Need Women Support

[Lang79]

I've been looking over this website all day, I finally got the courge to ask for women support. I've been clean for 5 days now, and really trying to work on a new way of life. I could really use some suggestions on higher power and learning to be okay with being myself. Also dealing with guilt and shame.

[Gooch]

Welcome Lang!


Congrats on 5 days!

the greatest ammend we can make is just staying clean. That helps us stop doing things to ourselves and others that we might feel ashamed of or guilty for.

We didin't get addicted in one day so remember easy does it.. just keep doing it!

I'm sure the ladies will be along shortly .

[lulu70]

Hello, Lang--Welcome. I am Laura and I am a recovering alkie/pothead with a precious 6+ months of sobriety. Congratulations on 5 days! One day at a time, hon'. I would be happy to chat with you--send me a PM if you would like, or just reply here.

I haven't come to this forum before now--don't know why--I actually consider alcohol to be my main choice of poison, but pot was a big thing for me too. I smoked everyday for about 15 years!!! (maybe I'm still in denial??!!) Anyway, glad to be here and glad to meet you!

Hugs--

[charliebrown]

At first my higher power was the meetings/the messages i got there about how to do this thing called recovery, the caring addicts who shared their experience, strenth, and hope with me. i attended 2 meetings a day most days, in the beginning. a suggestion i got was 90 meetings in 90 days. i got a sponsor and took the suggestions she gave me. i got the na workbook and started working the steps with her. i called her every day, at least once. i lived and breathed recovery and it became my life, first above everything else. that's the way it had to be for me at that time. i was in a lot of emotional pain from the consequences of my active addiction, lost my home, my husband, my career, my car, my credit, my income, etc... But you know on this side of it all, i'm grateful for these losses because i have been forced to develop a CLOSE relationship with my Higher Power who i call H.P. He/she/it is a reality in my life today beyond the meetings and the group, altho they are still a vital part of this whole thing as he speaks to me thru them, and that's where i get my answers. So! I hope this helps!

[lonlion]

Congratulations of your 5 days! If you would like to email me, please feel free.
Keep coming back

[BrownEyes]

Originally Posted by Lang79

I've been looking over this website all day, I finally got the courge to ask for women support. I've been clean for 5 days now, and really trying to work on a new way of life. I could really use some suggestions on higher power and learning to be okay with being myself. Also dealing with guilt and shame.

Higher power? For me that is God. It helps me to give things to him when I feel out of control. For instance drugs are out of control and I had to quit. I had to give them to him. Believe it or not he took them from me. You have to love yourself and relieze he loves you too. Guilt and shame are normal feelings. I had a sponser tell me one time, "guilt is self assumed". I think if you asked your higher power to forgive you, you will find that it will be easier for you to forgive yourself. The longer you have in your sobriety the more you will be feel okay with yourself. Best of luck to you. Hang in there!

[Lang79]

Thanks for all the great suggestions, I'm really starting to talk more to my Higher Power who I call God. Believe it or not I'm feeling like a weight has been lifted off my chest. It's been 7 days now and the kob webs are clearing, lifes good today
Monica

[Dawn10]

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Lang79
Congratulations on 7 days. That is awesome and you can do it. Keep looking to your HP, God and He will help keep you clean. There is no magic, you still have to do the work and the steps, but I can assure you all the hard work you put into recovery will come back to you ten fold.
I am a recovering addict with 6 years of sobriety and it has been the best 6 years of my life. I do not take one day for granted for I know I have this disease that is so insidious that it could once again overtake me. I pray that you can stay strong and keep posting here. We are here for you!

[tammera]

<hugs>
Grats on your 8 days now right!!?
hmmm women support ...what do I know about that?..oh yeah Get a sponsor!!

[Cangel]

Congratulations!

[cj.]

My name is cj and I am a recovering addict who knows all too well the problems women face coming into recovery. Most of us come guilt ridden and shame based - feeling that we are failures. We may have failed at many things in our life, (hence the feelings of guilt) but we are not failures (shame). The simple fact that you are clean for today is a miracle and proves to me that you want to change the way you have been living.
Our Disease will tell us that we are not good enough or we are not smart enough or we are not strong enough to make it through the day without using, but remember: The disease will lie to you until you use again or until you change the lies into truth.
And the truth is: You are good enough and you are smart enough and you are strong enough. And if you don't believe these things about yourself yet, all you need to do is believe that we believe.

My thoughts are with you today and I hope to hear more from you. Don't give up your right to be free and no matter what happens, if you don't pick up the first drug you can't get high!

cj