with people is hard for us addicts and that is one of the reasons we get in trouble. You may not have gotten in trouble with the law but dope makes you lie to to people that you love and who depend on you. Kids know when things aren't right. don't kid yourself.....

Best wishes

[best]

Welcome
So glad you stopped in.


First step is realized that there is a problem.

Know that there is support and help at your fingertips.

You are not alone and don't need deal with this alone.
Look in your yellowpages for a NA meeting in your area.
Embarassed? Well as you said... people who "kinda suspected "
Pretty much we are the only ones who deny the problem till we are ready to deal with it. What you will find at a NA meeting are people who have been there, done that, and know the answers to help you stop and stay clean. No embarassment or judgeing will come from them. Just support and answers.

You have a issue that you want to take care of.
It is something you can deal with.
There are answers
There is support and help.
People do stop and get clean every day.
You can as well and through NA you can gather the tools that will help you stay that way.

[louisedx]

Dear Consequence;
so glad you made the difficult step of reaching out for help. I wished my significant other had the gust instead of pretending to get help over three years ago. Loved ones go through so much and the addict does not seem to see. Stay encouraged and get all the help you need by finding your higher power, attending meeting, getting counsel, reading about your addiction, and go to a successful treatment facility with your support group and easy does it. No one person or program can answer or cure any addicts problems. Even the co-dependents have to work a program and deal with the after affects that the addictions has caused for life. But the great thing is, there is hope, and you still have a chance to live happy with your family.
Keep coming back and best wishes in working your recovery.
LAdy L.

[ssindi]

Welcome, your in the right place, there are lots of loving, caring people here. Have you thought of any meetings?

[Imagine]

Welcome to Sober Recovery, this is a great place for support. However; finding yourself a good meeting and doing a meeting a day and start working on finding your sponsor so you can start your steps is a must. NA is real easy to find if you look for us. My paryers are with you and your family, and keep coming back.............Peace, from this addict name Jerome.

[Made a Mistake]

Cool, thanks for the encouragement. I'll continue to come back and ask questions. Right now, I am looking for a clean facility to become totally involved with. Once again, THANK You VERY Much.

[Made a Mistake]

Cool, thanks for the encouragement. I'll continue to come back and ask questions. Right now, I am looking for a clean facility to become totally involved with. Once again, THANK You VERY Much.

[barbiebyanyothe]

The hardest thing you do is admit defeat. Give up and go from there. People will not understand, but understanding is out there. I realized that when I joined this group.
You don't want to lose your kids, think of them and use that to help you. You are the only thing they have. Please, don't let them down. They will be users too...

[Gooch]

rehab and outpatient recovery gave me a good education and some insight into my use.

Narcotics Anonymous meetings were and are the most significant impact into keeping me clean.

[gr8fulhank]

Dear Made a Mistake -- please go to some NA meetings. And, having visited your beautiful city (we hope to move there someday, maybe see you in the rooms) I know there are plenty of meetings all over -- PB, North County, El Cajon, Hillcrest, etc...
IMHO, nothing works for drug addicts except this beautiful simple (NOT easy !) program we have. Please do yourself a favor and check out a local meeting....

[Moontime]

You made the first step, if you want recovery you'll do what we did. 90 meetings in 90 days is no joke, our predecesors did it before us and it worked. Sponsor, the two most important things we do in NA is put down the drugs, and get a sponsor. The rest will take care of itself.
I agree with Gooch, rehab cost me a few thousand dollars for me to realize NA was free. NA is the life saving program where you can go to everyday. It's free too :-)